Grudges you continue to hold

[OneFrenchEgg]

Just drive a different way home, past a car wash and remembered how I refuse to use it on principle 😂
Years ago, I was in a hurry and no one in front - as I drove in, and was being 'washed' by one of the chaps, the one in charge allowed someone to jump the queue as they were 'in a hurry' and 'just wanted a spritz' - nope, they reversed all the way back, had everything, and I sat fuming at the the queue jumpy enablement.
Refuse to go back, I'm sure they are disappointed 😂

I just remembered another one! The only thing I was ever any good at in sports day was the egg and spoon race. One year one of the other parents who didn't really like me for some reason (I was only about 9 ) was at the finish line and I won the egg and spoon race but dropped my egg as I went over the line. She said I was disqualified and wouldn't let me have first place 😭 hated her after that!

I loathe John Prescott. My late df had been in the Merchant Navy. During his time at sea, he was presented to de Gaulle, thanked for saving the honour of France, promises légion d'honneur etc etc.
As a retired old codger, in summer he used wear a blazer with the MN badge on the pocket. When Prescott brought the NUS out on strike in 66 he tore the badge off. He didn't want anyone to know he'd been in the MN.
Then, to add insult to injury, after the Falkland conflict, he moaned about the state of the fleet, when it was 'his' strike that caused the flagging-out that reduced the fleet.
Bastard!

I'm not really a grudge person but my husband is, he once bought something from a shop in town that was sold as fresh but very out of date and off when he got it home. He still refuses to buy anything from that shop even 10 years later and even though that shop is now owned and operated by a different company.

I have a strong regional accent and I'm aware of times socially and professionally where I've experienced other people's negative assumptions about me and my intelligence and I don't forget that, its noted but its not really a grudge.

NC for this. I work in a professional job and have to have indemnity insurance. Decades ago I had a substance misuse/mental health problem which led to my being in some trouble, having used substances while at work (I never harmed anyone but myself, I would add). I had treatment and recovered fully but had to go to an interview at my insurer. The arsehole who interviewed me said (even though he knew I had been treated for addiction) "but I don't understand, why on earth didn't you just stop?". Zero compassion and zero understanding of the nature of addiction. I was very young and utterly ashamed of myself, and he made me feel much worse about myself because I hadn't been able, for a while, to "just stop". I changed insurer and would never go back to that one again. I still feel a grudge against that judgemental man, even though I am sure he is probably dead by now.

If you don't speak to her, why is she still a contact on the family's phones?! 😀

Mines my ex for following me crying to the abortion center telling me I was evil putting me off getting th abortion and leaving me when I was 8 months pregnant and never being seen again. I love my daughter to bits but my life is so hard and difficult and I hate how it feels he trapped me.

I apologise on behalf of the nursing profession...
I hated my paeds placement, but was not that ward sister!

Another one from me- the headmistress of my primary school (although she has been dead for quite some time). The school was a normal LEA state school,but she treated it like it was a fee-paying school. She only wanted children from the surrounding affluent villages of the posh area of the town where it was based. We did not live in such an area and I was refused a place there. At the time my mum was a primary school teacher at another school and knew how the system should work. So she appeared to the LEA and I was assigned a place at the school.

From then onwards the headmistress was very anti me. Ridiculling me for my poor handwriting, suggesting that I should be excluded from the field trip to France as my French was not good enough (it was and I went) etc. I did very well at my 11+ tests - she accused my Mum of coaching me - she didn't - i was good at tests and exams.

Luckily we had a family friend who was a cleaner at the school and she had great pleasure telling the headmistress how good I was doing; ordinarybloke has passed 8 O levels,ordinarybloke has passed 3 A levels, ordinarybloke has been accepted into a Polytechnic, ordinarybloke has got a degree, ordinarybloke has got a job in London working it IT.

A few months ago there was a posting on FB page about the town I grew-up in and someone posted a school photo from this primary school and someone else said what a great school/headmistress she was. Many people replied saying how awful this headmistress was including things she allegedly did that would not be allowed today (such as overt anti Irish racism).

Barclays Bank. I run a group, and during lockdown we couldn't have events so the bank account wasn't used for about a year. They closed it with no warning, and took the balance which was in the hundreds of pounds. Took bloody ages to get it back. They also treated my husband very badly when he worked for them.

If I get cut up on the road by a company van I won't use that company if I want what they are selling, I'll go somewhere else.

There is someone who lives near me who I have a huge grudge against as he vandalised my property. I loathe him.

I could be here all day if I carried on my list, I love a good grudge :)

So funny

wow, i would love to know why, as I have a grudge against him because of his son... although the real story would be outing. spoiled daddy's boy twat

in Labour with my eldest,
A planned home birth
Midwife really anti home births. Really unsupportive. Just sat there
No help with anything, actually hardly even spoke to me, just lots of huffing and puffing about having to be there. She told me she had better things to do!

