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Do your grown up DCs raid the kitchen cupboards?

113 replies

JL642 · 08/04/2023 23:00

Just that.

Do your grown up DCs who’ve fled the nest raid the kitchen cupboards and fridge as soon as they are back visiting “home?”

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TokenGinger · 08/04/2023 23:40

I am the grown up DC. First thing I do at my mum's is check out the fridge and snack cupboard 😂

Paperexcelandpens · 08/04/2023 23:40

I don't have adult children but I'd never do that at my parents. It's so rude.

Paperexcelandpens · 08/04/2023 23:41

Truestorypeeps · 08/04/2023 23:38

No, I would not as a grown up child visit my parents and proceed to help myself to all their food/food they have bought for us if my visit was expected, as it's usually been bought for a reason. If I'm starving, I will ask if there's something I can eat to 'keep me going'. I think this is polite and was how I was brought up.

Yes this for me too.

Mossstitch · 08/04/2023 23:44

whiteroseredrose · 08/04/2023 23:40

Yes. Same as I did with my DM. I was looking for the meaning of life in the fridge, apparently.

😂your mum sounds like my sense of humour. There was an episode of the sitcom my family where the son walks in and takes the roast turkey off the table in front of the rest of family and walks out with it back to his flat, used to joke my son was like that.

Cailleachian · 08/04/2023 23:47

Yes, but they are skint and I dont mind some tins going missing, or the spare pack of teabags, however they've also started helping themselves to household bits. My chopping board was the last missing item I noticed. It needed replacing anyway, so...meh...but I spent ages searching for it until one of them confessed.

Beenaboutabit · 08/04/2023 23:50

I’m 53. I’m when I visit my parents, not only do I hammer the biscuits but I also steam the booze.

That’s what you do at your ma and da’s house.

Pixiedust1234 · 08/04/2023 23:50

Wait...did you mean munching on things while they were visiting or taking stuff back to their house??

Yes to first, never to second.

Runnerduck34 · 09/04/2023 00:01

DD at uni ( so not properly left) always raids cupboards to take a food back with her, even raids the freezer and uses a cool bag.
I don't mind, she's a student with not much money, I even encourage it tbh. Her younger siblings are less impressed when they realise cupboards are bare!
At my parents house I help myself to snacks or make a sandwich whilst there, it still feels like my home, but wouldn't take anything home with me unless pressed, my mum often has stash of things that were on offer!

EllandRd · 09/04/2023 00:02

Yes always and takes it back home with them!

MrsDoylesDoily · 09/04/2023 00:15

Paperexcelandpens · 08/04/2023 23:40

I don't have adult children but I'd never do that at my parents. It's so rude.

No see this is both judgemental and misguided to say it's rude.

If (as you can see by many on this thread) you've been told you're more than welcome to do it, then it's not rude at all.

Exercise a little thought before judgement here.

FannagBeg · 09/04/2023 00:19

I wasn't allowed to eat in my parents' house (the family home) as a child, teenager or young adult without permission so I'm a bit agog at all the posters here who would take their parents' stuff!

My adult DC and their partners are told to help themselves when they are here in my home, however; and I truly mean it. But they do tend to check with me. I don't eat much and would rather they had what they need tbh - but they do have manners.

USaYwHatNow · 09/04/2023 00:24

30 yo with 32 yo husband here! We absolutely do at both my parents and his mums house! My mum would be offended if we didn't, and often says she is glad my husband feels a comfortable to do so. It comes up in conversation often as my SIL (bro's partner, together same length of time as me and my DH) quite clearly doesn't feel as comfortable and will only accept a glass of water aty parents house when offered, never helps herself to even a drink despite being told to on numerous occasions.

Starseeking · 09/04/2023 00:32

I don't, however my SIL always does this at my parents, which drives them bonkers. As soon as she enters the house, it's straight to the fridge, as if she's never seen food before.

My DPs would never say anything to her directly as she's not their DD, they just moan about it to me instead.

CurlewKate · 09/04/2023 00:38

I suppose it depends what you mean by "raid". I always make sure I have their favorite things in and I expect them to be eaten. But they didn't eat "ingredients" when they lived here and they still don't. They treat it like their home. Which it is.

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JL642 · 09/04/2023 00:42

Pixiedust1234 · 08/04/2023 23:50

Wait...did you mean munching on things while they were visiting or taking stuff back to their house??

Yes to first, never to second.

I more meant raid the cupboard for snacks while staying, ie DC will check out the cookie/crisp situation in our kitchen cupboard for snacks in between meals during their stay, as opposed to looking at tins/meal ideas/cookies to take back to their home.

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TheChosenTwo · 09/04/2023 00:42

Dd1 is at uni so not really properly left but is always excited to come home and get back into the snack cupboard.
My brother and sister though come straight in and into my fridge, it’s weird as I’d never do it at their house! Or anyone else’s house to be honest. Even when I go to my mums I don’t go rummaging in the cupboards or fridge!

MoreSleepPleasee · 09/04/2023 00:46

Mines still at home but when I go to my mums I look in her cupboard for biscuits.

DramaAlpaca · 09/04/2023 00:49

Yep, heads straight into the fridge within thirty seconds of coming into the house.

Isanny · 09/04/2023 08:29

I more meant raid the cupboard for snacks while staying, ie DC will check out the cookie/crisp situation in our kitchen cupboard for snacks in between meals during their stay, as opposed to looking at tins/meal ideas/cookies to take back to their home.

I don't think eating snacks is a 'raid'

Is there some reason you don't want your DC to eat some crisps/cookies?

FrenchandSaunders · 09/04/2023 08:34

One at uni, one at home so haven’t left home properly. The one who lives here is constantly standing in front of a full fridge complaining there is nothing to eat. The uni one is over the moon at the sight of the fridge when she pops home.

ThroughThickAndThin01 · 09/04/2023 08:36

Yes. They peer into the rammed full of food fridge, and the well stocked cupboards and ds aged 22 will declare there’s “nothing to eat” 😂

GETTINGLIKEMYMOTHER · 09/04/2023 08:37

I’m always pleased to see ours, long grown up with homes of their own, but if there’s anything they fancy in cupboards or fridge, they are more than welcome to it.

ThroughThickAndThin01 · 09/04/2023 08:38

It’s annoying isn’t it Fench. I should just buy the pot noodle and crisp aisle.

ApolloandDaphne · 09/04/2023 08:38

Yes they do. They check out what i have got in and help themselves. They know i will have bought all their favourites. When i go to my DM's i still raid her sweetie stash and i am age 60 now!

Schnooze · 09/04/2023 08:39

Only by asking first. But then they were required to ask even when they were living at home, unless it was general stuff.