Page 5 | Do your grown up DCs raid the kitchen cupboards?

JL642 · 2023-04-08T22:00:42+00:00

Just that. Do your grown up DCs who’ve fled the nest raid the kitchen cupboards and fridge as soon as they are back visiting “home?”

WhatTheHeckyPeck · 10/04/2023 08:29

PollyThePixie · 09/04/2023 19:44

you should try it sometime. It’s great fun hanging off their fridge door and asking if they’ve been to the shops yet (even though it’s obvious that they have)

Then there’s also much fun to be had when you toss their scatter cushions on the floor before you go to bed and leave it for them to find in the morning. And that’s even before they realize the remote control is missing.

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For added fun you should also ask if they have a spare pair of socks you can borrow, and accidently take them home with you. It must take at least 6 months until you finally give in to their repeated requests to return the socks.

If you do happen to be on here DD...give me my fluffy socks back!! 😁

Isanny · 10/04/2023 08:37

LuluTaylor · 09/04/2023 19:22

No, they have better manners than that. They're welcome any time and there's always a cuppa available but they recognise it's not their home now they've moved out and the food in the cupboards is mine. They've got their own cupboards with food in their own homes, I don't go round and raid theirs!

It's not about a lack of manners for us. This is and always has been their home. I can't imagine making the atmosphere so formal that they couldn't help themselves to some food if they were hungry. When they come here they are treated like members of the family in their home, not visitors.

Marchintospring · 10/04/2023 08:59

It's not about a lack of manners for us. This is and always has been their home. I can't imagine making the atmosphere so formal that they couldn't help themselves to some food if they were hungry. When they come here they are treated like members of the family in their home, not visitors.

But who buys and cooks the food? It’s basic common sense to ask before helping yourself unless you have so much money/ food that meal planning or the next shop isn’t an issue. If someone in the house ( family or visitor) eats something it’s not there for someone else.
DH is still cross and his DD back from Uni ate all the ice cream one night and didn’t tell him or replace it. Would have lasted him a fortnight normally. She’s not a child so eating so much her issue but its inconsiderate behaviour.

Isanny · 10/04/2023 09:07

Marchintospring · 10/04/2023 08:59

It's not about a lack of manners for us. This is and always has been their home. I can't imagine making the atmosphere so formal that they couldn't help themselves to some food if they were hungry. When they come here they are treated like members of the family in their home, not visitors.

But who buys and cooks the food? It’s basic common sense to ask before helping yourself unless you have so much money/ food that meal planning or the next shop isn’t an issue. If someone in the house ( family or visitor) eats something it’s not there for someone else.
DH is still cross and his DD back from Uni ate all the ice cream one night and didn’t tell him or replace it. Would have lasted him a fortnight normally. She’s not a child so eating so much her issue but its inconsiderate behaviour.

I but the food. I don't have 'so much money' but I have enough that my DC are welcome to eat in the family home.

Isanny · 10/04/2023 09:10

Also I can't imagine being cross about a tub of ice cream. I just don't grudge my kids anything.

I suspect the overall upbringing and experience has a huge part in how people feel about their food though. I would give my kids my everything.

Scot75 · 10/04/2023 09:10

When DD visits from university I let her go through the fridge and see what she can use that is going out of date in the next few days.

Marchintospring · 10/04/2023 10:03

Isanny · 10/04/2023 09:10

Also I can't imagine being cross about a tub of ice cream. I just don't grudge my kids anything.

I suspect the overall upbringing and experience has a huge part in how people feel about their food though. I would give my kids my everything.

He wouldn’t begrudge her getting herself a serving of it. Eating it all so there was none when he got in was inconsiderate.
I’d love to see what giving your kids everything looks like. Do you not say no ever?

Isanny · 10/04/2023 10:05

I’d love to see what giving your kids everything looks like. Do you not say no ever?

I mean I said I 'would', in the context of the thread, not I do.

My kids are fab though. Doing away fine in their adult lives. Neither of the 2 that have moved out have ever come here and eaten a whole ton of ice cream because they are not inconsiderate arseholes, so maybe get down from that high horse?

Alondra · 10/04/2023 10:18

Of course he does. My middle son left home a couple of years ago, he has a lovely apartment and a good job with a good salary. He comes home a couple of times a week and without fail, one of the first things he does is checking the fridge for leftovers. He mostly cooks basic stuff or eats out and while he loudly rejects he comes home so often is because of my cooking, we know it is LOL.

Honestly, we love it. We still have regular great times sitting at the table together.

ginislife · 10/04/2023 10:30

I don't have my parents any more but when I did it was the first thing me & my sister would do. Have a look what's in the pantry or the fridge. My mum used to go mad (fondly and really didn't mind). Is only ever eat it there. I wouldn't leave with a carrier bag. We both still had front door keys as well. I miss them.

Marchintospring · 10/04/2023 10:45

Isanny · 10/04/2023 10:05

I’d love to see what giving your kids everything looks like. Do you not say no ever?

I mean I said I 'would', in the context of the thread, not I do.

My kids are fab though. Doing away fine in their adult lives. Neither of the 2 that have moved out have ever come here and eaten a whole ton of ice cream because they are not inconsiderate arseholes, so maybe get down from that high horse?

Amazing. You were the one on the high horse giving your kids everything and that you “couldn’t imagine getting upset about ice cream”. Although suddenly you agree that eating all the ice cream makes someone an “inconsiderate arsehole”.

My DH fully believes it was because she was given everything she’s fully entitled to take it now.
I on the other hand am a normal parent with limited budget and time. Mine knows what he can help himself to and asks if unsure. He’ll knows when the next shop is and will tell me if he fancies something extra on it. Because he’s an adult as well as my child.

Isanny · 10/04/2023 10:59

Amazing. You were the one on the high horse giving your kids everything and that you “couldn’t imagine getting upset about ice cream”. Although suddenly you agree that eating all the ice cream makes someone an “inconsiderate arsehole”.

I said I would give them everything. That means I would happy give them the ice cream. It doesn't mean they would take the ice cream. These are 2 very different things.

My DH fully believes it was because she was given everything she’s fully entitled to take it now.

Ah, like I mentioned ages back...

I suspect the overall upbringing and experience has a huge part in how people feel about their food though.

Sgtmajormummy · 10/04/2023 11:19

DS is coming to stay for a week’s dog sitting while we’re on holiday. The dog has separation anxiety so DS doesn’t get much time to himself.

Last time I got a midweek supermarket delivery of fresh food and gave him €100 petty cash. He also has an allowance (student) for living expenses.

He not only used all that, he ran us dry of everything in the fridge, freezer, food and drinks cupboards. Even a large roast I hadn’t got around to cooking and had put in the freezer. I think he spent a week cooking out of boredom, shopping from my cupboards!

This year I’m going to do a huge stock-up of things he likes in the hope that at least we’ll have a basic meal in the cupboard when we get back.