Grudges you continue to hold

[OneFrenchEgg]

Just drive a different way home, past a car wash and remembered how I refuse to use it on principle 😂
Years ago, I was in a hurry and no one in front - as I drove in, and was being 'washed' by one of the chaps, the one in charge allowed someone to jump the queue as they were 'in a hurry' and 'just wanted a spritz' - nope, they reversed all the way back, had everything, and I sat fuming at the the queue jumpy enablement.
Refuse to go back, I'm sure they are disappointed 😂

The teacher who, when I asked (in a very roundabout and shy way) if I might have a pop at applying for Oxbridge, laughed in my face. The bitch. I don't know why people like that go into teaching. All that stuff about 'never forgetting an inspirational teacher' - I never had one of those, but I definitely remember that cow!

We had a similar situation with IKEA in Warrington when it first opened, we had ordered and paid for some stuff upstairs in the showrooms but when we went to collect it they didn't have all of it so we said we didn't want the rest, They argued that because it was reduced we couldn't have a refund, I said that I'd never had such poor service in IKEA in many years and the smug face started to say that they'd hadn't been open for years, as I thought she would. Apparently they didn't expect people who'd bought stuff in Germany years before. We did get our refund eventually by refusing to move.

A semi-grudge against Haven.

Nice park up (very) north had a lovely little wooden area with lovely trees. They used it for high climbing between trees with ropes and cables etc. Quite nice part of the park.

But we went last autumn and the fuckers had cut all the trees down and replaced it with a metal climbing monstrosity!

I feel bad for all the nature that’s lost a home but won’t go back to that park on principle of the trees!

My grudge is against my DM and my DSis. I'd given birth to my DS the day before and he'd been whisked off to a hospital 30 miles away. My DM and my DSis and her DH came waltzing in with my 10 month old DNiece. Lots of cooing and cuddling by my DM. I little bit of how's DS from them all! I'd no idea because I was ill that's why I'd had him early and why he was in a different hospital!
My DH came in to find me distraught and "I never want to see DSis and family ever again!" I don't see them very often at all but give my DN a hug cuddle every time I see her, even though she has DC herself, because it wasn't her fault my DM was an inconsiderate #%^*!

Reading all these has reminded me of yet more grudges!

The Head of my children's primary school was a terrible inverted snob (among other things). In the smug commuter village where we lived (on the council estate at the time), there were 3 schools and the one my children would go to was definitely seen as 'the poor relation' at that time (not by me - but certainly by the community).

I made an appointment to visit and look around and I just got such negative vibes from the Head. I speak (I suppose) quite poshly, and I'm well-educated, but both I and my husband have always worked in the public services and have never been affluent. She wouldn't smile or show any kind of warmth, and at one point, gave me a 'glinty' glare and said "You do realise that most of the children here come from the council estate?" Well, yes - so did I! Strange comment...

She was always the most fussy, twee character, with a ridiculously sentimental attitude to the children. But sometimes, when there was an actual child protection issue, she could be really dismissive. There was a 'disco' for the Reception/Y1 children after school one day and several parents were there to see their children in (and collect siblings). The school hall was practically shaking with the decibels coming out of the sound system - the parents were covering their ears. I was concerned for the kids' hearing so went to the office to ask if the volume could be turned down . OMG - she was so scornful of this request - and told me I was being ridiculous and being an old fogey. I was furious because I then had to decide whether to insist my daughter (aged 5 ) missed the disco (she really wanted to go, of course) or let her risk damaging her hearing. I was very cynical about her fussing over the children after that - it was all a big show. Little kids don't mind if the music gets turned down!!

I was a teacher myself at the time, so was strongly inclined to be supportive of schools and teachers, but I had my tolerance strained by this woman - there were many other examples of her small-minded meanness and obvious prejudice. I was SO glad when she retired! Still think mean thoughts about the silly cow...

Was her name Donna?

@VerySlovenly please, please don't feel guilty for trusting the experts. You tried your best and they dismissed your fears, it's really not your fault, and guilt is such a destructive emotion.

My daughter worked Saturdays on a market stall where she had a wage and a commission on sales. If one of the wealthy customers was being served by her the owner would say to my daughter as she was totalling the order, 'I'll finish off, you go and do.......' so she didn't get the commision. One day I walked by and removed a few oranges from the front of a display and they all collapsed, rolling round the floor.

Our local pharmacy who unfortunately have the best selection of cosmetics in the county. The beauty counters have the most awful staff there that coo over all the pretty, very made up/sophisticated people and ignore everyone else (I’ve seen it a lot over the last few years especially since I started working a few doors down). It is honestly like they hired every mean pretty girl (and guy) in the land. Three times now I’ve heard them talk about the state of people they’ve given makeovers to. I cleared my throat and got rolled eyes the wide eyes when she realised where I work! so now I make it a point to buy elsewhere and not go in and they don’t come in for change😅

Ex's stepdad was an absolute arse. He made a "joke" out of a trauma I had (sexual assault) and tried to scare me / induce a panic attack (He was asked nicely not to follow me around the house or walk closely behind me, or touch my neck, etc. - very specific requests). Anyway, long story short, he touched me / induced a panic attack and I never forgave him. I got my own revenge when I outed his affair!

