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Grudges you continue to hold

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OneFrenchEgg · 17/04/2023 18:54

Just drive a different way home, past a car wash and remembered how I refuse to use it on principle 😂
Years ago, I was in a hurry and no one in front - as I drove in, and was being 'washed' by one of the chaps, the one in charge allowed someone to jump the queue as they were 'in a hurry' and 'just wanted a spritz' - nope, they reversed all the way back, had everything, and I sat fuming at the the queue jumpy enablement.
Refuse to go back, I'm sure they are disappointed 😂

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PalominoUK · 19/04/2023 18:31

As a 22 year old, with a new baby, non driver in a village with no shop and 4 mile return walk to the nearest one. In laws 5 minutes walk away, and great relationship with them.
I still hold a grudge against my now deceased adopted parents for driving within a mile of my house to go and visit my younger sister and her new baby.

CountryMouse22 · 19/04/2023 18:37

FoxtrotOscarFoxtrotOscar · 17/04/2023 22:02

Love it 😆

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I had a huge crush on Barry Gibb. Didn't resent his wife though!

Eyelashesoffire · 19/04/2023 18:39

newwnamme · 18/04/2023 00:19

This is outing to anyone who knows me as I have complained loudly to all who will listen.

NDN, older man and his wife who drive 2 x cars + 1 x motorcycle between them. Their house is on the corner, they have an off road parking spot, a driveway and a garage. It's a busy residential road with not enough parking on street for all the residents who don't have those things, of whom we are one. This man parks his car religiously outside our house rather than in one of his three available places. He probably drives it once per fortnight. The rest of the time, it sits there, allowing his wife to use the parking space and the driveway to be free for him to ride his motorcycle down. If, by some miracle, we return home when he has taken the car somewhere and manage to park outside out own house, he will (I exaggerate not) wait by his curtains until we leave, then nip out and move his car into the space outside our house.

He once took the car on holiday - in order to be sure of access to "his" space upon his return, he had a family member park a work van there for the duration. On one memorable occasion, we had managed to park there before realising our ancient car was in need of repairs of some kind. It was a few weeks before we could sort them. He was on his driveway every morning at the time he knows my partner leaves for work, pretending to have something else to do. He actually refused to move the car even for our removal truck the day we moved in - at the time, I shrugged it off but I should have seen it of a sign of the crazy to come.

Anyway, after enduring this for some years when our children were at their youngest with all that that entails, we got our own driveway. He wasn't in to move his car when the digger turned up, but they just drove around him and cracked on anyway. His face upon his return was worth every penny of the £4k that we paid. Regardless, I will hold a grudge until he dies or moves for the hugely unnecessary struggle he inflicted upon us daily. And little does he know, I have been exacting my revenge in petty but satisfying ways ever since.

Please tell me that the new dropped kerb meant he couldn't park there anymore! I also need to know the petty ways you have got revenge 😬

usernother · 19/04/2023 18:40

A Mother I dealt in my job many years ago who told lies about me. She doesn't know I know about this. I then started a new job in the building she works in. She used to smile at me but I never acknowledged I knew her, just stared stony faced at her. She actively avoids me now. This has been going on for about 10 years now. I'll never back down.

Gasp0deTheW0nderD0g · 19/04/2023 18:40

sgtmajormum · 19/04/2023 18:28

The directors of my last company. Walkers, all nasty little walkers with god complexes. So glad I don't work there anymore. Whenever I drive past the offices I mutter walkers under my breath while wishing every misery possible on them.

L or n? Grin

DuchessofSuffolk · 19/04/2023 18:42

When I was in secondary school and one lunch time a “friend” of mine took the pepperoni of MY pizza and ate it, when I had gotten up to quickly get something. She claimed she thought I didn’t like pepperoni, despite the fact I pretty much ate pepperoni pizza everyday at school (one single slice, not a whole pizza)

another time, I was in a chemist type shop that also sold perfume. One of the shop assistants said she couldn’t find a tester pot of perfume and this other old bat who was working there, very loudly said “they have tags on, so if someone tried to steal it, the alarm will go off” I was quite young at the time and was waiting for my mum to pick me up after my Saturday job, it was raining outside so I had popped into the shop to just look and keep dry. Old bat is probably dead now, but even to this day I WILL NOT buy anything from there! I would have never of dared steal something and still wouldn’t!

and lastly, an old colleague. Who once made a snotty remark about how would my relationship work, as my then boyfriend lived an hour away and I had to work every other Saturday! I married him so IN HER FACE!!!!

