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18, might be pregnant, idk what to do??

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Namexchange05 · 10/04/2023 21:24

So I’m 18, my bf is 17. We’ve been together 3 months, friends for a long time before that. A few weeks ago the condom split, now I’m a week late on my period. I should’ve got the pill but I had one a few weeks before and was told I shouldn’t have it too often so I went to the toilet after hoping it would come out. I was planning on getting the non hormonal coil soon. I’m always due between the 27th-3rd. Checked last month and it came on the 3rd, it’s now the 10th and still no signs. Yesterday my right boob kept hurting and they look a bit bigger but I might be imagining it, I’m getting weird random twinges in my stomach, really vivid dreams, I'm so tired I’m struggling to wake up in the morning after even 10 hours sleep, generally just feel tired like I don’t want to go out and do anything, I’ve been really sensitive, I never cry but I keep feeling teary over small things, and I’m gagging when I use my vape sometimes which never happens, I also feel rly faint every time I wake up. I did a test yesterday and there’s a faint line but I’m not sure if it’s just an evaporation line? I live in a supported accommodation so my situation isn’t great and I’m just really stressed because my period is never this late. I’m going to get more tests tomorrow. :(

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SkyesMama · 10/04/2023 21:30

Stress can delay your period but honestly, you won't know until you test. Try do it with your first pee of the day and then if it's not clear, post the picture on here and we can take a look.

If it is positive, don't panic. You have lots of options open to you and there is lots of support available whatever you decide. Try and get some sleep tonight and don't worry too much about what tomorrow might bring.

HighInfidelity · 10/04/2023 22:23

What would you want to do if you are pregnant? You still have lots of time to make a decision and if you are pregnant then places like BPAS will have a chat through your options with you if you’re struggling to come to a decision yourself.

Dacadactyl · 10/04/2023 22:27

Have you told your boyfriend? If so, what has he said? What is your work situation like? And his?

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TeeBee · 10/04/2023 22:31

Firstly, please try to stop worrying. You're not the first person to get pregnant at 18 and you won't be the last. You're going to be okay.
Do the test again tomorrow. You have options open to you. If it doesn't suit you to start a family right now, you don't have to.
Do you have someone you can talk to about it?

LBFseBrom · 10/04/2023 22:52

Do another pregnancy test. At your age it isn't unusual for periods to be erratic, especially if you stressed. You may not be pregnant, I hope you're not. If you are speak to the pregnancy advisory service.

Whenharrymetsmelly · 10/04/2023 23:05

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TokyoSushi · 10/04/2023 23:07

Whatever the test result, it's going to be ok. You must be fairly early on if positive so you have options. Good luck!

itsmylife7 · 10/04/2023 23:07

Don't you have a support/keyworker ?
Speak to them and ask for support with testing ect

TomeTome · 10/04/2023 23:13

Test again tomorrow. Fits positive go and talk to someone you trust. A teacher, a cared, your gp, someone old and sensible. You have lots of time to make the right decisions for you.

StormiDayz · 10/04/2023 23:14

LBFseBrom · 10/04/2023 22:52

Do another pregnancy test. At your age it isn't unusual for periods to be erratic, especially if you stressed. You may not be pregnant, I hope you're not. If you are speak to the pregnancy advisory service.

I don't think they are erratic at that age. At 18 most women will have had periods for around 6 years. OP if you're late and have a faint positive, it's likely you are pregnant. But try not to worry, do another test and then look at the options available to you. Good luck.

UnicornBoom · 10/04/2023 23:14

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She doesn't even know if she's pregnant yet. My mum had me at 17, I had an amazing childhood. She loved being a mum. Everyone is different, and hopefully OP has support around her.

OP, please do a test, and try not to panic if it is positive. There are lots of options. Do you have support around you?

Bunce1 · 10/04/2023 23:21

Stress can do very strange things to your body and can absolutely manifest in physical symptoms that are real to you.

Test again tomorrow and take it from there. Do you have a support worker you could chat to?

Your mind is going 100 miles and hour- try and relax your mind- listen to a podcast, go for a walk, read a book?

Give it a few more days of testing. there is nothing to do I think for a week or so until you know for sure.

LBFseBrom · 10/04/2023 23:23

My periods were erratic for many years, especially at stressful times.

I do remember once thinking I was pregnant as I had missed two periods; I did a urine test. As soon as I knew it was negative, my period arrived.

However that was me, the op is herself. She says she has other symptoms. Nevertheless the sooner she tests for pregnancy the better.

tax19 · 10/04/2023 23:25

@Namexchange05 as people have said there are so many options available for you. Tackle one thing at a time. Test tomorrow with first urine of the day.
Easier said than done to not panic, but just one thing at a time. Xx

SapphosRock · 10/04/2023 23:27

Some good, kind advice on here.

OP if you are pregnant it is very early days and like the other posters have said you have options.

