Grudges you continue to hold

[OneFrenchEgg]

Just drive a different way home, past a car wash and remembered how I refuse to use it on principle 😂
Years ago, I was in a hurry and no one in front - as I drove in, and was being 'washed' by one of the chaps, the one in charge allowed someone to jump the queue as they were 'in a hurry' and 'just wanted a spritz' - nope, they reversed all the way back, had everything, and I sat fuming at the the queue jumpy enablement.
Refuse to go back, I'm sure they are disappointed 😂

I hold many unreasonable grudges 😂

• when visiting my childhood home I give the finger to the house of the cow who bullied me at school despite her and her family moving out probably 2 decades ago
• my dad for brushing my hair savagely after swimming while my mum was in hospital after giving birth to my sibling
• maggie thatcher for STEALING MY MILK

Spiteful woman in my community who started a vicious whispering campaign against me hoping to drive me away. She failed - you brought a spoon to a knife fight mate.

Honestly that's horrendous. I'm so sorry x

Another relation went out with a bloke from Henley for eight years, in her 20s, but he wouldn't commit to marriage and a family so was let go. We still hiss if we hear the word 'Henley'.

The sister of my first boyfriend, when I was about 20, for laughing at me publicly when I held her baby. She mocked me to a big party of people because I was studying for a professional career and so "not interested in babies", and so it was oh so laughable that I was holding one (and supposedly "doing it wrong", how very funny). That label of not being "maternal" kind of stuck with me, and made me wonder about myself for many years. (As you can see from my username, it didn't last forever!).

Working for Sian & Natalie who were horrible, vile bullies, and then gave me hell and got everyone to believe their pity lies when I finally plucked up the courage to report it. Hate them to this day.

The older boy who I thought liked me and was a friend, who slept with me when I was 14, and then was utterly horrible to and about me ever afterwards. A few years ago he passed away leaving a family, and I'm very sorry for their loss, but I feel cheated that I will never get an apology for how nasty he was. I've since realised that I'm probably autistic (currently waiting for assessment), was really vulnerable as a teen and couldn't interpet intent. This was not an isolated incident for me but it's the one that still gets to me.

Last year, someone I've known for over 40 years, but hadn't seen for a few years because he'd moved abroad, asked if he could visit us for a few days. Once here, he spent almost all of his time on his phone texting his wife. He kept his phone on the table during meals and every time it pinged, which was often, he'd break off conversation to text her back. This happened constantly and it was as if he didn't even want to be staying with us. I don't know why he even asked to see us.

After he left I was so cross I had a cleaning frenzy and scrubbed the kitchen from top to bottom. OH came to look and said 'Why don't we just redecorate' so we took everything out of the kitchen and cleaned it again, from ceiling to floor. Then we bought paint and got started. I'd chosen some one-coat paint to cover the tiles, which had stupid pictures on them. We re-painted the cupboard doors, the walls, the ceiling. Then we put new lino down. The room looked completely different and it felt like we'd purged the taint of our visitor's presence. I'm still cross with him and am not sure I want to see him again.

Same. Got my first wee car for £500 from a trusted friend and took it to Kwikfit for a service and checkup. When I returned at the end of the day, several mechanics were lined up to watch while one informed me the car was a total write-off: dangerous, unfixable, I'd been had etc. I think they even offered to scrap it for me. I paid for their "advice" then found a local mechanic instead. Car ran reliably for about a decade - always needed something done for the MOT but it was not a deathtrap. Never been back to KF - the guys enjoyed that far too much, and it felt humiliating.

This is a silly one because I know I am better than this..........

I live in a cul de sac where the residents have been known to be petty over small things.
One guy moved here and installed a wood burning stove and solar panels. The neighbours were instantly jealous. He stored some logs on his driveway and they reported him. He was told it was a fire hazard and had to move it.
They also insisted he was burning the wrong wood and it affected another neighbour who was ill and had to sell her house which was a lie.

He told me all of this. I knew exactly who it was who had made all the complaints and I knew why. I knew they were envious of his lifestyle. One of them even told me !

He said he would never speak to any of them again and he had my full sympathy. I do not gossip and get into spats with people and was disgusted by their petty behaviour.

Then in lockdown he reported me for breaking rules with visitors coming to my house. I was not doing anything wrong. The police came and spoke to me and one of the officers who said they had better things to do than this told me who had reported me. She mentioned no names but showed me the house where the complainant lived. It was him.
After all the commiserating I had done and he fucking reported me when my grandson stayed here which was within a bubble.
I really begrudge that man now for existing and when I get the opportunity I will tell him why. Until then I can hardly bear to look at the bald headed fool who now speaks to all those neighbours as if nothing ever happened.

Living here in this cul de sac you would not tell any of them where there was a bird's nest

If I were to line up my grudges......I'd need a very long wall.

