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Grudges you continue to hold

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OneFrenchEgg · 17/04/2023 18:54

Just drive a different way home, past a car wash and remembered how I refuse to use it on principle 😂
Years ago, I was in a hurry and no one in front - as I drove in, and was being 'washed' by one of the chaps, the one in charge allowed someone to jump the queue as they were 'in a hurry' and 'just wanted a spritz' - nope, they reversed all the way back, had everything, and I sat fuming at the the queue jumpy enablement.
Refuse to go back, I'm sure they are disappointed 😂

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OneFrenchEgg · 23/04/2023 16:11

Oh I have another one.
There's a woman who was in a queue. She said to me 'there's a queue' and I said yes I know I've been waiting ages.
Because,
The woman we wanted to speak to at the school open day was there talking to a parent. I stood and waited. A dad came and waited not behind me but to the side. Several people came at once and formed a queue behind me. I'm autistic and assumed the teacher was competent enough to know I was there.
Stupid woman was like 'no you haven't' blah blah.
Anyway I had to join the queue which really pissed me off and I detest the woman and slightly the teacher for not being able to control queues properly. This was ten years ago.

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OneFrenchEgg · 23/04/2023 16:12

OneFrenchEgg · 23/04/2023 16:11

Oh I have another one.
There's a woman who was in a queue. She said to me 'there's a queue' and I said yes I know I've been waiting ages.
Because,
The woman we wanted to speak to at the school open day was there talking to a parent. I stood and waited. A dad came and waited not behind me but to the side. Several people came at once and formed a queue behind me. I'm autistic and assumed the teacher was competent enough to know I was there.
Stupid woman was like 'no you haven't' blah blah.
Anyway I had to join the queue which really pissed me off and I detest the woman and slightly the teacher for not being able to control queues properly. This was ten years ago.

No! The formed a queue behind him (dad). Otherwise it would have worked in my favour.
<Adds the dad to my grudge sheet>

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Psalmbodytolove · 23/04/2023 16:25

LeChatChat · 23/04/2023 12:36

There was a poster on here once called eatshitderek. I always wondered what Derek had done to her.

I think it was from the movie step brothers :)

stacyvaron · 23/04/2023 20:50

My sister and I were taking care of elderly dad during the last two years of his life. We both worked full-time (opposite shifts) as we are not wealthy. He passed away in November. A week before Christmas, I was informed that because of budget issues, after 9 years, I was out of a job.

It's only been a few months, but I can definitely see myself holding a grudge for a long time. And yes, I know it's unreasonable.

blackpearwhitelilies · 23/04/2023 22:24

stacyvaron · 23/04/2023 20:50

My sister and I were taking care of elderly dad during the last two years of his life. We both worked full-time (opposite shifts) as we are not wealthy. He passed away in November. A week before Christmas, I was informed that because of budget issues, after 9 years, I was out of a job.

It's only been a few months, but I can definitely see myself holding a grudge for a long time. And yes, I know it's unreasonable.

It isn’t unreasonable. That was really shit for you stacy. I’m really sorry.

ilovesushi · 23/04/2023 22:57

@OneFrenchEgg I had a similar school gate situation! DS was struggling badly at school and had some health issues. I didn't usually do pick ups but needed to catch the teacher urgently. The school was clear that the teachers were available after school not before for parents. Another lady who did daily pick ups got in first and they started on some longwinded nothingy chat. Her DS was very academic and high flying, no issues, just lots of gushing on both sides. I was feeling more and more fraught and was trying to show politely I was waiting by hovering close by and trying to catch her eye. Finally it seemed to wind up and another parent from out of the blue swooped down and got in first. I left. I was almost in tears. Have some awareness teacher. Was I wearing a suit of invisibility?

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OneFrenchEgg · 23/04/2023 23:39

ilovesushi · 23/04/2023 22:57

@OneFrenchEgg I had a similar school gate situation! DS was struggling badly at school and had some health issues. I didn't usually do pick ups but needed to catch the teacher urgently. The school was clear that the teachers were available after school not before for parents. Another lady who did daily pick ups got in first and they started on some longwinded nothingy chat. Her DS was very academic and high flying, no issues, just lots of gushing on both sides. I was feeling more and more fraught and was trying to show politely I was waiting by hovering close by and trying to catch her eye. Finally it seemed to wind up and another parent from out of the blue swooped down and got in first. I left. I was almost in tears. Have some awareness teacher. Was I wearing a suit of invisibility?

Like working on a bar? I always knew who was next, had a little mental list so no one waited longer.
Hope you managed to speak to the teacher in the end. Although I would probably refuse ever to try again 🤦‍♀️

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GrandTheftWalrus · 24/04/2023 02:48

My ex boss hated women (well me) and always accused me of doing things wrong even when other companies proved him wrong, it was still my fault.

I eventually told him I was looking for another job and he sacked me.

