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HumanBurrito · 2023-04-08T14:11:07+00:00

Uncomplainingly takes the kids to see the Super Mario Bros film so you can have an afternoon snooze 😍 Your turn!

samqueens · 08/04/2023 20:38

ProvenceBrand · 08/04/2023 18:08

You hear him getting up and getting dressed at 2am although he hadn’t woken you, as your 22 yr old DD’s car won’t start when she left a nightclub in a city 40 minutes away and had called her dad. Gets her car started and then follows her home to make sure she gets in safely.

Always behaving like this without question, never complaining.

I love this too ♥️

I love this whole thread

PieonaBarm · 08/04/2023 20:38

Buys you Tena lady pants for when you come out of hospital and then doesn't bat an eyelid when you wet the bed as your kidneys are buggered. Then leaves you to sleep all afternoon and accepts your 9pm bedtimes because you've got undiagnosed long Covid.

mauveiscurious · 08/04/2023 20:38

BCBird · 08/04/2023 20:30

What a lovely thread. I hope I am as fortunate to.meet someone like this.

Marry for love and kindness it's the only things that matters

Arewethebadguys · 08/04/2023 20:39

BessieSurtees · 08/04/2023 15:43

… prioritises you and the children

Drives to your parents home every night to carry your dying father up the stairs so that he can sleep in the same bed as his wife rather than the palliative care bed set up in the dining room, without being asked.

Just wow. This is so touching. Your partner sounds like a wonderful person ❤️

CoffeeLover90 · 08/04/2023 20:40

Well, this has melted my icy heart. I'm so pleased for you all. @BessieSurtees Your partner especially, is amazing. I'd like to think he's doing this, without being asked, because he can't imagine not lying beside the one he loves. Your parents must be so grateful. Wishing you and your family, all the best

Timeturnerplease · 08/04/2023 20:40

Gets up at 5am every Saturday and Sunday with the preschooler so you and the toddler can have a lie in together.

Allthegoodusernamesareused · 08/04/2023 20:44

Drops absolutely everything to look after your young children (only one of them his) so you can spend your mother's final days and nights with her in hospital without having to worry.

On a less depressing note, he also did all the housework while I was working yesterday and cooked an amazing roast for when I got home. He's definitely a keeper ❤️

Allthegoodusernamesareused · 08/04/2023 20:51

BessieSurtees · 08/04/2023 15:43

… prioritises you and the children

Drives to your parents home every night to carry your dying father up the stairs so that he can sleep in the same bed as his wife rather than the palliative care bed set up in the dining room, without being asked.

This has brought tears to my eyes. What a wonderful man.

marriednotdead · 08/04/2023 20:52

Waits 2 hours for you to call him back when he finds out you’re visiting a terminally ill neighbour.. And only then tells you he’s sitting in his broken down car a few miles away and needs you to pick up a couple of tools from the house and take them to him.

Noicant · 08/04/2023 20:53

DumpedByText · 08/04/2023 16:36

This has made me cry, what a wonderful man you have, sorry about your lovely dad x

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What a wonderful person your husband is.

ClairDeLaLune · 08/04/2023 20:57

LubaLuca · 08/04/2023 15:32

Helps your wobbly on his feet dad to the gents' in a crowded pub without anyone even noticing what was happening. My dad told me after, said he was a good lad.

💜 that’s lovely

ClairDeLaLune · 08/04/2023 20:58

BessieSurtees · 08/04/2023 15:43

… prioritises you and the children

Drives to your parents home every night to carry your dying father up the stairs so that he can sleep in the same bed as his wife rather than the palliative care bed set up in the dining room, without being asked.

💜 and that’s lovely too. Sorry about your dad 💐

PauliesWalnuts · 08/04/2023 21:01

@Newuser82 he is still very much on the scene nearly 3 years later. Should have put it in the original post but two weeks earlier I watched him save a stranger’s life - he’s not perfect, but he’s a keeper.

marleyandme · 08/04/2023 21:08

Feels like home when you're with him.

Isn't afraid to have the hard conversations or point out kindly when maybe you are being unreasonable.

