Page 8 | Grudges you continue to hold

OneFrenchEgg · 2023-04-17T17:54:36+00:00

Just drive a different way home, past a car wash and remembered how I refuse to use it on principle 😂 *Years* ago, I was in a hurry and no one in front - as I drove in, and was being 'washed' by one of the chaps, the one in charge allowed someone to jump the queue as they were 'in a hurry' and 'just wanted a spritz' - nope, they reversed all the way back, had everything, and I sat fuming at the the queue jumpy enablement. Refuse to go back, I'm sure they are disappointed 😂

Allblackeverythingalways · 18/04/2023 07:48

Itsallaloadofbollocks · 17/04/2023 20:53

There are many. I am a bitter and vengeful person😃
Evil manager. My 5 hour exit interview resulted in his suspension and subsequent sacking. Still hate him and haven't forgiven him even though his career is now over.

That's the stuff of dreams right there 😍

IJustHadToLookHavingReadTheBook · 18/04/2023 07:50

My husband's best friend's sister had a husband. He was horrible. He cheated on her when they had a newborn, with a colleague at his work. He was working as an accountant for a local law firm with a few branches. Whenever we pass a branch of said law firm we mutter "fuck you, John*!"

The woman in question only found out how much hate we reserve for this brand of law firm recently (the cheating happened over a decade ago). It made her laugh, but then she said she was very touched 😂

*Not the scumbags real name.

Bowbowbo · 18/04/2023 07:52

The porter who refused to wheel my mother to her physio appointment because she was a private patient, when she was two weeks post-op for an aneurysm and utterly helpless - her taxi driver carried her instead 💕. ‘King’ Charles for the way he treated Diana. I will never forgive either

Newnamefor23 · 18/04/2023 07:54

Kissedbyfire1 · 17/04/2023 21:52

Kwik-Fit. Took my car there years ago for MOT. Passed, but there were a couple of jobs that it needed (not MOT-related). Chap refused to let me take the car unless I had the work done, by them, that day. I was beside myself. He tried to say that he couldn’t let me take the car as it was dangerous (passed the MOT and work was largely cosmetic) and he wanted to discuss it with my husband . DH phoned them and said he was coming to get the car. End of discussion. I will never ever use them again and badmouth them at every opportunity.

Finding jobs that ‘need’ doing - its a Kwik Fit thing.

I don’t use mine after I took it in for a tyre and they found all sorts of things to do - a lot of talk about safety this, safety that.

From my work I knew this was bollocks - but others may have been taken in.

Other tyre fitters are available.

user1471548941 · 18/04/2023 07:55

I refuse to run down the street of our vendors new house, for the house we live in now!

They “forgot” that they had a 3 week trip to Disneyland booked, despite the whole chain having already agreed the completion date. My DH had scheduled business trips around the originally proposed date. They offered 0 flexibility to help us rearrange all this and the whole chain nearly collapsed as everyone had made plans around the specific date agreed…. Who “forgets” they are going to Florida for 3 weeks until 5 days before?

Gasp0deTheW0nderD0g · 18/04/2023 07:59

Cocolapew · 17/04/2023 22:31

1977, I was in hospital in Germany. We were Army and the hospital was a good bit away from where we lived, so I didn't get a visit every day.
My mum brought me chocolate fingers and asked if I liked them, this was a mega treat for me. I didn't ever see the box but saw chocolate fingers sticking out the top pocket of a nurse.
I get the rage every time I see the stupid biscuits now.

What a great thread. One of my (many, many) grudges is similar to the above. 1967, I was six years old and spent several days in hospital having my tonsils removed and recovering. That's probably day surgery now, on the rare occasions it's done at all, but it was an inpatient job then, general anaesthetic, visits from parents strictly limited, and the hospital was such a long way from home that visits weren't easy anyway. We were served a three course lunch. I was a good eater and I had been trained that I must always clear my plate. It was a slow business swallowing after the operation but I dutifully set to work. Pea soup, mince and tatties, ice cream was the menu. I was looking forward to the ice cream but by the time I was finally ready for it the nurses had cleared it all away. I was too slow, apparently.

