Grudges you continue to hold

[OneFrenchEgg]

Just drive a different way home, past a car wash and remembered how I refuse to use it on principle 😂
Years ago, I was in a hurry and no one in front - as I drove in, and was being 'washed' by one of the chaps, the one in charge allowed someone to jump the queue as they were 'in a hurry' and 'just wanted a spritz' - nope, they reversed all the way back, had everything, and I sat fuming at the the queue jumpy enablement.
Refuse to go back, I'm sure they are disappointed 😂

FrenchEgg - love this thread! So cathartic. Personally, I think forgiveness is overrated and I don't trust people who don't hold a good grudge.

Like a pp, I refuse to use a particular supermarket because it was built after a long planning battle on a nice bit of parkland in my local town. In my mind, that bit of green space with its lovely trees will always exist....

A work colleague many years ago got literally 'swept' out of a jewellers' shop because they thought she was 'lowlife'. She was one of the mythical MN extremely scruffy posh people and usually looked as though she'd slept under a hedge in a horrible old wax jacket and ratty hair. She went into the local jewellers (not a great place - but very pretentious) to look for a present for her mother, and was prepared to spend several hundred pounds. But when she asked to see something, the assistant ignored her request, came out from behind the counter, got a broom and ostentatiously swept the floor to send her on her way. They lost a good sale that day! She was a very shy, unassertive person so they got away without a bollocking, though. Needless to say, we all shared her grudge against the shop.

Many others - and particularly against anyone who was mean and snobbish to my family over the years. Needless to say, this kind of behaviour tends to come from people who you wouldn't respect and who are completely ignorant and deluded in their snobbery.

I always thought that was just for prescription meds?

“I bear more grudges than lonely high court judges” reminds me of the song…

A previous next door neighbour who asked us to water her plants each time she was away with our water (she was on a meter, we weren't) and then complained we hadn't done it correctly. I had 3 young children and so used a sprinkler rather than a watering can. No thanks, just preferred if you used a watering can, treated us worse than the hired help but we did it to help out.

She died a few years ago, left millions, several properties, yet pleaded poverty to all around and I didn't realise but different neighbours did her shopping, Helped the Aged her garden, local volunteers other running around yet she could easily afford to pay for it all. Her extended family swarmed when she died and inherited an absolute fortune. Never visited when she was alive, she wasn't nice to anyone. Found out she had made several complaints to planning about us for things like our shed being too close to her fence (was there when we moved in). Reversing our car down our drive and sending exhaust fumes into her garden. Other very strange things too.

Oops, mine is odd since I hold a grudge for a dead person who wasn't nice and took took took.

Another tonsillectomy one here - bitch ward sister told my mum that parents couldn’t visit the day after the op. All the other parents ignored this crap but my mum was so law-abiding and stayed away. I cried ALL day, all the other parents had to console me! Both mum and I were scarred for life. And we’ve never been keen on nurses…

Years ago when I was buying a pushchair for DC1, a small local shop happened to be one of the official stockists (at the time it wasn't a very well known brand so stockists were fairly limited) so I thought great, I'll buy it from them and support a small independent business. I'd only seen the pushchair online so wanted to check things like ease of folding, handlebar height adjustibility, weight etc. Went to the shop and they did indeed have the pushchair but they refused to let me go near it or touch it unless I paid in full for it there and then. They said they had people coming in and taking up loads of staff time looking at the items and asking about them before leaving and buying more cheaply online. They wouldn't budge despite me saying it was an expensive purchase and I was reluctant to buy without being able to at least wheel it up and down a bit in the shop. In the end I walked out and bought one elsewhere. Never went back.

Now why do I think this was Bernie's in Edgware....? 😁

Some of these are so funny!
I don't have any grudges but I'm determined to go out and get myself one today.

Oh I have a list of people I'd murder horribly if I could get away with it.

My youngest DC went to a new school aged 8 when we moved.
For some reason horrible mother took a dislike to me and in the playground would work really hard to alienate me from other Mums, carefully blocking my way, or turning her back on me. Or not involving me. She made it really difficult for me at this new school. It caused me sleepless nights as I had no idea why.

Fast forward many years and she rented a house in our road of 12 houses. Ha! At that point I was the one organising street parties, Christmas meals, all sorts, we were a sociable bunch. She HAD to be nice to me to be part of the small community in our village. And I was icily polite to her whilst saying...
"Isn't it funny we had children in the same class at primary school?" with a tinkly laugh. I kept saying it. Her face was always pained. She knew.

She moved and I still see her in passing and mutter cow under my breath

I’m so petty, if I let someone out of a driveway on a road and they don’t say thank you I never let anyone else out on that road. I’m dreadful but I don’t care!

Lol 🤣

Thatcher, for selling council homes.

I have an extremely petty one!

I was travelling alone to Dubai via Virgin Airlines, and I am one of those weird people who loves airplane food (as long as it's ok tasty).

So after dinner the air steward comes round with a trolley and hands out a Gu dessert to everyone. I'm just sitting there waiting for mine, but SHE MISSES ME OUT.

And like an idiot, I said nothing. WHY?

And WHY do I still bear a grudge? The supermarket is full of Gu desserts!!

A wanker who gave me a black eye 40 years ago. I still hope the cunt will suffer

Classy.

A neighbour. A parcel from Next went missing, and they traced it and sent a photo of a neighbours front door step. I went round to ask if she’d seen it, and she said no, but was wearing the quite distinctive item. I know it’s Next, and millions of people shop there, but it’s quite a coincidence right?

I wasn’t mad on her before, but can’t stand her now. I’ve got an evil plan though

A woman who lives around the corner from me. Her house is on a main road and gated and she reverses onto her driveway. Once I was a couple of cars behind as we waited for her (which seemed like ages!) to do this manoeuvre (plus the electronic gates took an age to open!). She didn’t even gesture to say thanks for waiting. It just really got my back up and I’ll never forgive her for it 🤣 When I’m with my DH and we drive past I call her ignorant gated woman and he looks at me like “what are you on about.” I realise that my reaction is completely disproportionate 😆

My English teacher hated me (tbf I was chatty and probably a pita) but first she told me a piece I had written just wasn't mature enough to warrant the top grade. Jokes on her as that piece then won a short story competition. But the true grudge comes from the following year... I was quite poor at reading comprehension. I still don't really get the hidden meanings etc. So in a mock I got about 4/30. The teacher photocopied it WITH MY NAME AT THE TOP. And handed it round the class as a sort of "what not to do". Utterly humiliating for a 16 year old. So Mrs Wilson, if you're reading this, how do you like it?!

two words: French apples.

@Ladysaurus
I'm not a fan of Macmillan either. The female that came when my DH was in his final months was strangely antagonistic and unempathetic. I used to hold coffee mornings for them, at work ffs!

I blame her for everything still. Bad weather. Bad hair. A disappointing meal. A too-long queue. Yep, her fault. There is no end to my grudge against that woman.

That’s not what the law says. They can’t dispense without a pharmacist. If the shop insists on nothing OTC being sold (dangerous products like lipgloss and hairbrushes for example) that’s on them.

Another tonsillectomy story

sick Kids, Edinburgh, Easter. 1969

nurse humiliated little boy who had wet the bed by making him stand on the bed while she stripped him naked, all the time berating him loudly. No curtains. We were all terrified she’d do the same to us.

another nurse took away my cuddly toy and told me I was too old. I was 6.

finally, was bleeding after the op and my pillow had big blood stains on it. they didn’t even bother to turn it over. Mum gave them a rocket when she arrived.

they were such total bitches to wee kids.