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How to diplomatically decline coronation events

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BansheeofInisherin · 30/03/2023 08:36

I am in a social group which is organising an event at the Coronation. I am rather fervently anti-royalist. Some of them are very pro-royalist, which is their business. Is there a polite way to decline without fibbing or offending others? Can I just say briefly," Sorry, that's not my thing." They already know I am not travelling as I committed to the group before I realised they were doing a coronation event.

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UWhatNow · 30/03/2023 08:38

Why don’t you just tell them you’re anti-monarchist?

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BansheeofInisherin · 30/03/2023 08:40

I think they might think I am being difficult? I might add I am the only BAME person there ( hate that expression but can;t find another).

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ComtesseDeSpair · 30/03/2023 08:41

The polite way surely is “I already have other plans.” No need to say anything else really. Those plans could be sitting at home reading your book.

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BeanzToastie · 30/03/2023 08:41

"I'm ever so sorry, I'm busy that weekend. Hope it goes well - I'll look forward to catching up with you later in May"

LilylilyDaisy · 30/03/2023 08:42

If you'd rather not share your views with them, could you tell them you are going to a family coronation event instead?

Hoppinggreen · 30/03/2023 08:42

DH is anti Royalist - he left the country for a few days to avoid the fuss around The Queens funeral.
He just responds with “not my thing” when people are talking about Coronation events. We may have a street party but I can probably lure him out with food and alcohol

Bamboux · 30/03/2023 08:42

No one is going to care. They just want numbers. Say you are busy.

Zola1 · 30/03/2023 08:43

Sorry, I'm not going to be able to make it. Hope you all have a great time.

declutteringmymind · 30/03/2023 08:45

Somethings come up I think.

MichelleScarn · 30/03/2023 08:45

Bamboux · 30/03/2023 08:42

No one is going to care. They just want numbers. Say you are busy.

Exactly. Will you be the only person you know @BansheeofInisherin not doing something for it. Don't stress just say 'can't make this one m, enjoy!

drpet49 · 30/03/2023 08:45

Hoppinggreen · 30/03/2023 08:42

DH is anti Royalist - he left the country for a few days to avoid the fuss around The Queens funeral.
He just responds with “not my thing” when people are talking about Coronation events. We may have a street party but I can probably lure him out with food and alcohol

Left the country for a few days? What an extreme reaction.

Hoppinggreen · 30/03/2023 08:48

drpet49 · 30/03/2023 08:45

Left the country for a few days? What an extreme reaction.

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I was joking
He took advantage of the long weekend

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BansheeofInisherin · 30/03/2023 08:49

I am probably overthinking. will just say "cant make it. doing something else." which is true actually.

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Nimello · 30/03/2023 08:49

BeanzToastie · 30/03/2023 08:41

"I'm ever so sorry, I'm busy that weekend. Hope it goes well - I'll look forward to catching up with you later in May"

This is the perfect reply.

IhearyouClemFandango · 30/03/2023 08:50

I'd just say "sorry, not my bag". Or simply that you're busy

thecatsthecats · 30/03/2023 08:50

I'd just go with "I have plans, sorry".

Mind you, I actually tell people that I have plans to sit alone and read rather than come to their parties, so I'm not the best judge!

(Sort of lighthearted! Actually, it's more like, "I have a lot on that week so I'm looking forward to recharging")

FinallyHere · 30/03/2023 08:58

BansheeofInisherin · 30/03/2023 08:49

I am probably overthinking. will just say "cant make it. doing something else." which is true actually.

I'd say

"thank you for the invitation, I'm sorry I can't make it. Have a lovely time "

and go on my way rejoicing.

Woodywasatwat · 30/03/2023 09:03

Depending on what mood I was in, it would be,

”thank you, but I’ve already got plans on that date but I hope it goes well!”

or

“I’m not a Royalist.”

or

“Unless you are putting the lot of them up against a wall, I’m not interested.”

(No, I would never say that last one, and no, I don’t want to slaughter young children and yes, I know it’s not a nice thing to say given the tragedy of the Romanovs and their poor children. I am just joking).

ehb102 · 30/03/2023 09:06

Speaking as someone who is organising a Coronation event, saying "Thank you. It's not my thing" is quite enough. None of anyone's beeswax why not. If they push say "I'm sure it will be lovely but no thank you."

Most people doing coronation celebrations are more about the celebration than the coronation IME. We like cake and bunting. Bring back May Day!

MrsPelligrinoPetrichor · 30/03/2023 09:07

ComtesseDeSpair · 30/03/2023 08:41

The polite way surely is “I already have other plans.” No need to say anything else really. Those plans could be sitting at home reading your book.

This, easily sorted .

viagrafalls · 30/03/2023 09:12

"not my thing, not my king" 😆

Train007 · 30/03/2023 09:14

Just say that you have other plans for that weekend.

Heyahun · 30/03/2023 09:14

i always get out of the country too for these events lolz!! I Can't stand them

Also it's a good time to go away as we get the extra bank holidays and all that so use the time for a little break away :)

MoggyP · 30/03/2023 09:15

"I have other plans"

No need to explain at all

Oblomov23 · 30/03/2023 09:15

"Not my thing".