I worked 6 days a week for that prick.

He did have small man syndrome and actually had a heart attack while shouting at someone who, again had done nothing wrong

BuntyFayreweather · 24/04/2023 08:02

@GrandTheftWalrus i had a senior colleague who hated women over 50. He manged to get rid of three in the space of three months including me.
The company is a beauty one and there are no women over 40.
He has huge status issues. Poly education and fugly.

Linnie61 · 24/04/2023 09:17

GrandTheftWalrus · 24/04/2023 02:48

My ex boss hated women (well me) and always accused me of doing things wrong even when other companies proved him wrong, it was still my fault.

I eventually told him I was looking for another job and he sacked me.

I worked 6 days a week for that prick.

He did have small man syndrome and actually had a heart attack while shouting at someone who, again had done nothing wrong

I find Karma often works in this way. It's fascinating how often people who have treated others badly end up meeting with misfortune or unhappiness. I've witnessed it more than once. Could be coincidence - could be retribution of the gods. I prefer to imagine the latter. Serves 'em right.

"He did have small man syndrome and actually had a heart attack while shouting at someone who, again had done nothing wrong"

nochangeever · 24/04/2023 09:20

Linnie61 · 24/04/2023 09:17

I find Karma often works in this way. It's fascinating how often people who have treated others badly end up meeting with misfortune or unhappiness. I've witnessed it more than once. Could be coincidence - could be retribution of the gods. I prefer to imagine the latter. Serves 'em right.

"He did have small man syndrome and actually had a heart attack while shouting at someone who, again had done nothing wrong"

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I've seen the opposite - genuinely lovely people get shafted by life. Whilst the users get ahead.

whynotwhatknot · 24/04/2023 18:47

ive never seen decent karma

loads of shitty people in my life have everything

GalindaArduenna · 24/04/2023 21:58

A few years ago my DTs went to a term-long baby sign language course, they were about 18mo. They picked up a few signs, we had fun, generally it had been a nice experience and I was going to leave the teacher a great review.

Except - we missed the last class as the DTs had a D&V bug and I didn't want to pass it on to the other kids, I was sad for us as there was a little 'graduation ceremony' planned, but fairer to stay away etc - and the teacher refused to issue their 'graduation certificates' as we 'hadn't completed the course'. I mean WTF?! We'd paid for the course and the teacher was refusing to give us their (presumably already printed) pieces of paper. I hardly think missing one class was going to make the difference between them being unable to sign at all and making it to expert level Confused

SinnerBoy · 25/04/2023 13:40

What a petty piece of work!

thelionthewitchtheaudacityofTHISbitch · 25/04/2023 20:48

GalindaArduenna · 24/04/2023 21:58

A few years ago my DTs went to a term-long baby sign language course, they were about 18mo. They picked up a few signs, we had fun, generally it had been a nice experience and I was going to leave the teacher a great review.

Except - we missed the last class as the DTs had a D&V bug and I didn't want to pass it on to the other kids, I was sad for us as there was a little 'graduation ceremony' planned, but fairer to stay away etc - and the teacher refused to issue their 'graduation certificates' as we 'hadn't completed the course'. I mean WTF?! We'd paid for the course and the teacher was refusing to give us their (presumably already printed) pieces of paper. I hardly think missing one class was going to make the difference between them being unable to sign at all and making it to expert level Confused

I still think I might have left a review for that one. Possibly not as polite (no offensive language) as you originally intended. But still a review. "All weeks must be completed to ensure the primary-school age children receive certificates" or similar...

Tilia · 25/04/2023 22:15

MRex · 18/04/2023 07:20

Sounds reasonable OP.

Barclays back closed my account when I was 13 because it hasn't been used in 6 months, and stole my £1.84. I wrote and contacted them three times but couldn't get it back, they cited THEIR costs of closing the account as the reason why!!!! I have never since used a financial service from them, I never will, and I even declined a work contract with them. I'm well aware everyone associated with that decision has probably retired by now but the grudge will last.

I also have issues with Virgin Mobile and their mistakes in taking my money. I got that money back, but haven't forgiven them for the hassle.

MRex you will be pleased to know that after Barclays messed me around I deliberately didn't close an ISA which had about £1.10 left in it (due to their uselessness), for about ten years.

Sweetleftfood · 26/04/2023 12:03

spacewitch99 · 19/04/2023 19:23

People who pulled out of the sale of their house on day of purchase…

We bought another (better) house.

But, I still drive by and growl in their direction when I pass the bottom of the street the house is in…

Oh yes!! this happened to us too, we had sold our flat and bought this "chain free" house and they pulled out as of course they weren't chain free at all. We also found a better house but after this happened I was standing with new mums (kids in reception) on a playing field which looked on to the first house and told the new mums about it (ranting more like it) and of course, one of the mums was the seller of the house! :-) quite embarrassed at the time but no she needed to hear it bloody liers

MRex · 26/04/2023 12:13

Tilia · 25/04/2023 22:15

MRex you will be pleased to know that after Barclays messed me around I deliberately didn't close an ISA which had about £1.10 left in it (due to their uselessness), for about ten years.