30 something years ago on Brownie Pack holiday I shared my chocolate for our midnight feast. I was the only one who had brought anything since we had all agreed it at school, and yet I shared it with EVERYONE in the dorm. Then Brown Owl could be heard saying right I'm going to see who's got this chocolate and came into the dorm. Carly blurted out it's Strictly, despite me having shared it with her! No sense of solidarity whatsoever. I got a bollocking and the remaining chocolate confiscated.

Oh, I had a teacher that wrote me an AWFUL UCCA (as was) reference because her darling son didn't like me and I didn't like him and (deliberately) didn't go to the same parties as him, so she decided I was anti-social and friendless.

I was rejected by 4 of my 5 choices and eventually the school noticed how awful my reference was and rang up the 5th to say please interview Miss Spouse because she is lovely, really. 5th place interviewed me, laughed at the teacher and took me.

Hah! This wasn’t at a school in an East Midlands town beginning with H, was it… because this woman had a darling son and I can absolutely imagine her doing something along those lines!

My grudge is against the health care professionals that gaslit me, because they were not up to date with latest research and had an I know best attitude. I have spent £1,000s on health care due to their incompetence. I won't wish my condition on anyone except them.

I like it!

Not my grudge but my SD. He had an argument with the owner of the local village shop and has held a grudge for 30 yrs. It's since changed hands and still refuses to shop there. It's the only shop in the village.

My ex friend who was shagging my husband who is also now ex whilst telling me I was paranoid and imagining things.

I hope your life goes to utter shit

And you're a shit teacher.

I honestly don't want to make generalisations and I am sure most of you are amazing but my grudges are mostly against HCPs:

Fell and cut my forehead as a 7-8 years old and went to casualty - the nurse waited until my dad wasn't looking and said she was going to make sure the dressing was on right and pushed it so hard my head slammed back into the wall - that hurt more than the cut!

The GP who promised to refer me after I had seen her with (what was later found to be) gall bladder pain. She did refer me...to a weight loss nurse!

The midwife who made me pick my pessary out of my poo in the loo and shoved it back in very brutally (should have reported that!).

The midwife who laughed at my birth plan saying she needed a good laugh.

The midwife who told me if would forever harm DC if I topped up with formula - EMCS and my milk wasn't working properly yet and big DC was screaming hungry.

The surgeon who huffed and tutted when I said I could still feel after the anaesthetic, gave me 2 more minutes and started anyway because he 'thought I was imagining it'. I wasn't...was like something out of a Saw film.

The GP who told me babies cannot get sleep apnoea (they can and he had it).

And fucking Louise who started a rumour that I was off school because I sat on a pencil and it went up my bum. It was actually tonsillitis. I am forever prejudiced against Louises now...which is tough as a Millenial!

She's a teacher? You must be so so tempted to name and shame.

(You know that truth is an absolute defence in libel law... 😉)

That's nothing, my mum is still mad at the mum of a kid in my class who drove badly (in her opinion) circa 1998. That's a quarter of a century of going "urgh I saw bloody Rachel's mum earlier".

Yep she is.

I live on a small island.

Many, many people know what she did. She lost most of our mutual friends and his family want nothing to do with her or her child (not his)

She tells alot of lies about her ex as well. A truly awful manipulative person. My kids refuse point blank to even be in the same room as her

Oh, and the school receptionist...I got my work to donate £££ of PPE and stationery - delivered it myself in 3 loads and then got a bill for 47p for a clarinet reed my dc had 'broken'. I know it wasn't malicious but it was like a slap in the face 😂

A friend and I worked for the same company. We had a new line manager who joined just before the critical final phase of a big project. The old LM had resigned at very short notice, there was no handover, no support from the company and the new LM who had never done this type of work before had been dropped in it and was completely in over her head. My friend and I could see it was going to end in disaster with potentially significant consequences for dozens of service users, so stepped up and basically saved the day, and her job. She knew it and was hugely grateful.
Until a few months later when she utterly shafted us on a pay review. We both resigned simultaneously, with I'm delighted to say, the absolute minimum of notice.
Her work email was the usual combination of initial and surname which in her case produced a rather unfortunate result. Think something like Stinker@blahcompany.
It's been 8 years and my friend and I still refer to her as Stinker. We're in our fifties.

I am writing this on behalf of my lovely DD who was expelled for wearing trousers and lost her Oxbridge scholarship. To the HOY at her famous boarding school who allowed her to bullied for 'asking for it' when she was assaulted hence the trousers. To the HM (and his tossy Eton socks) at the previously boys school near Cirencester who said they didn't want her after making her wait all Christmas to say no after her entrance interview.
You can all fuck the fuck off because she is studying medicine and top of her class!

PE teacher gave me an E on my report card. I was painfully shy and lacking in confidence, especially when it came to sports, and I was mortified! I received a 2 (1 being highest) for effort, which just made it seem worse as I’d apparently tried really hard and was still rubbish.

I think PE teachers have improved but PE during the 80’s was brutal. In fact I still think that team sports should be optional and PE should be more about fitness.