Grudges you continue to hold

[OneFrenchEgg]

Just drive a different way home, past a car wash and remembered how I refuse to use it on principle 😂
Years ago, I was in a hurry and no one in front - as I drove in, and was being 'washed' by one of the chaps, the one in charge allowed someone to jump the queue as they were 'in a hurry' and 'just wanted a spritz' - nope, they reversed all the way back, had everything, and I sat fuming at the the queue jumpy enablement.
Refuse to go back, I'm sure they are disappointed 😂

I'm less possessed by grudges, through the grace of God.

But my form tutor at secondary school used to laugh along with the bullies.

That wasn't nice.

A lot of my EMDR was for bullying- people who haven't been bullied don't necessarily realize the severity of its effects.

Me too. Won’t but anything they touch.
or Next.
or Patisserie Valerie.
or Tate and Lyle.

I have two...

My Mother

You chose your boyfriend over myself and my brother when we were children. Because of that we had to grow up in care. I still have nightmares and I've recently been diagnosed with PTSD because of some of the awful things I experienced during that time. It's no good getting in contact with relatives now asking to see us. You made your choice back then and you can't have us back because it didn't work out and that bastard eventually left you.
Today you have two fantastic Children (despite the living hell you let your boyfriend put us through) and three wonderful Grandchildren that you'll never get to meet. It's your loss and I'll never forgive you

My ex manager

I was really struggling with my mental health during COVID. I helped you out regularly with covering various overtime shifts (most at short notice) and sickness during the first lockdown. Despite how much I was struggling myself.

Something awful happened in my life soon after that. It meant I had to move out of my property temporarily. My temporary accommodation was several miles away and it was not safe/possible to walk. I had no car so I asked you if I could swap to day shifts (so I could get the bus) until I was able to move back home. You said no despite my circumstances. So I had to pay for taxi's (at my own expense) every evening for the next few weeks.

You were also a horrible person with no empathy or people skills. I wasn't sorry when you were quietly demoted and moved to another part of the company soon after..

I am so, so sorry. I began to get tardive dyskinesia but was takn off the drug before it becam;e permanent. i curse your so called doctor and wish you well.

Someone upthread mentioned a grudge against New York because of having a shit time with a boyfriend there. I have an even more unreasonable grudge against Berlin because I went for a romantic weekend there with a man and he broke up with me in the street (on Unter den Linden in fact). Never went back and presumably never will.

My mother still has the article. And no David, I have never forgiven you you...pusher inner. 😂

Also I'm fully on board with any cheese-based grudges. Well done @Whyishewearingasombero

When I started reading this I didn’t think I had any but as the days have gone on, more and more have come to me.

My son’s teacher. He was five. Newly diagnosed autistic and just the sweetest, quirkiest most affectionate boy ever. She bullied him relentlessly that year. Kept telling him he wasn’t autistic, he was just naughty and mummy was looking for excuses. Told him it didn’t matter how hard he worked he would never grow up to be anything more than average at best and that if his behaviour carried on (the ‘behaviour’ in question was him struggling to complete his work) he would be taken away from his parents and put in the naughty boys’ home. He’s in his teens now, was diagnosed with PTSD several years ago and has had severe anger issues and behavioural issues ever since. She took my wee boy away from me and I’ll never forgive her for that! (Obviously I still adore him just the way she is but he has suffered so much because of that cow).

My step mother for the way she abused my dad. Verbally, physically, you name it. He was a strong and proud man and refused to say anything about it. It got worse when he was dying from cancer, she used to leave him in his own faeces rather than help him to the toilet, she was being paid to care for him but left him on his own all day only for him to fall several times and end up on the floor for hours. She deliberately delayed telling me he’d been moved to a hospice until it was too late for me to get there to say goodbye. Me and my dad were very close and she resented the hell out of me for it.

Lastly the woman I always thought was my best friend. We were like sisters growing up, I adored her and thought it was mutual. We both moved away after uni but kept in touch and met up whenever we could. Didn’t feel like we’d lost any of that closeness. And then when she got married she asked every single one of our friendship group to be a bridesmaid except me. She specifically told me she was only having a flower girl - a friend of the family - as it was a small wedding. I found out from Facebook that she’d asked the others when they started posting about how excited/honoured they were.

There are numerous silly, smaller ones. Like there’s a mum who never lets any other car pull out when we’re trying to get out of the car park, so I never let her out either.

