Grudges you continue to hold

[OneFrenchEgg]

Just drive a different way home, past a car wash and remembered how I refuse to use it on principle 😂
Years ago, I was in a hurry and no one in front - as I drove in, and was being 'washed' by one of the chaps, the one in charge allowed someone to jump the queue as they were 'in a hurry' and 'just wanted a spritz' - nope, they reversed all the way back, had everything, and I sat fuming at the the queue jumpy enablement.
Refuse to go back, I'm sure they are disappointed 😂

In 2005 I dreamed sienna miller shagged my boyfriend. Boyfriends long gone and I am very happily married but still
shoot evils at her if I see her on the telly 😂

Do any of you remember the “United Breaks Guitars” song? It totally fucked their share price - best grudge ever.

They tried to rip me off about 4 years ago, by quoting £441 to replace brake pads on my car, then telling me it wasn't safe to drive it elsewhere. Luckily my brother was able to fix it (and the parts only cost £60). Will never go to Kwikfit again!

23 years ago,I found out I was pregnant (no 3 baby)

6 days later I gave birth on the landing floor

I developed pnd-it was so bad,I'm told I tried to throw my own baby out if an upstairs window (no idea-i have a vague memory of standing in front of the window but after that its a blank)

I will never forgive that useless (female) doctor who would listen to my narcissistic mother,(she loves going to the doctor and i know i was discussed in detail) who said I was making it all up and 'attention seeking' and who refused to give me any support at all-15 times I asked for help and was ignored

All I got was 'go home and have a nice cup of tea dear' while I was trying to work out the best way of killing myself and my children (so they wouldn't suffer at the hands of my mother or the care system)

It took everything I had just to crawl out of bed and my thoughts where dangerous

I will never ever forgive that doctor-I could have ended up in the papers for a murder/suicide-and that witch would have been the first to say 'what a shame'

I'm still not right now-and I'm very lucky my son forgave me when my mother told it as a 'funny story' years later (I'm now nc with her)

Head teacher at my son's primary school - just had it in for him (and me). He had ADHD which ended up nor being diagnosed until his teens. I knew something was up - he was clearly bright and enjoyed learning but was terrible at focusing and sitting still. Head teacher gave him a hard time and fobbed of my concerns that he had SEN. Told me he was just naughty and this is what happens when mothers work all the time and dont support their children's learning. Now my daughter is at that school. I thought long and hard about that but as it's an outstanding school where naturally academic children thrive I did feel it was the right choice for her (and it is). She's one of a handful of pupils the school has recommended take the 11+. Of course Head teacher is taking the credit this time round and strangely no comments about me working full time! We get sent an anonymous survey by school every half term and i enjoy putting in the comments every time "this school has poor provision and poor attitude to pupils with special educational needs". I bet she knows it is me. Good.

The child psychiatrist I was sent to at the age of five. I went through school, wondering why I was treated so bloody awfully by most of the teachers, with unwarranted anger and aggression. I refused to see him, once I was 13.

One day, I had a huge row with my year head, as I'd been blamed for having a go at a girl, who'd been targeting me for ages, with rude names, constant slagging off and getting other kids to hit me. I called her a fucking pig and made some oinking noises.

I'd complained about her and been told to suck it up. After the pig event, her mother came to school with an Alsatian and threatened to set it on me. Anyway, the year head was busy calling me a horrible bully and I told her to shut up and stop insulting my intelligence. She'd told me I wasn't treated any differently - after she'd told me I wasn't allowed to react to bullying. Yup, she said that essentially, everyone else was allowed to abuse me and wasn't even allowed to tell them to piss off.

Very soon afterwards, I was expelled and ended up in care.

The home asked me to see the psychiatrist again. He asked why I had turned into a punk and why I was refusing to go to school. I explained that all the teachers went berserk at me, over nothing, over things they'd ignore, with other kids.

He said, "Oops! That's my fault, I told them that you were embarrassed by praise and to be tough on you."

I said, "Thanks, you've ruined my life." The penny had dropped and I realised why I was beaten regularly, whilst my older sisters rarely got more than a ticking off, for wore things.

@orangedalmatian yes I can relate to this. In my last days as a nurse we got a ward manager who was not a nurse was a management graduate. She was a nasty unfair evil bitch and I will hate her with every ounce of my being till the day I die.

@malapast ha ha me too :)

Oh love this.
My list is:

Local estate agent. Partner in national country agent. The fucker told a house seller my DH was a drug dealer and I was a time waster. He cost us our dream home. I wouldn't buy Buck House from him for a £1.

Wren kitchens. Totally ignored when visiting the showroom. I need a new kitchen.

Volvo dealer. They get the Vs. My husband and I were referred to as 'walk ins' that the salesman didn't have time for. Toffy nosed bastard.

Ditto another PP, Macmillan. Dropped my mother when she refused to confirm what she would leave them when she died. I can have big arguments with friends over this one. Stuff your cakes.