Danielle9891 · 19/04/2023 18:43

I worked at an Esso petrol station and had someone forget their wallet and didn't come back. I had to pay for their £35 fuel in the end as the police won't do anything if they come into the shop, as it's classed as a civil matter. I also had to pay £15 for someone else's electric as their cash card didn't work and you can't take the electric back from their electric key. (At the time I couldn't afford elect for my own house)
I refuse to go there anymore, even through the shop is a spar and has some good deals every so often.

sgtmajormum · 19/04/2023 18:43

Blasted autocorrect not liking my swear words 😁

Idontgiveashitanymore · 19/04/2023 18:44

DustyLee123 · 17/04/2023 21:43

I carry a very large sack of grudges with me at all times 🤣🤣

Yup. Me too 🤣🤣

mixedrecycling · 19/04/2023 18:45

My brother is a couple of years older than me. He had started school in time for the Queen's silver jubilee, and got given a silver jubilee mug of pale blue with a crown motif. I was MASSIVELY jealous.

The Platinum jubilee reminded me. DB could vaguely remember the mug, and couldn't care less. DM had the mug at the back of a cupboard.

I now have the mug!!!

I have it on my shelf of tacky souvenirs, and don't use it in order not to risk damaging it...

😂

BuntyFayreweather · 19/04/2023 18:46

@newwnamme i love it. What a wa*ker.

ColdHandsHotHead · 19/04/2023 18:46

Kentucky83 · 19/04/2023 18:20

My Gran always hated Shirley Bassey because her DH once dated someone called Shirley!

excellent!

Mimsymumsymoo · 19/04/2023 18:47

I have a couple...
First one: my ex employer who 'made me redundant because of the pandemic' it was a bar, so obviously shut but i was the only one they got rid of AFTER forcing me into a general management role that i was in no way prepared for on the basis that(word for word what the owner texted to me) "you dont have to do it, but if you dont im closing the doors and YOULL have to explain to everyone why theyre not getting paid."- fast forward to the redundancy, he refused to pay me my notice period and didnt pay me any of my 2 years worth of holiday pay so i had to take him to court and the bailiffs had to go round to his business and sell a bunch of stuff. Everytime i walk past there or have to go near it i pray for the gods to send down an asteroid and be destroyed in a horrendous fire where everyone is spared but the owner has to then face the reality that his business is dead and gone and it would be better if he was too.

Second one: at the shop with my daughter and she was at the till getting ready to pay for her magazine and sweet with her pocket money, when some woman came behind her and, over the top of her, pushed my girls things to the side and put her stuff down to pay for. Only after I had said, hey shes paying for her stuff thanks, this womans like "ohhh i didnt think she was paying for anything my bad" in my head like damn right its your bad, dont get hit by a bus on the way home or do whatever. 😤

ThankYouVeryMuchGerry · 19/04/2023 18:48

My ex-boss. No torture is too great for him and the vengeance I feel and the evil thoughts I have towards him actually make me surprised that I can feel this amount of hate.

SecretSunflower · 19/04/2023 18:48

I hold a grudge against an Academic Manager from 2007, called Alan Brockbank.
We worked in education - except he was not only uneducated, but also incredibly stupid. He reviewed an assessment (as part of a QA panel) and told me to
'Delete the word 'extant' as I've never heard of it, and therefore it's not a proper word'. 😂
He also suggested that we were being unkind to students by limiting them to marks out of a hundred - apparently we should have given them 120% or even more! I asked how the Management Information System might handle that - and was told that percentages are 'not out of a hundred'.
He was/is truly thick.

Atsocta · 19/04/2023 18:48

NooNooHead1981 · 19/04/2023 18:25

I truly wish I could move on from the GP who prescribed me the antipsychotic that injured me permanently, but when you are living with it daily as a constant reminder and worry, it's not that easy unfortunately 😔

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Yes I can understand that didn’t say its easy but your adding to the pain if you hold a grudge too,
My first husband died through a misdiagnosed stomach ulcer that was cancer then too late to treat .. but it would not bring him back my holding a grudge against his specialist.

RattlewhenIwalk · 19/04/2023 18:49

Cocolapew · 17/04/2023 22:31

1977, I was in hospital in Germany. We were Army and the hospital was a good bit away from where we lived, so I didn't get a visit every day.
My mum brought me chocolate fingers and asked if I liked them, this was a mega treat for me. I didn't ever see the box but saw chocolate fingers sticking out the top pocket of a nurse.
I get the rage every time I see the stupid biscuits now.

