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Do your grown up DCs raid the kitchen cupboards?

113 replies

JL642 · 08/04/2023 23:00

Just that.

Do your grown up DCs who’ve fled the nest raid the kitchen cupboards and fridge as soon as they are back visiting “home?”

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megletthesecond · 09/04/2023 10:38

Yes. But they keep snacks for us in our own cupboard anyway.

MaitlandGirl · 09/04/2023 11:36

Cherrysoup · 09/04/2023 08:58

Why do you let her? I’d go mad.

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She gets yelled at every time. Whenever she gets called out for being rude she says “you call it rudeness, I call it self confidence”

One of these days she’ll get fed up with me having a go all the time and she’ll start behaving like a reasonable person.

Girasoli · 09/04/2023 12:15

Me and my brother do this, we are 33 and 35. We only get told off if we try to take the treats for the grandchildren 😄

Isanny · 09/04/2023 12:22

She gets yelled at every time. Whenever she gets called out for being rude she says “you call it rudeness, I call it self confidence”

Maybe try talking?

Cherrysoup · 09/04/2023 15:11

MaitlandGirl · 09/04/2023 11:36

She gets yelled at every time. Whenever she gets called out for being rude she says “you call it rudeness, I call it self confidence”

One of these days she’ll get fed up with me having a go all the time and she’ll start behaving like a reasonable person.

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I’m assuming you’ve told her what you’ve said here? That you’re barely staying afloat and she has twice your income? I find her selfishness abhorrent.

CurlewKate · 09/04/2023 15:48

Well, my dd has just arrived, hugged me and the cats, eaten two hot cross buns and fallen asleep. She's 25.

BelindaBears · 09/04/2023 15:49

Is it still their “home”? When I was in my 20s in a succession of flat shares etc, home was still my parents’ house and I probably would have done this. Now I’m in my 30s and have my own home I wouldn’t, even though they still live on the same house. It’s not my home any more.

BeatriceFranklin · 09/04/2023 16:07

Two do, one doesn’t. The one that doesn’t still lives in the UK, the other two live abroad and they love coming home for things that they can’t get where they live so yes, my cupboards are raided. I normally get sent a list of what to get in for them coming. It’s a long journey for two of the DC, their spouses & DGC to come to visit and I like to have things in they’ll eat, especially the little ones.

BeatriceFranklin · 09/04/2023 16:11

MaitlandGirl · 09/04/2023 11:36

She gets yelled at every time. Whenever she gets called out for being rude she says “you call it rudeness, I call it self confidence”

One of these days she’ll get fed up with me having a go all the time and she’ll start behaving like a reasonable person.

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Or one of these days she’ll start acting like an adult and stop walking all over you! I wouldn’t put up with this with any of my DC, it’s rude, entitled and obnoxious behaviour.

SunUp · 09/04/2023 16:21

Yes, mine do. They still have their own door keys and will let themselves in, have a cuppa and raid the cupboards.
It's not the first time my eldest has let himself in and cooked a fry up for himself and his mate if they're working nearby.
If I'm at home they still do it all the same.
I don't mind or care in the least.
I do the same at my parents and they don't mind or care either.

Xiaoxiong · 09/04/2023 16:35

I don't do this at my parents because they never have anything in except for exactly what we are about to eat. And then they send me home with all the leftovers anyway!! I think they exist on white wine and those pesto mozzarella balls from M&S.

bigbluebus · 09/04/2023 16:38

I haven't managed to get rid of mine yet as he bounced back home after Uni, but I can very much imagine him doing this once he's left home.

Marmite27 · 09/04/2023 16:46

ssd · 09/04/2023 10:29

I remember after i left my dad used to say 'we'd rather keep your picture'

Which i understand nowGrin

My dad says ‘I’d rather keep you a week than a fortnight’ when commenting on how much my children eat.

at my parents there’s always bowls of sweets/chocolate and open cans of pringles lying around. We’re all encouraged to eat as much as we want. I do look in the pantry, more to be nosy and see what they’ve been buying than to clear it tbh.

Vitriolinsanity · 09/04/2023 16:46

Yes. My mums always got all our favourite things in. You could arrive post apocalypse and there she'd be with a cup board full of it.

I'm 54

She is 86

EVHead · 09/04/2023 16:47

Yes because I encourage it. There’s never anything in my parents’ cupboards so I make sure there’s plenty in mine.

PollyThePixie · 09/04/2023 16:49

Yes. I expect it of them. It shows that they’re home and I count my blessings that I can fill the fridge for them and that they still want to hang off the fridge and cupboard doors whilst asking ‘what goodies do we have’.

PollyThePixie · 09/04/2023 16:50

Sorry. I’m 65. Mum to 5 aged between 32 and 44.

User639762456 · 09/04/2023 16:55

Yes DS is 30 and is straight to the fridge and food cupboard

MissGroves · 09/04/2023 16:55

My eldest has just moved out and when she comes home she will be allowed to help herself just like she’d never left.

hiredandsqueak · 09/04/2023 17:19

No but I'm a feeder so will have baked and have a meal prepared to feed them. I would find it pretty rude if they raided the fridge or cupboards without asking though and they would know this so they wouldn't.

PollyThePixie · 09/04/2023 17:24

hiredandsqueak · 09/04/2023 17:19

No but I'm a feeder so will have baked and have a meal prepared to feed them. I would find it pretty rude if they raided the fridge or cupboards without asking though and they would know this so they wouldn't.

I would have a meal prepared for them as well but they’d still raid the fridge and the cupboards looking for goodies.

AuntyMabelandPippin · 09/04/2023 18:35

Mine are in the fridge the second after they've given me a cuddle. 😂

ssd · 09/04/2023 18:43

I'd hate to think my kids wouldn't be able to walk in here and open the fridge door. They are welcome to anything i have.

LuluTaylor · 09/04/2023 19:22

No, they have better manners than that. They're welcome any time and there's always a cuppa available but they recognise it's not their home now they've moved out and the food in the cupboards is mine. They've got their own cupboards with food in their own homes, I don't go round and raid theirs!

PollyThePixie · 09/04/2023 19:44

LuluTaylor · 09/04/2023 19:22

No, they have better manners than that. They're welcome any time and there's always a cuppa available but they recognise it's not their home now they've moved out and the food in the cupboards is mine. They've got their own cupboards with food in their own homes, I don't go round and raid theirs!

you should try it sometime. It’s great fun hanging off their fridge door and asking if they’ve been to the shops yet (even though it’s obvious that they have)

Then there’s also much fun to be had when you toss their scatter cushions on the floor before you go to bed and leave it for them to find in the morning. And that’s even before they realize the remote control is missing.

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