My ex colleague who had lied about his qualifications and I found out. I told no one. He got me sacked. I would happily see him jump off a bridge.

Other than that I am a nice Christian woman😁

I feel the same about the stroke association. The huge business I was working at the time had a long term fundraising partnership with them - we raised thousands upon thousands a year.

So they came to mind when a family member had a a massive stroke, needed advice or some form of guidance about care, management or services that could assist him as they were relatively young, the breadwinner of the family with a small baby and new mortgage.

When advised of the issue the lady said in a flat bored voice 'oh that is a shame. Ill send you out a subscription sign up sheet and fundraising details for the association to help with all the good work we are doing'.

I thought maybe I had got through to the wrong department and called another line on another day - nope same script. no advice, no help offered - even to say its not something we can help you with we just fund research (which maybe the case) - 'go look here on this website' or 'this fact sheet' - nothing - just a money grab. I was so mad I was shaking when i got off the call.

I understand my anger is irrational and tied up in the grief of the situation at the time - but it still lights me on fire.

Theunamedcat - at least she's your ex-mil now so silver lining and all that but yes I'd be livid too.

A particular chain of chemists who accused me of shoplifting in one of their stores 25 years ago. They followed me out of the store as I would not stop as I needed a new landline phone and the local Argos was about to close. So they waited outside Argos until I left the shop. Then I let them search my rucksack. Which contained nothing from their store.

Also Ryanair - we were on holiday. Had to check in 24 hours before flight and print our passes. Their site did not work so we could not check in. DH is a techie, we tried several times in several places with several devices and the site did not work.

Turned up at the airport and told them what happened. They said we needed to check in on a machine and pay £10 each for an A4 print out of our boarding passes. We told them what happened and the woman picked up a phone and said 'have we had any trouble with our website? No, ok' as if that was how it worked.

We had not choice but to fork out the £20 but I spent several months complaining until it was reimbursed and I would never every fly with them again. Every time I see one of their planes I wave my fist!

The people whose dog attacked mine and left him needing 5 weeks of vet treatment at a cost of nearly £500. Owners refused to even acknowledge it let alone say sorry or pay our vets bill. Luckily for me the dog bit me as well albeit minorly on my hand, and the Police initially didn't want to know but thankfully another villager came forward whose dog had also been attacked and the owners refused to acknowledge. I pushed them for months and eventually it went to court and they were given a magistrate order to have it muzzled and on a lead at all times in public. Unfortunately we live in the same village still and I saw her yesterday... dog on lead but no muzzle. I've reported them 4 times now with photographic evidence but nothing ever happens. I'm ashamed to say that I've seriously considered a poisoned bone dropped over their fence one night 😤

Thank you, it's just really hard knowing it was avoidable but my GP was only acting in my best interests at the time as I was on the verge of being taken into hospital (probably) and treatment was getting limited, she'd tried the usual psychotropic meds for severe anxiety and insomnia. It's not something I will ever really forgive her for but I guess I should for my sanity. I think the worst part was that she told me not to look up the side effects of the antipsychotic as she knew that if I did, then I probably wouldn't have taken it.

A few years ago a woman crashed into me by my sons school, but the way it happened made me hit a lamppost on the road she was coming out of as I was just about to turn (it's hard to explain)
The woman in the car behind her said to me don't worry it's wasn't your fault and gave me her details as a witness.

I was encouraged to submit a claim by my solicitor from the insurance company as my car was written off. I didn't hear anything for nearly a year until she submitted a counterclaim, it went to court and she won as the judge couldn't believe that someone would pull out of a junction when there was a car right in front of them waiting to turn in

The witness decided she didn't want to get involved and she was the only evidence I had that it was the other driver and not me! It was 6 years ago and still pisses me off when I see her on the school run

Thanks for this thread OP! Utterly entertaining 😂
personally I don’t hold any grudges. but I have things that I’ve done and am ashamed of… still 5/10/15/20 years later…I tend to overthink things

A well-known and very expensive up its own arse private girls' school in London. Grudge held against them for many years.

My DD's (also private) school stopped doing sixth form when she was there, and so we had to look for another one for sixth form. They held an "open day" for various schools and sixth-form colleges to basically tout themselves to us parents. The well-known school had a very fancy and expensive stand and presentation enticing us to choose them, and was very keen to tell parents how amazing they were.

We applied and I took DD to an interview there. The headmistress cow who interviewed her turned her down on the basis that "coming from a different system she wouldn't fit in here, so it would not be best for her". DD had moved from South Africa to London when she started secondary school, so had been at her current school in London for years, was a very high achiever at school and outside it, and on track for excellent GCSEs (top of her class).

DD went on to get the top marks in her school in her GCSEs, as had been predicted. So, the fancy school had gone to all that expense and effort to try and entice people to come there, only to turn down the very best candidate. What was the point of that? (I know why, of course, it was because both she and I had South African accents and the headmistress was a xenophobic bitch). I still enjoy gnashing my teeth about that).

