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Marry the man who...

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HumanBurrito · 08/04/2023 15:11

Uncomplainingly takes the kids to see the Super Mario Bros film so you can have an afternoon snooze 😍

Your turn!

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HumanBurrito · 08/04/2023 18:14

@StreetSpirit3 absolutely not

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clocktock · 08/04/2023 18:15

We had only been dating 3 months when my mom died. It was quite sudden. My mother and I didn't have a good relationship to say the least and I was taken by surprise by the grief I was overcome with.

My now dh came straight to me when I told him (lived in the next city). And that night when my mind was racing and I couldn't switch off, when my whole body just froze and I couldn't process wtf I was going through. Well, he got my into his car at 3am and drove me all the way to the coast. We watched the sun come up, ate crisps and drank 7up right there on the beach. He was just there, just for me.

He is still my rock 25 years on. He took on my children and made sure they wanted for nothing. He's told me he loves me everyday for all these years. And if my feet are cold he takes his socks off and puts them on mine lol.

Newtrix · 08/04/2023 18:16

BessieSurtees · 08/04/2023 15:43

… prioritises you and the children

Drives to your parents home every night to carry your dying father up the stairs so that he can sleep in the same bed as his wife rather than the palliative care bed set up in the dining room, without being asked.

This is amazing, true gentleman

GlassBunion · 08/04/2023 18:17

Oh wow @BessieSurtees

Just wow.

GlassBunion · 08/04/2023 18:19

My beloved of over 30 years will take me anywhere, for whatever reason.

I struggle with driving.

And he tells me that he loves me so many times.

samqueens · 08/04/2023 18:21

BessieSurtees · 08/04/2023 15:43

… prioritises you and the children

Drives to your parents home every night to carry your dying father up the stairs so that he can sleep in the same bed as his wife rather than the palliative care bed set up in the dining room, without being asked.

This brought tears to my eyes OP. I think you won the lottery ♥️

samqueens · 08/04/2023 18:22

(Not OP - sorry, emotional 🤣)

AwwJeezyPeepsMan · 08/04/2023 18:26

@BessieSurtees what a beautiful thing to do! ❤️

WildFlowerBees · 08/04/2023 18:28

One who stays with your terminally ill mum (unbeknown to me to count her breaths) whilst you step out the room to speak to the palliative care nurse, who sat beside her and talked to her so she wasn't alone when she died. I missed her by 10 seconds. One who stays calm when the rug is pulled from under you and you feel like you can't breathe, who makes you laugh until you almost wet yourself and gives you the best hugs just because.

There are so many shitty men but so many wonderful men. I am always reminding myself how lucky I am.

twolilacs · 08/04/2023 18:33

Brings you a cup of tea in bed every morning for 25 years.

ElmtreeMama · 08/04/2023 18:36

The one who does everything round the house because you're chronically ill, who puts you and your daughter first always, who would do anything for anyone, who runs your baths just right and loves you just as you are.

GremlinDolphin4 · 08/04/2023 18:37

What an inspiring thread! What a man you’ve got BessieSurtees.

I will keep going with the dating apps for a bit longer! Xx

Toddlerteaplease · 08/04/2023 18:39

BessieSurtees · 08/04/2023 15:43

… prioritises you and the children

Drives to your parents home every night to carry your dying father up the stairs so that he can sleep in the same bed as his wife rather than the palliative care bed set up in the dining room, without being asked.

He's a keeper. What a thoughtful thing to do.

Florissant · 08/04/2023 18:41

What a lovely thread. I agree with "My advice is to prioritise personality, not looks or financial status". To that I would add prioritise character.

Lampzade · 08/04/2023 18:41

BessieSurtees · 08/04/2023 15:43

… prioritises you and the children

Drives to your parents home every night to carry your dying father up the stairs so that he can sleep in the same bed as his wife rather than the palliative care bed set up in the dining room, without being asked.

Wonderful man

orangeflags · 08/04/2023 18:43

Mucks out your horses for you

mamaduckbone · 08/04/2023 18:45

...brings you a coffee in bed every morning.
...loves cooking.

Silkierabbit · 08/04/2023 19:02

Will look after you in cancer treatment and chemotherapy, cooking all your meals and taking you to and from appointments.

Every morning brings you a cup of tea in bed and a tin of tuna for the cat.

When pregnant and you have a craving for a McDonalds goes out at 2am to get one.

ItsCalledAConversation · 08/04/2023 19:04

Is kind, respectful and funny. Sexy and rich helps too.

cakencookieobssessed · 08/04/2023 19:06

Takes the words out your mouth and vice versa. We're so in tune with each other, it's crazy. We even have the same dreams.

strawberryicecreamice · 08/04/2023 19:10

Helps you stick on your diabetes devices (pump, glucose monitor) in awkward to reach places

StrandedStarfish · 08/04/2023 19:10

accompanies you home in a taxi that he pays for, and offers to replace the contents of your pickpocketed wallet after his friend, your boyfriend, asks you what you expect him to do about it

Ellie56 · 08/04/2023 19:14

Drives to your parents home every night to carry your dying father up the stairs so that he can sleep in the same bed as his wife rather than the palliative care bed set up in the dining room, without being asked.

That is so lovely @BessieSurtees that it has moved me to tears.

Newuser82 · 08/04/2023 19:16

BessieSurtees · 08/04/2023 15:43

… prioritises you and the children

Drives to your parents home every night to carry your dying father up the stairs so that he can sleep in the same bed as his wife rather than the palliative care bed set up in the dining room, without being asked.

Ah that's so lovely. What a wonderful thing to do x

HappyMarriage · 08/04/2023 19:16

Is a morning person so gets up early every morning with the kids without complaint (in fact he likes doing it) and brings me breakfast and coffee in bed