I once unwrapped a walnut whip, mouth watering, just about to snaffle it and I dropped it on the floor. Gave me the right hump, makes no sense but I refuse to eat them now!! 😀

When I was in

When I was 8 I was in hospital. My neighbours had a child my age and they very kindly came to visit. They'd brought a chocolate milkshake for me and I was thrilled! My mum never let me have milkshakes! They were all, "Harriet, give Coffeetree her treat, aw isn't that lovely!"

I started to drink it (it was in an opaque plastic cup) and it was water! I looked at Harriet, who looked guilty, and I realised she'd drunk it herself and filled the cup back up with water!

I was too weak and confused to say anything so just drank the tap water while everyone chatted. I never played with her after that.

WTF Harriet!

@Coffeetree OMG what a b*tch!
Reminds me of a childhood grudge I still hold. I was very proud of my ballerina Sindy doll who had little plastic ballet shoes with crisscross straps that wrapped around her ankles. They were tricky to do and undo but I loved dressing her up in them. One day a girl from school came to play and pulled all four straps off, showed me the broken shoes and said in a very satisfied voice "I've taken these off for you." I was speechless.

My ex employers (unlawful dismissal) have an advertising plaque on one of the islands/roundabouts in town, I still stick my finger up every time I pass it!! Also about 20 years ago we got a parking ticket in a car park in a near by town, I wrote and contested it and won. But I wrote in the letter that I would never step foot in their town again and I haven’t!

God it's like Barbie meets Black Swan. 😆

I'm not mad at little Harriet. I can just imagine her parents giving her a frosty milkshake on a hot day saying, "Now you hold that carefully till we get to the hospital". And she thought, "I'll just have a little sip".

When I was a tiny girl, I had to have some innoculation or other, by injection. I'd brought a doll with me & the nurse asked me about the doll & when I answered she stuck the needle in my arm! I was upset, not because of the needle but because I'd thought she was genuinely interested in my doll & we were going to have a nice conversation about it. She cheated! She lied! She only pretended to be interested in me!

The deception still hurts. Damn you, needle nurse!

@YesitsBess - was your Lollipop lady a vampire?
"our Lollipop lady retired after 175 years service at our primary school"

Seriously I'd have been fuming with David too!

Harriet and the milkshake 😵😂

Won't buy any of the birthday cakes all the supermarkets sell. I know a few bastards who work in a big company that makes them. Fucking disgusting place.

Lol so funny some of these . I have a grudge against Chanel 4 - E 4 with their constant adverts so I minimize the screen and volume on my phone so I don’t have to consume the adverts or I use the advert time to go to the loo - housework etc to avoid lol feel smug ha Chanel 4 I will not consume your adverts

There’s a big cake factory near me and a few people (including employees) have warned me not to eat anything that comes out of there.

It makes me smile when MNetters say they won’t touch other people’s homemade cakes for hygiene reasons, and that they only eat shop-bought ones.

I would have still eaten it

Unless it had been dropped in a steaming pile of dog excrement 😉😉

Its a vague memory but when I was a kid, about 5, I had a pet caterpillar in a match box and I would let him out to crawl around the garden. One day was playing with him on a blanket on the lawn when a neighbour came round to see my mom.

Seeing my caterpillar crawling across the blanket I had put down, she let out a cry of disgust and stamped on it, splattering it like a pancake

My mom said, I stood there in shock for a few moments, while she turned completely unconcerned to resume her conversation and I grew visbly redder and redder and angrier and angrier. My little hands bunched into fists and I explosed, screaming "you horrible old woman" at her and tried to attack her, only held off by my moms swift intervention. I ran sobbing inconsolably into the house while the neighbour tutted about how disrespectful and rude I was

Her name was Evelene and I have never forgiven her, She was indeed a horrible old woman

When ds was about 18 months I used to take him to baby swimming classes. They finished at noon, so by the time I’d got both him and me dry and dressed he was always having a screaming meltdown due to hunger and tiredness. One day as I was carrying my windmilling toddler out to the car, I grinned at and commented to another mum who was walking next to me something along the lines of “Don’t you just love the tantrums?!”

She stared at me, and then replied that hers had never tantrummed. “We negotiate with our children, Venus” she said, and then started wittering about some bollocks German parenting technique that I really should try.

I have never forgiven her for that smug failure at mum solidarity a decade ago. I still see her once in a while as she’s a leader at an activity my dc do, and in my head I’m always shouting “Fuck OFF with your German negotiating, Fuck OFF!”

I think bullies deserve the full grudge vibes. I have a NC sister who contributed to my stalkers campaign. Her DIL went to dinner with him after he was interviewed under caution. She holds the grudge because I called her out on it. Sibling funeral this week and she totally ignored me. I see you Louise (another one!) and raise you the finger.