My longest grudge is against my nursery teacher who slapped my face for bringing a cat into the nursery. He was a beautiful big ginger Tom that my mum and I used to meet on the way down to the nursery. He wandered into the nursery grounds and on recognising him, I gave him a hug. I told my mum that this woman had slapped my face, she denied it and told my mother not to encourage me to pick up "strange" animals as I'd get a disease! I was 3........I got my revenge about 30yrs later when I cornered her and told her what I thought if her. I dared her to slap my face now.....I honestly would have put her on her arse.

Her warning never worked.....I still clap "strange" dogs and cats....have cats of my own too 🙂

@Ludo19 glad you got your revenge. What did she say?

She was dumbstruck and I got my apology and she admitted she had lied to save her job made no difference.

Surely it's obvious? The crime against humanity that is "Lady in red". The most oleaginous, disingenuous stinking pile of humbug since, well, whenever. I would have more respect for both the monobrowed cunt and his song had he called it "get your knickers off, luv", which would at least be honest. And breath.

ahahaha of course!
Mine is just more personal 😁

20 years ago I had to work with an HR manager on a project. She was uppity and unempathetic to my team and made a hard time for everyone even harder. But the other (real) reason I hated her was that she once came to work in a skirt from Topshop which I had also just purchased, and it looked much better on her . I couldn't abide her after that.

If grudge holding was an Olympic sport…

A restaurant owner once asked me if I was able to settle the bill from my last visit. I was there at the bar on my lunch break with work colleagues and my boss. I was confused as I’d eaten there the week before and paid with a card and wasn’t aware there’d been an issue. Plus I was early twenties and a bit green. He handed me the bill and it had someone else’s name written on it. When I pointed that out the owner kind of scoffed at me like he knew he was right and I was lying. I’m not exaggerating, the whole place stilled to listen to the conversation. I was so embarrassed. I later heard (through friends, I told absolutely everyone, no trip advisor required then) that he’d confused me with another customer who also had red hair. This was I’m 1996 and I still won’t go in there, despite the fact it’s changed hands several times since.

Late Sil for being disappointed none of my premature babies were disabled.
Late Sil for being nasty to our daughter. Told her she was fat. Aged 2.
Late Sil for telling me that my DH was sleeping with another woman while I was in hospital when having my second child. My cousin had stepped in to look after our first child as my DM broke her leg a few days before. Sil had not seen my cousin for over 10 years. This was during covid. DH carried on working until the weekend.

Same Sil for all these things. Nasty nasty nasty woman.
Glad she is dead.

My husbands work Christmas party 2010. I was 5 months pregnant at the time. Walled into the venue and one of my husbands female coworkers said to me "God your big aren't you". Bitch, I still crunch my nose when her name is mentioned.

I have told this one on MN before, but here it is again: I had no children yet and was in the middle of my third miscarriage, the radiologist had told me (kindly) there was no heartbeat and then left me with the radiographer to get dressed. I was clearly very upset.

The radiographer said to me "cheer up, never mind, you are young, you can just try again". I was 44, had had three unexplained miscarriages, and it was therefore pretty likely to be my last chance. (I in fact did go on to have a baby, but I still hold a grudge against her for that insensitive remark).

My ex partner for chopping down a beautiful tree in our front garden while I was on holiday with young dc.

He had always moaned about it as it had beautiful pink and white flowers that dropped all over the lawn but I refused to let him touch it.

This was in 1995 so I hold grudges for ages.

Even now when I see these trees (can't remember the name) out in flower this time of year it causes me a pang of sadness.

Just one rotten thing he did. Apart from cheating on me and leaving with my Oasis cd (he didn't even like Oasis).

Julie has been mentioned a couple of times

I have a very small list of car-hire companies I'm willing to use now, due to massive (and I mean massive) issues with each of them - not opening the office when I had pre-booked and paid to return car early/get lift back to airport, so I missed my flight, sending me out to a pre-crashed car and getting arsey when I pointed it out, allowing me to book a car for a weekend in the UK, but not letting me have it because I already had one checked out in Ireland (different countries, but apparently Enterprise don't care) etc.

I've started trying the independents - at least then you get to talk to real people an negotiate (very much recommend easirent/VIP cars at Birmingham airport - lovely guys)

I do exactly the same when my ex son in laws team lose. He's a massive fan and I know he'll he gutted, even though I haven't seen him for ages.

The longest grudge I held was for 50 years. It was against my older brother for his bullying, which was physical in childhood (he put me in hospital for three weeks when I was four) and thereafter verbal. He was especially mean to my other brother, a truly gentle soul, making humiliating 'jokes' that only he laughed at. A couple of years ago, he started up again only this time on social media I was furious and thought, 'Right, mate, I'm having you' and I called him out on his behaviour, all of it. He'd forgotten he'd put me in hospital, that I'd nearly died, and seemed confused why his non-jokes were not well received. We agreed to meet up and talk about it and I told him how different things could be if he stood alongside his siblings rather than against us, that we could be a team, a proper family and if he changed, it was within his power to make that happen. Astonishingly, he changed for the better and is now a much, much nicer person, especially to my other brother whose life has become far less fraught as he's no longer anticipating the next barb. When we met up that day, I asked him how he felt about being there and he said, 'Terrified'. Good, he should have been, but I'm so relieved he's changed.