From your symptoms it sounds quite likely.

mrsfollowill · 10/04/2023 23:29

Test again tomorrow 1st thing. I remember going to the Family Planning Clinic in the 80's aged 15 as I was 12 weeks late- had been in denial. Nipped to the loo before going in for the test and discovered my period had started. Massive sigh of relief and got a prescription for the pill plus 100's of free condoms.

mrsfollowill · 10/04/2023 23:31

Sorry realised that sounds flippant- you have lots of options, it's early days and you will find a path through. I just wanted to reassure you that worry can delay things Flowers

PriamFarrl · 10/04/2023 23:34

Is there anyone you can talk to? Support worker, aunt, teacher? When I was in the same situation I talked to my boyfriends mum.
There are options and you don’t have to be pregnant if you don’t want to be.

caringcarer · 11/04/2023 00:26

Get a digital test. Follow instructions and use wee from early morning.

Stop vaping until you know for sure.

Talk over your result with a trusted person.

You have loads of time and don't have to rush any decision.

You don't have to tell your boyfriend if you don't want to.

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Namexchange05 · 11/04/2023 14:09

Thank you so much for all the responses. I’m about to go and meet two of my friends and we’re going to get some tests. I’ll do one when I get it, and save some for the morning just in case. My boyfriend is the sweetest person ever, but both of our family and home lives aren’t the best tbh. He does know I could be, we’ve been talking about it and I think he would stick around but I know it would be scary and hard for him since I am definitely more mature than him. He’s basically said don’t worry too much until I know for definite, and we will need to discuss every option. I’ve gagged multiple times this morning but not actually puked yet. My back hurts and my boobs are hurting. I’ve also slept a lot the past few days, and I feel a bit emotional. I’m thinking I must be, everything is adding up to looking like I am so if today the test is negative I will be extremely confused, but either way I’ll do another one tomorrow morning with my first pee.

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Namexchange05 · 11/04/2023 14:12

Bunce1 · 10/04/2023 23:21

Stress can do very strange things to your body and can absolutely manifest in physical symptoms that are real to you.

Test again tomorrow and take it from there. Do you have a support worker you could chat to?

Your mind is going 100 miles and hour- try and relax your mind- listen to a podcast, go for a walk, read a book?

Give it a few more days of testing. there is nothing to do I think for a week or so until you know for sure.

I have a keyworker at my place, so I can talk to her if I am. I do have contact with my parents but we aren’t on the best terms, like we’re not screaming or shouting at each other but they’ve pretty much told me since I’ve turned 18 (2 weeks ago) I need to sort things out by myself now and that they’ll talk to me but not do anything for me so I’m not really sure what their reactions will be but tbh I’ve gone this far by myself so either way it doesn’t matter even tho it will be upsetting.

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Namexchange05 · 11/04/2023 14:14

Dacadactyl · 10/04/2023 22:27

Have you told your boyfriend? If so, what has he said? What is your work situation like? And his?

Both currently aren’t working but he is applying for jobs but as his home situation is really messed up rn it’s a struggle but he is looking and is motivated to get one. I’m also not working rn since last time I had a job, I was earning £1.5k after tax and they said my rent would be a grand, so I was looking for a different job but then I decided I’d rather do open uni and maybe also go to college since I’d stupidly be better off money wise like that.

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tax19 · 11/04/2023 14:15

@Namexchange05 you sound very mature and appear to know you have options and it's great you have the support of your friends and key worker.
To be honest the symptoms your describing could also be stress related or PMS from an incoming period. Let us know how you get on so any more support can be offered

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Namexchange05 · 11/04/2023 14:20

tax19 · 11/04/2023 14:15

@Namexchange05 you sound very mature and appear to know you have options and it's great you have the support of your friends and key worker.
To be honest the symptoms your describing could also be stress related or PMS from an incoming period. Let us know how you get on so any more support can be offered

Hi thank you! My friends will be my biggest support tbh, they also aren’t the type to ditch me to go clubbing or whatever, I know things would be a bit different but I fully believe they’d stick by me. I’m hoping it is just pms but I’ve never had any of these symptoms leading up to my period before and I’ve also never been over a week late, my diet isn’t the best tbh living on my own I just eat rice, noodles or chocolate rly which I know will need to change and become a priority if I am pregnant, so maybe it is lack of nutrients delaying it but it’s never been an issue before unless it’s just caught up with me? Maybe stress related but tbh I’ve not been under anymore stress than usual which again has never delayed it. Fingers crossed it is just one of those.

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viques · 11/04/2023 14:25

I am glad you have good friends and support. It sounds as though things have been tough for you in the past and that you are getting things sorted out now.

First things first, you need to know for sure if you are pregnant or not. If you are then get advice from your support worker not only about the pregnancy and decisions you need to make , but also advice about what options are available to you in your current situation re housing etc.

If you are not pregnant, and reading between the lines I think this is what you are hoping for, then please make an appointment at your nearest family planning clinic. I think you need some proper advice on family planning and what would suit you best. You also need to find out what it is best to do if your contraception fails in the future, using the MAP etc. Well done for tracking your periods and fertility, that’s a lot more than I knew how to do at 18!