(DD went to a sixth form college and then on to plenty of academic success at university btw. She is now 30, and I still haven't forgotten this incident!).

The PDSA for killing my cat 40 years ago.

My dad was temporarily unemployed so we couldn't afford the normal vet. The cat had an itchy ear which had bothered him for years but it must have got worse or something until my mum decided it needed looking at. They said he had a polyp in there. Removed it, minor op, all fine. Cat spends a week in the cone of shame (very distressed by it) and then went back to have the stitches removed. He died under the anaesthetic for that. He was only 9.

I KNOW that it would probably have happened at any vet's. But I still hiss 'Cat murderers' whenever I pass a PDSA shop and will never, ever donate a penny of my money to them.

My prize was stolen from under my nose in a raffle so I won't do raffles anymore. Still grind my teeth a little over that one.
A lady made my son go back and pick up his pancake in a pancake race and he came in last. Bloody busybody.
Waiting to speak to a nurse on a reception desk in the hospital and another woman came down the corridor and pushed straight in front of me and was seen first. I had been feeling very distressed and just burst into tears.
@Theunamedcat identical experience with my MIL. She's gone now and it came from a good place in her case but oh my god it drove me crazy at the time. She scrubbed a japanese laquered bowl set with a scourer and put a bag of handwash cashmeres in the machine to create doll sized clothes. She also cleaned the shower with a duster which did no damage but was strange.

The Dome in Edinburgh.

We had friends over from America and we wanted to show them a fabulous Hogmanay. Bought expensive tickets for their highly promoted luxury event which promised bagpipes, a ceilidh, a dram at midnight and some nibbles.

Bought a special outfit, got my hair done etc and booked a taxi for extra poshness.

It was fkn awful. They'd oversold the tickets by about four times the reasonable number, and nobody could move or get served at the bar. The queue for the cloakroom took 45 minutes and people just gave up on the toilets and went to other pubs on the same street.

Half the bar staff didn't turn up and the other half had to deal with ten thousand irate and thirsty Edinburgh punters while the management locked themselves in the office and hid.

I was so, so angry. It was 15 years ago but I still hate them. I'll never step over that threshold in my lifetime and I don't care about their fkn Christmas tree.

Local Eden Vauxhall garage. Bastards. I bought a car from them brand new, so nice lot of commission for them. Loyally had it serviced with them each year. Then one year they had it in for service and said they'd call when it was ready. Didn't hear anything. Called a couple of times during the afternoon, was told someone would call back. Finally went down there just before 5 (early closing on Friday which I hadn't known) and it was bloody well shut with my car locked in the rear yard. Stuck without it for the weekend which was a pain, then had to arrange an extra wfh day on Monday to collect it which annoyed my boss. The guy at the desk just smirked at me when I picked it up and complained. Told me I must have given them the wrong phone number!!! (He had written it down one digit wrong but the correct number AND my land line were on my electronic records which he hadn't been arsed to look up). Next day they emailed me a survey in which I made my feelings very clear. They ignored it. I complained to Head office and someone phoned and left a half hearted apology in my voicemail. Next year they rang to book in the next service. I enjoyed telling them I would never use their garage again and when I buy my next brand new car it will be somewhere else. Absolutely shit customer service to someone who'd spent thousands with them!

A 'friend' took our Portishead cd and said it was theirs. We knew it was ours as the cd cover was cracked but they were adamant it was theirs. I know your pain @UnctuousUnicorns

A certain several Michelin starred restaurant known for quirky dishes. Saved for aeons to go for a special event. Not a big restaurant - about the size of a moderate front room, so not hoards of people
Let's just say on that day, the chef only managed to send us bread and a starter because another table had an incorrect order and this had to be sorted.
We left after 1.5 hours and had pizza elsewhere.
Complained, offered 2 free tasting menus as comp. I wouldn't go back there if I were starving..
Seeing him on telly or with associated waitrose crap sends my BP through the roof!

We have nothing to do with HP now I had to return my computer to be mended due to a fan issue. They delayed and delayed getting it into the bench for 2 weeks and then when I said I wanted to raise a complaint they lied and said I'd poured water into it and sent it in so wet that it was literally still dripping out of it. I asked them if they said I was lying about how I sent it in and without missing a beat the man said "yes." (if it was that wet it would never have been accepted by courier too as the packaging would be soaked and also still that wet almost three weeks after it was sent in....? 🤦🏻‍♀️). I mentioned it to the manager of the shop I'd bought it from 5 months earlier and they got it sorted above and beyond (giving me a better grade laptop and a bag and something else I forget now and they took on HP and sorted the issue! I wish I knew what had happened!)

My mum still has a grudge against someone she went to school with in 1964 who lied to the head that she had gone over a 'no man's land' bit of grass that the school kids weren't allowed to. She hadn't done it and protested her innocence but the other girl was believed because her mother was a governor and also donated £££ regularly to the school and so she got the cane for it.