Is supportive through the bad times and the first person you want to talk to about the good times.

Is the opposite of you in some regards but that's why they're teaching you new skills (I've grown up in a conflict averse family, unhealthily so, he's taught me to stick up for myself and not get walked over, and I like to think I've taught him to tone some emotions down and have better control of them).

Beautiful thread!

IncaTrail · 08/04/2023 21:09

In bed, has stroked my head and run his fingers through my hair, every night we have been together for the past 30 years so I go to sleep relaxed.

GobbieMaggie · 08/04/2023 21:09

Everything, from looking after the kids while I worked long days, weekends and Christmases, to his gentle kindness, patience and good humour. He also gives me a jolly good spanking when I'm a naughty girl. 😊

70isaLimitNotaTarget · 08/04/2023 21:10

LubaLuca · and BessieSurtees posts are lovely , thoughtful , amazing men
My own DH is lovely and I hope in the years ahead my own DS will be equally so .

On a light hearted note - my DD and I kept guinea-pigs ( 8 of them over an eight year period ) DH was never a fan . DD and I shared the workload but i was aware as the parent the responsibility was mine
If I was ill he;d pitch in with DD or alone to "feed and clean and check"

And he;d often come back from the supermarket with "I thought the piggies might like this" salad or herbs . (Though he always protested he didn;t trust them !)

AgnesX · 08/04/2023 21:12

Helps me off the loo and off the floor when my MS floors me.

Neither of us deserve this.

PoorDD1 · 08/04/2023 21:24

What a lovely thread!

@BessieSurtees @PauliesWalnuts @clocktock your partners sound particularly amazing, it made me well up!

Also a little bit sad that I can't think of anything... DH is a general good egg, does his fair share and is a great dad but he doesn't do any of the spontaneous or thoughtful things mentioned here. Constantly makes himself cups of tea and never asks if I'd like one for example. But then I guess he couldn't think of anything to say about me either. Maybe we've fallen into a rut.

Eightiesgirl · 08/04/2023 21:24

After having his last session of chemotherapy, that knocks him off his feet, still gets up at 2am to drive you and your devastated mum to the hospital, when they have phoned to tell you your beloved father is dying. Then coming back alone and waiting for your elderly grandmother to wake up to gently break the news to her.

AllOfThemWitches · 08/04/2023 21:27

BessieSurtees · 08/04/2023 15:43

… prioritises you and the children

Drives to your parents home every night to carry your dying father up the stairs so that he can sleep in the same bed as his wife rather than the palliative care bed set up in the dining room, without being asked.

❤️

TheaBrandt · 08/04/2023 21:31

On your first night out having dinner with other mum friends after second baby does not call you despite baby and toddler both throwing up everywhere. I went into check them both had fresh slightly random night clothes and bedding but happily asleep. Dh hadn’t wanted to spoil my night. So many other similar events.

Cattycrabing · 08/04/2023 21:31

Comes to a&e on his way home to sit with you despite having spent the day cleaning a deceased relatives house.

gives you a bed bath later that week since you’re too poorly to have a shower. somehow still makes you feel attractive when you’re stuck in a hospital bed & don’t look or smell your best.

whatyoulookingfor · 08/04/2023 21:32

I've been with DH for 6 years. Everyday he does something that makes me feel special. He puts up with me working too much, anticipating when I need a drink or food. He cooks and cleans without being asks, does shopping and I only have to mention that something is broken and he fixes it, or replaces it.

He looks after my sister like she is his own, fixing her car or things in the house. He never complains when I book time away without him, even though I know he hates it. He drives my kids wherever they need to be and looks after his daughter.

He is far from perfect but he is a kind soul and I'm unbelievably lucky to have him.

Itsokay2020 · 08/04/2023 21:33

BessieSurtees · 08/04/2023 15:43

… prioritises you and the children

Drives to your parents home every night to carry your dying father up the stairs so that he can sleep in the same bed as his wife rather than the palliative care bed set up in the dining room, without being asked.

That’s beautiful 💐