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Grudges you continue to hold

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OneFrenchEgg · 17/04/2023 18:54

Just drive a different way home, past a car wash and remembered how I refuse to use it on principle 😂
Years ago, I was in a hurry and no one in front - as I drove in, and was being 'washed' by one of the chaps, the one in charge allowed someone to jump the queue as they were 'in a hurry' and 'just wanted a spritz' - nope, they reversed all the way back, had everything, and I sat fuming at the the queue jumpy enablement.
Refuse to go back, I'm sure they are disappointed 😂

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Anxiodogo · 19/04/2023 19:11

In my first job at 13 years old, I got paid £1 an hour. It was in a hairdressers.
One Saturday, I got let home half an early and got 50p. The next week, I had to stay half and hour extra, and still just got the £1.
Still feel pissed off at them 30 years later, they shut down long ago .

WickedWitchOfTheEast87 · 19/04/2023 19:12

Harmonypus · 19/04/2023 18:59

Oh yes, I have a grudge!
About 20 years ago, my Persian cat had a litter of 5 kittens and when they were 10 days old, my partner and I had a weekend away booked for his birthday.
My 6 year old son wasn't coming with us, and his father had agreed to look after him at my house because of the cats and kittens.
My son had previously helped raising a couple of litters, and knew how to treat the mum and her babies, plus we'd explained everything to my ex and left written instructions too.
All was going well, until a 'friend' of mine popped round. She made a beeline for the kittens. My son and his dad told her not to touch them, if they needed to be handled, they had specific instructions on how to do it, but she said she knew better than them and wasn't going to listen to a child anyway, and dove straight in, picking them all up, cuddling them.
The next morning, my son went to check on the little family and found 5 dead kittens. There was no explanation for it, other than the fact that this person had totally ignored the specific instruction not to touch them, she'd ignored their mum and just grabbed her babies. Now, anyone who knows anything about puppies and kittens, knows you need to be trusted by the mother, you wash your hands before touching her, and only tentatively move towards the babies if she let's you. Not respecting the mother can result in her killing the whole litter, which is what we believe happened here.
When we got home, I went round to see her, and told her what had happened. She argued that she hadn't done anything wrong, despite having ignored specific instructions to not touch.
I still see her around from time to time, but haven't spoken to her since this happened. So yes, I definitely hold a grudge!

@Harmonypus thats shocking and abaolutely cold! 😱😱 how did you resist the urge to wring her neck! I hope you told people what she did the utter bitch!

YetMoreNewBeginnings · 19/04/2023 19:13

toxic44 · 19/04/2023 19:04

I offered to do a buffet free for around 80 people and was told publicly they'd, 'rather have a professional.' I am a professional, having had a mobile catering business, organised leaving does for school principals and had a small restaurant when I lived abroad. I still resent that insult and the woman's smirky tinkly laugh. Bad cess to her.

Not my story, but that reminded me of one when I was on the PTA years ago. The chair was a pain in the arse.

A new-ish mum offered to do the food for one of the events for free and the Chair, without even asking any questions, said “We use professionals” and didn’t even give the woman a second to reply before announcing the company she’d unilaterally decided to use.

That would be the company owned by new mum and her husband…

Trishthedish · 19/04/2023 19:15

Someone I worked with. I asked her to do something and she said no, it wasn’t in her job description! This after I’d covered for her, which wasn’t in my job description. Still ignore her even though I retired ten years ago.

Tanktanktank · 19/04/2023 19:15

Thirty years ago, I had a magazine the newsagents got for me every week. Decided I didn’t want it anymore and told the young girl on the till (who was having a chat with her friend who was stood to one side). I said you won’t forget will you, she assured me not. About six weeks later the manager of the store rang me to remind me about my uncollected magazines, I told him I’d cancelled weeks before and he had a right rant. I told him exactly what had happened and he should take it up with the girl who was on the till, he was still insistent I pay for them.

the newsagents had our local post office in it and I used to go in for stamps etc but he’d scowl at me, so me, my mum, and all my friends stopped using the shop and post office. I moved away and then about ten years ago I moved back and he’s still the blooming manager so I go to the other end of town for stamp (and so does my mum).

