Grudges you continue to hold

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Just drive a different way home, past a car wash and remembered how I refuse to use it on principle 😂
Years ago, I was in a hurry and no one in front - as I drove in, and was being 'washed' by one of the chaps, the one in charge allowed someone to jump the queue as they were 'in a hurry' and 'just wanted a spritz' - nope, they reversed all the way back, had everything, and I sat fuming at the the queue jumpy enablement.
Refuse to go back, I'm sure they are disappointed 😂

I went to the maternity unit to be checked out after I'd been in labour for about 12 hours, a few days overdue. I was worried things were taking too long and wanted the midwives to check on my baby and make sure everything was ok.

Had a very rude, patronising midwife who sent me home because I was only 2cm dilated and she basically accused me of wasting her time, and told me that I wouldn't be able to cope when labour 'really started.' I was only 22, pregnant with first baby. Worst bedside manner ever!

My husband was working away for three months. I was looking after three small children at home. They were slightly 'spirited' but not too terrible.
Husband met a nice couple with two small children. He went on about how well behaved the kids were, how they were reading lovely classics in English which was their second language, how they didn't have a telly, how they loved nice salad and weren't allowed sweets. A few months later he mentioned that as well as both parents with them they had an au pair.
I hold a grudge against the country that they are from and will never go there for a holiday. That'll teach them!

UnDruidlyWords · Today 11:47

It was against my older brother for his bullying, which was physical in childhood (he put me in hospital for three weeks when I was four) and thereafter verbal. He was especially mean to my other brother, a truly gentle soul, making humiliating 'jokes' that only he laughed at. ...'Terrified'. Good, he should have been, but I'm so relieved he's changed.

That's actually really heartening, I was really surprised at the ending, with him changing.

@Ladysaurus my Mum was a Marie Curie nurse and always said that Marie Curie was as the poor relation as re public perception but that MacMillan were not what people believed them to be. She had a very poor opinion of MacMillan.

What's the point of having a grudge if you don't bear it?

Many years ago i had arranged to go out for the evening with a so called friend. I waited and waited and she didnt show so i went to her house to be told by her mother she had gone out with so and so instead. Bitch. 40 years ago and havnt forgotten it but i bet she has.

I love this thread, the pettier the better.

Turn out I have a lot of really pointless ones!

My English Lit teacher for commenting that X had got a higher mark than me as I opened my A level results at school, I was always being compared to X as we had the same name but as we both got A’s all I could think was who gives a fuck?!

Primark for their stupid non-exchange policy although I have had to relent on my boycott because they do so many Lilo and Stitch items that my DC loves.

A dinner lady who humiliated me because I came to the school hall all excited to do some prep for the nativity aged 6 because she’d called my name down the corridor. Turned out she meant the other girl with the same name but no need to be mean to me about it! I see you Janice and you still look like Matt Goss.

The lad who got me to cover his tables during his break when we worked in a pizza restaurant as teens, we each had our own float and he must have fucked me over cashing up one of his sales as I was £30 short and that never happened to me. We only got £3/hr.

The hairdresser who mocked me when I went for my first haircut without my mum aged 14 trying to describe the hairstyle I wanted (90s Rachel cut), when it was pretty obvious I was describing layers.

Horrible Donna (sorry to all the Donnas but why are you always bitches?) from school who bitched loudly about my haircut when I went from long hair to a bob and someone complimented it, she constantly sneered at me for no reason, I took delight in seeing how crap her recent wedding looked on FB (I am friends with one of her friends).

The girl who, when we finished A levels (1976!) didn't invite me to her birthday night out. I was the only one of our social group she didn't invite.

It still hurts when I think about it.

I'm surprised at that. My dad died of aggressive pancreatic cancel and he was bed ridden for the last few weeks of his life. He didn't want to go to a hospice so my mum cared for him at home with the help of MacMillan nurses. My dad could barely speak by the end but he made the effort to say they were angels. They stayed up with my dad all night so my mum could sleep. I'll always be grateful to them and often donate to fundraisers.

The employer who sacked me when I was 21 because I refused to continue lying to a client. Basically, it was a small building company. They'd sacked the surveyor without notice while he was midway through a huge project. We on reception were initially told to inform the client that he was on holiday which we did as that's what we thought was the case.

After that we were told he was no longer employed by the company as he'd been sacked but we should tell clients he was DEAD and we would be in touch as soon as the project had been reallocated to another surveyor (small company only had one surveyor).

I told them I was not telling clients that Steve was dead when he wasn't and said I'd be happy to say he no longer worked for firm.. and I proceeded to inform one of them exactly that so they sacked me for gross misconduct.

