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Do your grown up DCs raid the kitchen cupboards?

113 replies

JL642 · 08/04/2023 23:00

Just that.

Do your grown up DCs who’ve fled the nest raid the kitchen cupboards and fridge as soon as they are back visiting “home?”

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RichardHeed · 09/04/2023 08:43

I don’t have grown up DC but when I visit my parents I always ask if snacks are ok to eat, but when we leave I usually end up with a bag full of things my mam insists on me taking.

ForgottenNurseryRhymes · 09/04/2023 08:46

I still do at mums, I have never at my dads. It's just where you feel comfortable and at home, with people not necessarily the place.
It's a good thing, I intend for my children to raid my cupboards until my dying day.

StephanieSuperpowers · 09/04/2023 08:57

Definitely raid my parents snacks etc. I think if we started standing on ceremony, my parents would feel a bit rejected. They love us (me, siblings, in laws, grandchildren) feeling like it's everyone's home.

Cherrysoup · 09/04/2023 08:58

MaitlandGirl · 08/04/2023 23:40

We’ve got one that’s moved out (DD2) and 2 that still live at home. DD2 heads straight for the pantry when she comes over and it drives me mad.

We’re barely keeping ourself afloat and can’t afford to feed another adult, especially one that has more than twice my income. If she needed food or bathroom bits then of course I’d help her but it’s her attitude that gets me the most. She’ll happily walk on and announce she’s “doing some shopping” as she heads to the cupboard.

Why do you let her? I’d go mad.

Cherrysoup · 09/04/2023 09:02

Cailleachian · 08/04/2023 23:47

Yes, but they are skint and I dont mind some tins going missing, or the spare pack of teabags, however they've also started helping themselves to household bits. My chopping board was the last missing item I noticed. It needed replacing anyway, so...meh...but I spent ages searching for it until one of them confessed.

I find that pretty disgraceful. I use my chopping board constantly. Why on earth would they just take something like that?

FannagBeg · 09/04/2023 09:16

Cherrysoup · 09/04/2023 09:02

I find that pretty disgraceful. I use my chopping board constantly. Why on earth would they just take something like that?

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Yes, and letting you waste all that time looking for something that they knew they’d taken. That’s a bit shit, you know?

JustKeepSlimming · 09/04/2023 09:17

I usually eat away at biscuits (usually only 2/3 if I'm there for the day); they also leave out a dish of sweets (eg Jelly Babies or something like that) which are free game. If I got hungry I'd make a sandwich or something; I wouldn't eat something that they might be keeping for another day (eg a quiche or something). I definitely wouldn't just take food from the cupboard to take home though, that seems very odd to me.

When I was a student Mum would give me stuff, or if I asked for something she'd usually say ok, but I never just took random stuff, and never without asking first.

JustKeepSlimming · 09/04/2023 09:21

I totally agree that taking a chopping board or something, and not even telling you, is pretty rubbish behaviour. What were you meant to do when you needed it?!

wishuponastar1988 · 09/04/2023 09:22

I'm 34 and my brother is 32, a couple of years ago my step dad came home from work early to find my brother making himself breakfast in their kitchen Grin he said he had been coming round for weeks when they weren't in and having breakfast! It's a long standing joke in the house now - my mum thought it was hilarious. Whenever I go 'home' I always raid the fridge and usually always get sent home with goodies. I guess that's how our family is though, everyone is different.

Daffodilwoman · 09/04/2023 09:25

Yes but they left home and became independent at relatively young ages.
All very young adults so I don’t mind.

Swannning · 09/04/2023 09:29

We have two that don't live here (one has own flat and the other at Uni but both never lived here as lived mainly with their Mum) they both ransack the place and I always pack up a bag of nice stuff for them to take home (fruit, biscuits, booze etc)

I'm glad that they feel that they can help themselves and bring friends with them when they come, it means they feel at home, which they should.

Original poster
JL642 · 09/04/2023 09:36

Thanks everyone!

This was meant to just be a light hearted thred as my Mum is definitly in the camp of purposely stocks up the treat cupboards for when any of her three DCs go “home” to stay. She likes seeing us make ourselves at home as we don’t stay very often all. I wondered if it was just us but sounds like it isn’t!!

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sandgrown · 09/04/2023 09:44

My ex-Sil’s daughters were in their 40s but would still go “shopping” at their mum’s house . They took food from her fridge and freezer despite both having good jobs .

DoesItHaveKosovo · 09/04/2023 09:50

Snacks are fair game - fruit, crisps, chocolate and biscuits. I don’t take the last of anything without asking and I replace / do a shop whenever I stay. But I’m 38 and flew the nest in 2003, only returning for visits…

Mumof1andacat · 09/04/2023 10:11

No never have done at my parents house. I buy my own food. Parents will always buy in extra if we are coming round (sweets, cakes, nice bits for lunch) I can ask for something if I'm hungry. My ds doesn't just help himself in our house. He will always ask. He's 10.

70isaLimitNotaTarget · 09/04/2023 10:16

Mine haven't fled the nest yet (20 and 23) though my son will always ask "Is that for Easter/Christmas" if he sees something not bog standard in the pantry .
Otherwise its fair game .

MrsSkylerWhite · 09/04/2023 10:17

Eldest has own home and family. Still has a nosey in the fridge when they’re here.

Felixss · 09/04/2023 10:19

No because I have better food at home. I have a look at what he has in though. 🤣🤣. I'm nosey like that.

canina · 09/04/2023 10:22

FFS NO

Noicant · 09/04/2023 10:23

Mines little but I would probably do a shop before she came around and send her home with some stuff. But I have one and hopefully will have some spare cash. I’d be pretty annoyed if she took my chopping board without asking. I’d probably happily hand it over but thats not the point.

fairtrauchled · 09/04/2023 10:25

Yes.DS who moved out 4 years ago always raids the cupboards and snack drawer.He used to ask if he could take a couple of toilet rolls away but now he just helps himself to cans of coke,crisps,biscuits and ice lollies.I don't mind as it stops DH eating them all.I should add he consumes it all in our house and doesn't take it away to stock his own pantry.

Isthatascratchonmygrandmother · 09/04/2023 10:27

No, fridge is always bare and all they drink is alcohol 🤣

rwalker · 09/04/2023 10:28

My mums 82 and I still do

ssd · 09/04/2023 10:29

I remember after i left my dad used to say 'we'd rather keep your picture'

Which i understand nowGrin

WhatTheHeckyPeck · 09/04/2023 10:36

Not the kitchen cupboards, the cheeses in the fridge, OTOH, are doomed the minute she's dumped her bags.

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