Blaidd · 19/04/2023 19:18

My daughter (now 37) was going to stay with her Grandma in S Africa when she was 11, last year at Primary School. Her best friend desperately wanted to tag along but I nixed it thinking 2 eleven year olds would be too much for MIL (also a rather dangerous city). Everyone wrote messages on their school shirts as a momento of their time there. Best friend wrote 'I hope your plane crashes and burns' on my daughter's shirt. Still not forgiven the wretched now adult woman.

Tabitha1960 · 19/04/2023 19:18

Seven years ago I was deeply in love and blissfully happy to be in a relationship with the man. We'd been seeing each other for 8 years.

Then a big shock when I found out he'd been having an affair behind my back for 4 months! With someone who knew he was in a relationship with me and was happy to help him cheat on me.

Devastated, I dumped him. My heart was utterly shattered.

I've held a deep grudge against them both all these years.

Imagine my delight when I found out yesterday that she's caught him cheating on her and they are finished.

Lennybenny · 19/04/2023 19:20

My current line manager who has made me waste the last 3 years in my job because he won't train me (he knows I would've been a serious contender for his job if he had...one of those who won't retire cos his wife likes his income) so now I have to try and find another job with no self confidence thanks to current manager who has spent 3 years belittling, harassing, s harassing me. I have to stay in the job for now because of you know...money coming in. But I am no longer the imposter syndrome woman who started there and now I give him shit and take no prisoners. I don't remind him about work stuff and only email him as he literally ignores anything I say. I also point out when he hasn't done his job properly or forgotten something, or ignored requests from the other manager who I have a grudge against for seeing what was going on, ignoring me when I raised concerns, still hasn't got a backbone and dealt with an old homophobic, racist, sexist manager and would rather ignore him instead...I don't do his work for him either and walk away when they realise they've got something wrong...

Starbucks in a different town for doing the order after me before mine and then saying loudly to someone that the old woman over there picked up his drink(I was 44ish)...I asked for my drink in a takeaway cup and told them I hadn't realised the drink was wrong because I didn't expect them to do my drink last and that I wasn't that old and they were rude and then I left feeling humiliated.

There are others though as someone said well adjusted people have bags of them!

Fiftyisthenewsixty · 19/04/2023 19:21

5 years ago I had an argument with a man who lives nearby and always walks his dog on our street, lets his dog poo and doesn't clean it up. He admitted to this but said he didn't care. I am amazed at how much the sight of him still annoys me. Irony of ironies: he owns a pet supplies store so has no excuse for not having a poop bag!

spacewitch99 · 19/04/2023 19:23

People who pulled out of the sale of their house on day of purchase…

We bought another (better) house.

But, I still drive by and growl in their direction when I pass the bottom of the street the house is in…

Dragonfly97 · 19/04/2023 19:24

I'm still angry there weren't enough sprouts on my Christmas dinner at Bhs cafe about 20 years ago. Lovely dinner otherwise!

NowItsSpring · 19/04/2023 19:24

twanmever · 17/04/2023 21:48

I understand your pharmacy grudge but if there's only one pharmacist on duty and it's their break they are not allowed to sell you anything. However they could have explained it! I only know this because my sister worked in a pharmacy - I've always (and still do) thought this is ludicrous!

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Surely you don't need a pharmacist to sell a tubigrip!

LadyMonicaBaddingham · 19/04/2023 19:25

TheOtherBennetSister · 17/04/2023 20:59

I haven't worked for Julie for 4 years now but I still flick the Vs at her building on the odd occasion I drive past.

Tina left my place of work several years ago and I still yell abuse if I see her car while I'm driving through town. Ghastly woman.

Ilovecleaning · 19/04/2023 19:27

Itsallaloadofbollocks · 17/04/2023 20:53

There are many. I am a bitter and vengeful person😃
Evil manager. My 5 hour exit interview resulted in his suspension and subsequent sacking. Still hate him and haven't forgiven him even though his career is now over.

Oh, I’d love to know the full story. Sounds intriguing but bloody awful for you 😢

Fishflopper · 19/04/2023 19:29

The little cheap corner shop by my house. 7 yrs ago dd2 in a push chair picked up a creme egg they had low down in front of the till. When I took it off her they said I had to pay for it as she had opened it, we had a disagreement as the egg was not open but I paid and left.