Best revenge ever though - client I'd told truth to found out what happened and tracked me down then employed me on a temp contract with my main job being to terminate up the contract with my former employer. They even allowed me to make the formal telephone call to my ex boss to let him know.

Still hold a grudge though bet Steve does too

@switswooo i had a friend with breast cancer who also sang the praises of MacMillan nurses so perhaps it depends on where you are and who you see?

Good on you. 👍

My new motto

Sorry really shitty at the time but this is really funny. 'Baby is now 27'.

I think that must be it! We lived in a run down London suburb, solidly working class.

There is a Dad at my daughters now secondary school that I NEVER nod at in passing to acknowledge I recognise him. In year 1 he was parked on the pavement and reversed. My child was stood on the pavement waiting for me in order to cross the road. He started reversing and angrily waved at my daughter to get out of his way. Fucker was parked on the pavement (illegally as he was blocking a driveway and had done so despite double yellow line). Kept rolling back while we waited to cross the road. I'm sure he doesn't care if I ignore him or not. Shit drivers are generally shit people too!

Oh yes. I will also never return to Milan having been dumped there on holiday by someone who had hinted at marriage only a week before. I'm sure Milan doesn't care 😁

I used to work for a supermarket, and they treated me (and many others) like crap. DP and I hiss at any branch we pass (because we are very mature).

WednesdaysMentor · Today 11:52

i hold a grudge against the local flower shop. It was my mums 70th birthday during lockdown.

I'm sorry to hear that, but I may have an antidote....

I was working abroad and my sister died, she had cancer, but they said she had a prognosis of on to two years. Anyway, I had to wait days for a flight.... She lived down South and I had to get a train from Newcastle, there wasn't room to stay, because other people were there, so my wife was to drive down with the baby a day later (we went to a hotel).

Anyway, some poor sod committed suicide on the track and I ended up staying in a hotel and arriving the following day. I went to the village florist and asked for a wreath, she told me sorry, I need 3 days notice; the funeral was the next day.

I just deflated and said, "Oh no, it's for my sister's funeral." She said, "Oh? Is she J?" I said yes and she said to come back that evening, then, "Actually no, I'll make sure it gets to the church, what message do you want?"

What a bloody star, they'd been friends, though I'd never met her.

A friend and I played a silly practical joke on a second friend's boyfriend, in the late 1990s, while we were all on holiday together. It was her idea but I joined in and it involved a soft toy that apparently he was very attached to (but had only just bought). The soft toy wasn't damaged by the way, we were all in our late 20s/early 30s for context.

About 5 years later she invited me to a housewarming and when I accepted she uninvited me because Fred (the now-husband) had decided she wasn't allowed to see me with him there because he hadn't forgiven me for the practical joke. But would I like to pop in some time when I was passing (she lived 2 hours from me on a route I never drive). I have not spoken to her since.

However, my grudge has outlasted her marriage, I'm happy to say!

Aaaahhhh another one - my skipping rope! When we had PE in summer at primary school (in the field opposite) it was usually rounders and it took ages for the class to all have a turn at batting so we were allowed to bring our own skipping ropes etc to play with while waiting. It wasn't a formal sports field but more a sort of community green and on this particular day the grass was quite long. When I was called to bat I was afraid if I put my skipping rope down I wouldn't find it in the grass so I took it up with me. Teacher yelled at me for being so stupid and ordered me to put it back on the grass. Sure enough I could not find it again and when we were told to go back inside I wasn't allowed to look any longer because it was my own fault for being careless. When I politely remonstrasted that I'd done what I was told I was told off for "answering back". Then when my mum collected me and asked where the rope was I got another bollocking for being careless and losing it. Still bear a grudge that I lost my property and got told off twice when I was RIGHT all along.
Gah, that feels better!
I'm 48 by the way.

Oh I have lost far too many minutes of my day reading these. Brilliant thread!

I'm very laid back about stuff and have a crap memory so if I can't remember, then I cant bear a grudge!

I do however flick the vs each time I go past a sign post to a village where the girl lives, who broke my son's heart when he was 12. I had to console him for weeks after she sent that text. Bitch. It has only been 3 years but I feel I may be able to continue this for as long as I live in the area (or I forget which ever comes first!)

Yes.
Lots of metal in his brain but
Hes back to as normal as he ever was 😀

Advice to MNs never ignore a really !!! bad headache.

Anyone with sense and less small minded would rather see the Chinese scientits responsible for the global pandemic in jail or better.

My local closest shop kept charging me to pay by card, howether much I spent. Told them they couldn't do that and they said they can and will. Haven't been back in years and now go out of my way for milk 🤣😭