Was that Rinteln by any chance. Who made me walk bloody miles on a broken ankle to X-ray rather than providing a wheelchair (same era).

I have problems with that ankle 40 years later. Some forces medics shouldn't have been allowed to practice on action man.

GASB · 19/04/2023 18:50

I worked in Holmes Chapel, Cheshire. I hated my job and left as soon as I had a new job. Every time Holmes Chapel is mentioned on the news, usually travel as it is just off the M6, I can’t help but bristle and strop. I left in 2004….

Passthewine45 · 19/04/2023 18:52

The careers coach in sixth form who told me it was unrealistic that I'd become a fashion designer and should look at a different career. I've been a fashion designer for 15 years.
Also got told the same from various ex boyfriends/people from my home town. Thank f**k I don't live there now.

Poppingmad123 · 19/04/2023 18:54

My ex-neighbours for putting up a party wall with zero consultation or going through the right process. Just started hacking our garden one day & acted as if they didn’t know what they were doing. Ruined the look of my house as the party wall only matched their house style. Didn’t even consider what it might mean for us if we ever wanted to redo our drive. Lost trust for them that day & I never talked to them again as it just stressed me so much. What kind of people do that! They just cared about maximising space for themselves. I wish I had reported them for criminal damage. I’m so glad we moved away. But still riles me abit, trying to get over it😂

Harmonypus · 19/04/2023 18:59

Oh yes, I have a grudge!
About 20 years ago, my Persian cat had a litter of 5 kittens and when they were 10 days old, my partner and I had a weekend away booked for his birthday.
My 6 year old son wasn't coming with us, and his father had agreed to look after him at my house because of the cats and kittens.
My son had previously helped raising a couple of litters, and knew how to treat the mum and her babies, plus we'd explained everything to my ex and left written instructions too.
All was going well, until a 'friend' of mine popped round. She made a beeline for the kittens. My son and his dad told her not to touch them, if they needed to be handled, they had specific instructions on how to do it, but she said she knew better than them and wasn't going to listen to a child anyway, and dove straight in, picking them all up, cuddling them.
The next morning, my son went to check on the little family and found 5 dead kittens. There was no explanation for it, other than the fact that this person had totally ignored the specific instruction not to touch them, she'd ignored their mum and just grabbed her babies. Now, anyone who knows anything about puppies and kittens, knows you need to be trusted by the mother, you wash your hands before touching her, and only tentatively move towards the babies if she let's you. Not respecting the mother can result in her killing the whole litter, which is what we believe happened here.
When we got home, I went round to see her, and told her what had happened. She argued that she hadn't done anything wrong, despite having ignored specific instructions to not touch.
I still see her around from time to time, but haven't spoken to her since this happened. So yes, I definitely hold a grudge!

WickedWitchOfTheEast87 · 19/04/2023 19:02

I have a few grudges, but one that will stay with me is my ex boss who I can only describe as a bitch troll from hell. She was so vindictive that she made Cruella seem warm and friendly. She bullied and gaslighted me so badly that I eventually had a nervous breakdown and even when signed off sick by my gp who was so concerned about my mental health that I had to have weekly appointments with him did not stop my ex boss harassing me.

I can't prove it was her but one day a receptionist from my doctors called me to confirm our previous conversation about an hour ago I had no idea what she was talking about and I had just got home from an assessment with a psychologist so definitely wasn't me, receptionist then told me they had had a phone call from someone claiming to be me asking for receptionist to confirm from my records about my diagnosis, thank god the receptionist was suspicious enough to confirm nothing and said she'd check and call me back, I can't prove it was ex boss but I know she did this to another colleague when they were off sick (she bragged about it how no one can get one over on her) so I knew it was her. I wish nothing but utter misery on that woman and I wouldn't piss on her if she burst into flames in front of me! I could fill this thread up with her vindictive behaviour I've never met anyone like her before or since.

toxic44 · 19/04/2023 19:04

I offered to do a buffet free for around 80 people and was told publicly they'd, 'rather have a professional.' I am a professional, having had a mobile catering business, organised leaving does for school principals and had a small restaurant when I lived abroad. I still resent that insult and the woman's smirky tinkly laugh. Bad cess to her.

Willmafrockfit · 19/04/2023 19:06

old woman round the corner, said to me I dont know why you walk your dog round here!
yup,
i very much do walk my dog round there now!