I've never returned since out of principle and now have to go further the the little waitrose which us extortionate!

readbooksdrinktea · 19/04/2023 19:29

Ladysaurus That's so awful of them. I'd want to flip tables too. I'm sorry.

NeverDropYourMooncup · 19/04/2023 19:30

The 12 year old boy who deliberately walked up and screamed (ie, high C, full volume) in my ear because I'd asked his class to sit down and start work.

I already had tinnitus in the other ear and was largely dependent upon the one he screamed in. Which he knew. The pain was indescribable.

Spiteful little shit. I hope he failed all his exams and ended up on the dole.

cobblers123 · 19/04/2023 19:30

My brother! I had a lot of surgery three years ago on my face which resulted in me having lots of bruising and stitches so naturally I was a bit reluctant to go out as it healed.

He very kindly as a joke, left a cardboard box at my dad's when I went round to see him that had a face drawn on it so I could put it over my face if I wanted to go out.

My best friend and her husband were furious on my behalf and to this day, I massively hold a grudge about him thinking that was a funny thing to do when I'd really been through the mill in hospital and had a long road of recovery ahead.

Wanker!!

MelloYellow · 19/04/2023 19:34

A company that let my profoundly autistic son escape their respite facility.
lied about it
sent me an incident form that was full of lies
then when I got a statement from the lady who’s house my vulnerable son ended up they wrote a new incident form for the LA.
only they accidentally sent it to me too.
they are Connections to independence in Gloucester and are run by two of the most deceitful people.
if you are in Gloucestershire with a child with SEN avoid these like the plague.
i Will badmouth them every opportunity I get for the danger they put my child in.

MelloYellow · 19/04/2023 19:34

whoms*

DizzyFizzy13 · 19/04/2023 19:35

Bensteeth · 17/04/2023 22:52

The big Sainsburys near me. I was overcharged for the pizza meal deal and they wouldn’t refund the difference so I’ve never been back 🤣

The exact same thing happened to me, I wanted to boycott but it would mean either going to a shop I dislike more or driving an extra 15 minutes so I have had to get over it!!

Lennybenny · 19/04/2023 19:36

ATS in the town in Marlborough. Bullied me into paying for a service I didn't ask for and refused to give me my keys back. I ended up paying half the cost £20 rather than £40. I had to use a different card because I didn't have enough money and the tire had been prepaid. He literally argued with me and kept the key out of reach. I complained to the company and got my money back and they tried giving me a discount voucher...I replied saying that wasn't happening and I would make sure no-one I knew would use the place now...wasn't an empty threat cos I worked in the town and was able to make sure all my work colleagues knew he'd bullied me.

NDN for arsehole children, being a dick and doing various things including leaving his bin in front of my car, threatening me because I wouldn't put a fence up to keep his dog in the garden, knocking my wing mirror off...amongst other things.

TerfIngOnTheBeach · 19/04/2023 19:37

Colleague, fucking useless, for 41 years. I mean really useless. So useless they couldn’t be redeployed, they got offered a compromise agreement to leave with 12 months salary most tax free or be redeployed into a job that everyone knew they couldn’t do, including colleague. Likely they would end up being dismissed.

Sick leave over ten years was 997 days. Special leave days off for “funerals” were uncountable. Full annual leave taken after return from max sick leave for year (six months in any 12 month period rolling period)

had the fucking cheek to ask for two years salary as the compromise agreement.

refused.

this person lived rent free in my head for four years. This year they gave me voluntary redundancy, no compromise, no sick leave, no taking the piss. Was offered to all my team. The person no longer lives in my head, they’ve gone. On the 30th April I will have moved on.

CrocodilesCry · 19/04/2023 19:37

I did hold a grudge against a colleague after we had a row over the phone a while back. I now work with them and they are just great - it's all forgotten on my side and I doubt they even remember it.

The very distant relatives who had a kid free wedding when I was a child so I had to stay home while DPs went to their wedding on the other hand...never forgiven 😂More than 30 years on.

ginastill · 19/04/2023 19:38

i mean adjusted for inflation, leanne probably owed you a pint