To add insult to injury, my Granny came to visit me and brought a box of sweets. The nurses swept in and took them, explaining that it was policy to share all sweets out between all the children. Fair enough - but I never saw those sweets again. Am I bitter, 56 years on? You bet!

mainsfed · 18/04/2023 07:59

IfIGoThereWillBeTrouble · 17/04/2023 22:27

I’m another one who boycotts shops to “punish” them for bad service. A particular Sainsburys store managed to get itself “un-boycotted” after a couple of years, but WH Smith is still on the no-go list.

I was very late to FB, only joined last year. Received various friend requests from people I had been at school with, felt obliged to accept. When one particular woman’s posts appear I hiss at the screen and growl that I still haven’t forgotten that she tried to take credit for a piece of work I did at middle school…..over 30 years ago😁

What happened? Did she succeed? 😮

Verysadatwork · 18/04/2023 08:03

:)

ThePoetsWife · 18/04/2023 08:03

Cuppa2sugars · 18/04/2023 06:51

Mil for sitting at the end of the bed watching whilst I gave birth. My husband was beside me trying to keep me calm, doing a perfectly good job without her.
I will NEVER forgive her for that. Giving birth is meant to be a special time with just the parents. When I told him I wasn’t happy he said he wanted her there !!!! Bloody spineless wet drip 😡

WtF

Did you tell the midwife to boot her out??

Im99912 · 18/04/2023 08:03

Absolutely vile vile neighbors

one died recently of heart attack in his garden & one got evicted and a restraining order & can’t come within100 meter of our street .Both within 2 weeks of each other

I happily think fuck you - you pricks I’m still here and well you aren’t 😂 I still hold a grudge against them both even though one is dead and the other one might as well be for his bad it ended for him

mainsfed · 18/04/2023 08:06

OneFrenchEgg · 18/04/2023 07:44

This is very cathartic . Sorry to the posters who have genuinely tragic or distressing events still haunting them.
Mine are more petty. The corner shop talk reminds me why i insist on driving to the local Tesco rather than nipping a few doors up. About ten years ago, I paid with a note, the woman engaged me deliberately distracted me in chat and didn't give me any change. Then they refused to admit it and left me without the change. Apparently the till added up at the end of the day and the manager offered me credit which I refused. Obviously.
Also - pizza place. Long queue and we were waiting for ages (front). I asked when they would open the top and they said not for ages so we ordered from the takeaway section. As we ordered they opened the upstairs. The manager refused to let us change to eat in. Outside the food hall was rammed and you had to queue again (Covid times) for a table so the pizza was cold by the time we sat down. They offered credit as a result of my complaint and I wrote back and said that would be hypocritical of me and I would never eat there ever again. The teens, disloyal arseholes, refuse to back me on this and sneak off there when they can.

I think you should have taken the credit on both occasions.

There's holding a grudge and then there's cutting off your noise to spite your face!

You can boycott them after you've used the credit

PretzelKnot · 18/04/2023 08:10

I think I’m the only child in history to get corporal punishment at school for reading. Hauled up in front of the class in grade 3 and whacked across the knuckles with a wooden ruler. We had been told to read to the end of the chapter in our reader. I was a fast reader and read a few extra pages. Mrs S, Hambledon State School, 1985. You are dead now but I’ll see you in the afterlife.

Verysadatwork · 18/04/2023 08:13

:)
top thread :)

Wishihadanalgorithm · 18/04/2023 08:18

I have a few grudges towards people who have ‘wronged me’ professionally.

Most of the time it doesn’t cross my mind but occasionally something triggers me and I find myself wishing everything from the worst things on them (illnesses and desperate times) to mild irritations such as a little embarrassment.

Ratonastick · 18/04/2023 08:18

My former boss. Daughter of the founder and couldn’t find her arse with both hands. She drove out anyone and everyone who disagreed with or disobeyed her (yes, disobeyed. She was not a natural consensus builder!). The company failed under her leadership and now she is reduced to hawking herself around as some sort of business guru on LinkedIn. With extremely limited success.

lionsleepstonight · 18/04/2023 08:18

Nowaysunshine · 17/04/2023 21:24

Here's a corker for you - I have had a long held grudge against Lulu for marrying 'my' Bee Gee and then they bloody divorced. Totally illogical but I was quite young and still can't abide her - funnily enough my kids aren't keen on her either - some sort of projection involved obviously - oh dear. When he died my mother rang as soon as she heard and said 'your bee gees died' 😆

Haaaaaaa!