Eventually after asking four times for gas and air she went to her car to get it then left it on the bed…for me to stare at🤯
I had to ask if I could have some…again!
It became obvious after 26hours ( during which time she went home 4 times , ps I was well on my way on the last two occasions ) that something was wrong.
She called for an ambulance…no discussion…didn’t tell me till the ambulance crew turned up.
I was put in an ambulance and she took the gas and air, even tho the ambulance crew didn’t have any and told her they’d get it back to her.
She then went home without even telling me or the ambulance crew any medical history re the Labour.
It turned out baby was a back to back birth, she hadn’t even checked, which apparently would have been obvious had she felt my tummy to see which way the baby was lying.

Pregnant with my twins 3years later I was given her as my midwife.
I refused.

If I see her at the surgery these days I still ignore her.

Ford car company ripped my husband off 8 years ago for a car brand new it was a pile of crap anyway every time we go past we stick the Vs up to them silly but make sis feel better temporarily 😭

@TheOtherBennetSister I think I might know who you mean!

My MiL was dying of a very agressive cancer - so aggressive that even the consultants were taken by surprise. We were desperately trying to get her out of a shared ward and into hospice care, had no clue what to do to speed this up so we could make her more comfortable as soon as possible. I called Macmillan, who told me they wouldn't help because 'she wasn't actively dying'.

Every time I see their adverts on TV I get the rage. They will never, ever get a penny from me or anyone in our family.

I hold a grudge against a girl who threw one of my school shoes in the bin when i was 12. She was a nasty bully who is now a headteacher of a local secondary school. I'd sooner move house than have my children go the school where she works.

Twunt!

That’s so sweet, thank you! 💕

Names changed to protect the thoughtless innocent. I won't specify how I know this story but it may be possible to guess.

Anna and Bob are getting married. Bob's parents offer to pay for the flowers. Anna and Bob are spending a lot on the wedding and choose a very expensive florist. Bob's parents are not poor but not that well off either, so this is a significant outlay for them, but they suck it up.

Wedding is to be at a hotel. Night before Anna's Dad and his second wife arrive, with their very young child and Nanny in tow. All fine.

Come the wedding day the flowers are delivered to the hotel and corsages and buttonholes are distributed. Bob's Mum gets a corsage and Bob's Dad gets a buttonhole. Bob's sister does not get a corsage and her husband does not get a buttonhole. Bob's Mum is outraged, but as she has a bouquet of flowers in their room and she is a resourceful woman she makes a corsage and buttonhole.

The wedding guests assemble. Bob's Mum notices that every single person in Anna's family has a corsage/buttonhole, including .... wait for it ... the Nanny.

Bob's Mum has never, ever forgotten or forgiven this. Bob's sister thinks it's very funny.

The local coffeeshop. On a Sunday at around half two we walked in for a hot chocolate. The teenagers running the didnt even wait for us to get to the counter before shouting 'by the way we close at 3'.

We ordered a drink and sat down. A steady stream of people came in after us as the other local cafe was closed unexpectedly. They told every person they were closing soon, and at 2.45 refused to serve people!!

Then at 2.50 stood at the door holding it open waiting for us all to leave

I drank that hot chocolate slower than I have ever drunk anything in my life. I strolled out of the door at 2.59pm and will never go back!

Tesco!
Many years ago DS's father had an affair with the a manager of big store by us.
My DM had just separated from her DH and took on a temp job in Tesco.
This person was informed by DS's father who DM was as she was DM's manager. This person went through DM's personal file, took my details and then proceeded to bombard me with phone calls to inform me in detail and tell me about their plans to buy a house, get married etc.
DM informed Tesco and they did fuck all, apparently someone 'had a word with this woman", this woman DF was very, very high up in the company!
I had PND and didn't even think of reporting to police for harassment etc and also scared as he had become terribly abusive whilst I was pregnant.
Still 20+ years later won't shop in Tesco even if this event did me a massive favour 😃

Mine is the person I thought was a work friend but who was bitching about me to everyone at work at the time. 15 years and counting of ignoring her at events and on the street (even when she approaches me).

I bought a jumpsuit from Karen Millen for my daughter and tried to return it after 30 days (happy with exchange or credit note) but got a snarky reply back with a link to a resale site. Have now deleted app and closed account, blocked emails etc so they can remotely feel my wrath 😂. Really cross as love their clothes.

Maybe a bit outing but B&Q. My first job out of uni was at their head office. They treat people like shit. Redundancies every 18months, constantly renewing temporary contracts so they can rid you quick and cheaply. Just awful management. I thought that was what's jobs were like until they got rid of me and I started somewhere else. Couldnt believe you could work somewhere without the knife of redundancy hanging over your head all day every day. I never shop there.

And my other classic, Neneh Cherry. She was on The Word and when quizzed why she'd named her baby Tyson (this was shortly after Mike Tysons conviction for rape) she shrugged and said 'what did she think she was going to his hotel room for?'.

Our student flat booed and so did the live audience. Neneh Cherry, rape apologist. Never forgotten.

Just a super petty one: There was a small independent chemist next to a workplace which I worked at once a week for years. Practically next to them was a great big Boots. When I started working there, I thought I would be nice and support the small chemist when I needed anything. I went in to buy some headache tablets or something, stood at the desk and watched the assistant serve three people who had got there after me and completely ignore me (to this day I don't know why, there is nothing particularly unusual about my appearance etc). I walked out and after that used the Boots almost every week. I loved walking past the small chemist and tutting at their window.