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Delighted to hear it. Paper statements too I hope!

Cattenberg · 26/04/2023 13:11

Sweetleftfood · 26/04/2023 12:03

Oh yes!! this happened to us too, we had sold our flat and bought this "chain free" house and they pulled out as of course they weren't chain free at all. We also found a better house but after this happened I was standing with new mums (kids in reception) on a playing field which looked on to the first house and told the new mums about it (ranting more like it) and of course, one of the mums was the seller of the house! :-) quite embarrassed at the time but no she needed to hear it bloody liers

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Good! Too many people escape any real world consequences for their shitty behaviour.

When buying my last house, I ended up at the end of a chain of four. Unfortunately, the house at the top of chain was going through probate and there was a series of delays lasting months. In the meantime, mortgage offers expired and interest rates shot up.

The sellers at the top then pulled out close to exchange, as they’d decided to sell the property to their son instead. They were so lacking in self-awareness, that after telling their estate agent, they commented, “you don’t sound very happy with our decision!”

They couldn’t care less that the three buyers below them had put their lives on hold for several extra months, only to be left high and dry. Their buyer lost the money they’d spent on solicitors’ fees and the chain collapsed, costing everyone thousands of pounds.

Also, there was more than one firm of estate agents involved and as they’d all wasted months of work, I think it’s fair to say, that no, they weren’t very happy.

I wish I knew the names of those CF sellers, so I could enjoy elaborate daydreams of revenge. Alas, if I ever bump into them, I won’t know who they are. I just hope they’ve been blacklisted by the entire estate agent industry.

Tilia · 27/04/2023 16:29

MRex · 26/04/2023 12:13

Delighted to hear it. Paper statements too I hope!

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Oh yes, at least twice yearly!

HectorPlasm · 28/04/2023 12:27

I work for a large consultancy - multi national clients.

I regularly add the shitty difficult ones to my own personal boycott list - its quite long now!

thisshizisbananas · 29/04/2023 19:49

There's a tiny record store near where I live. Every year on Record Store Day they'll have a market stall out the front of the shop. Pre baby, I bought quite a lot of records from them. Last year on RSD I went up there to buy some things. I picked up some records on the stall, and stood there for a very long time whilst the owner ignored me. He served other people who had come after me even though he was well aware that I was waiting first, simply because they looked young and cool and engaged them in some sycophantic chat about Wet Leg. I'm sure it was because he'd dismissed me as being old and uncool, not least as I had DD in her buggy. When he finally deigned to serve me I asked if he had a couple of things I couldn't find in stock, he scoffed at me. I put the records down, went home, and ordered it all online from another store.

DunkingMyDonuts · 01/05/2023 12:07

helenatroy · 19/04/2023 18:23

Not mine but my mother. She bitterly hated one of the (two) shopkeepers in our village. Said this woman cut her bacon too thin in 1976. She actually said the word bitch as this Womans coffin passed through our village two years ago.

I know I am late to the game, but this one made me laugh out loud!!

So incredibly petty, yet obviously cut her to the heart - "she cut her bacon too thin in 1976" - brilliant! 😂😂😂

CruCru · 01/05/2023 12:18

While I was at university I did a pub quiz with some friends. I knew a bunch of the answers but they wouldn’t put them down and we did really badly.

Payitforward55 · 01/05/2023 16:30

YipeeHipee · 21/04/2023 03:13

I have two...

My Mother

You chose your boyfriend over myself and my brother when we were children. Because of that we had to grow up in care. I still have nightmares and I've recently been diagnosed with PTSD because of some of the awful things I experienced during that time. It's no good getting in contact with relatives now asking to see us. You made your choice back then and you can't have us back because it didn't work out and that bastard eventually left you.
Today you have two fantastic Children (despite the living hell you let your boyfriend put us through) and three wonderful Grandchildren that you'll never get to meet. It's your loss and I'll never forgive you

My ex manager

I was really struggling with my mental health during COVID. I helped you out regularly with covering various overtime shifts (most at short notice) and sickness during the first lockdown. Despite how much I was struggling myself.

Something awful happened in my life soon after that. It meant I had to move out of my property temporarily. My temporary accommodation was several miles away and it was not safe/possible to walk. I had no car so I asked you if I could swap to day shifts (so I could get the bus) until I was able to move back home. You said no despite my circumstances. So I had to pay for taxi's (at my own expense) every evening for the next few weeks.

You were also a horrible person with no empathy or people skills. I wasn't sorry when you were quietly demoted and moved to another part of the company soon after..

@YipeeHipee sending you hugs. Sounds like you've had crap happen that was totally out of your control but you are winning at life!