True love never dies.

thebabessavedme · 18/04/2023 08:19

@Gasp0deTheW0nderD0g I must be the same age as you, I was 5 and in hospital for week when I had my tonsils out, my mum bought me some grapes which were a real treat, I suppose they must have been expensive at that time, I still remember the nurse, who plainly hated children, taking my grapes, I never saw one of them!, nor did any of the other kids. This nurse was huge, ugly and wore very thick pebble glasses, I was too scared of her to tell my mummy that she took my grapes until we got home, even my mum in her 80s still bears a grudge as do I.

cafenoirbiscuit · 18/04/2023 08:19

My old boss who treated me very badly, and very differently to the rest of the team. Not allowed to work from home when my kids were off school ill and DH was working abroad, made to hot-desk when there were no spare desks so I had nowhere to sit, given work everyone else had refused as it was outside of the team’s remit.

Yes. I worked in childrens social care.
she eventually tripped herself up and quit before she was pushed, for not turning up to a child protection conference she was chairing.
everyone else had 😞 faces. I sent about 100 😁😁😁😁😁😁😁😁😁😁😁😁 emojis to my DH.
fucking cow.

Original poster

OneFrenchEgg · 18/04/2023 08:20

*I think you should have taken the credit on both occasions.

There's holding a grudge and then there's cutting off your noise to spite your face!

You can boycott them after you've used the credit*

I know I know but that's a proper grudge holding - more detrimental to me 😂

OP posts:

mainsfed · 18/04/2023 08:21

OneFrenchEgg · 18/04/2023 08:20

*I think you should have taken the credit on both occasions.

There's holding a grudge and then there's cutting off your noise to spite your face!

You can boycott them after you've used the credit*

I know I know but that's a proper grudge holding - more detrimental to me 😂

I suppose it is fun to throw it their face for maximum grudge holding!

Ourladycheesusedatum · 18/04/2023 08:22

A local takeaway, about 11 years ago.
For some reason I was late home, everyone had eaten so I figure I'll get myself a takeaway.
Walk in to the nearest one to my house, never used it before. It's full, theres no way for me to get to the front to order and pay. I try to make myself heard, I wave money in the air. Am ignored. Wait til some people have left, then this is the infuriating bit, I'm now close to the counter, more people come in and they are served before me.
The place is still going without my custom. I've heard it's really good food. But as I walked out that time and never been back I will never know how good.

Ratonastick · 18/04/2023 08:23

Ratonastick · 18/04/2023 08:18

My former boss. Daughter of the founder and couldn’t find her arse with both hands. She drove out anyone and everyone who disagreed with or disobeyed her (yes, disobeyed. She was not a natural consensus builder!). The company failed under her leadership and now she is reduced to hawking herself around as some sort of business guru on LinkedIn. With extremely limited success.

i didn’t finish. I specifically refuse to follow her on LinkedIn but we have some many connections in common that I see most of her feed. And I enjoy it very, very much, especially when she is speaking to some scrappy little nothing brand about diddlyfuck. Bit if a comedown there!

WeRateSquirrels · 18/04/2023 08:24

2004, I'm 7 months pregnant with DS and at a fancy work party for an event at DH's company. I'm holding his glass of champagne so he can consult the seating plan and see who is on the table we're going to be hosting. A woman walks out of the adjacent loos and tuts loudly in our general direction. My pregnancy addled brain does not realise she's tutting at me holding a glass of alcohol until much later.

Still seething 😤

JustDanceAddict · 18/04/2023 08:24

An ex-manager who didn’t ‘believe me’ when I fell ill at work - a colleague went to tell her I had to go home and she insisted on coming to see for herself (not in a nice way, in a ‘prove it’ way). Then after I left (partly to do with her), she became ill in a similar fashion which gave me great schadenfreude! Btw, While the illness is annoying it’s not fatal or anything like that, I’m not that mean.

Rinkydinkydoodle · 18/04/2023 08:25

I try to be forgiving (for me as much as them) but I had a boss whose deranged behaviour almost ended my career - for years afterwards I had an irrational stress/anger response to any sighting of their particular colour and model of (very common) car 🤪