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How to diplomatically decline coronation events

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BansheeofInisherin · 30/03/2023 08:36

I am in a social group which is organising an event at the Coronation. I am rather fervently anti-royalist. Some of them are very pro-royalist, which is their business. Is there a polite way to decline without fibbing or offending others? Can I just say briefly," Sorry, that's not my thing." They already know I am not travelling as I committed to the group before I realised they were doing a coronation event.

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RestingRulers · 30/03/2023 14:20

It's normal to not want a monachy in the UK especially with younger people. People didn't mind the Queen as she 'worked' hard and kept her mouth shut!

The rest of them though! 🤦🏻‍♀️

GOW56 · 30/03/2023 14:24

Can you just say thank you for inviting me but you are not a royalist so would rather not take part.
Do you think they won't accept you if you tell them how you feel?

Brefugee · 30/03/2023 14:24

the thing is, were i a fan and were i to be arranging an event, I'd much rather hear "no thanks, I'm not a monarchist/I'm a republican" than either "thanks" and then an excuse later not to come, or "no thanks I'm busy" because then i will know that if i had a party for - idk, the next coronation? next royal wedding? - then i'd know not to ask that person again and save us all time and potential awkwardness.

tbh most Germans i know are baffled by the love for the monarchy, but i do know several who are Big Fans. I keep telling them to take them back, but they really just enjoy the soap-opera-ness of the British RF compared to all the others

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Delphigirl · 30/03/2023 14:27

I think just say you are not available.
I have been invited to a service of thanksgiving for the coronation in the local cathedral because of my work… I thought about not going but then I thought there are plenty of Jewish and Muslim people who sit through church services at Christmas without complaint for work-related reasons, what’s the difference? So I’m going as a representative of my work community and I will just enjoy the music.

NeverTrustAPoliceman · 30/03/2023 15:39

I was asked to help out at a coronation event. I just politely said I am a republican and already had plans to be far away from any media or shenanigans that weekend.

Can you buy it-shirts saying NOT MY KING??

NeverTrustAPoliceman · 30/03/2023 15:41

T-shirt. I have no idea what an it-shirt is.

maddy68 · 30/03/2023 16:04

Just tell them you are anti royalist

AuxArmesCitoyens · 30/03/2023 17:17

Go with thanks but i'd rather stick pins in my eyes than celebrate the grotesque farce that is royalty.

WeBuiltThisBuffetOnSausageRoll · 30/03/2023 17:31

You would think that in 2023 Britain you could freely and completely say that you are a republican, or that just don’t believe in the monarchy, and that should be fine. But it’s not. It’s still such an emotive subject, for so many people , and so many still get very upset if you show any kind of disdain for the royal family. It’s really mad. But I also think it’s very much linked to class system in this country, and to the traditional mentality around that.

It's insane, isn't it - and part of a wider, very concerning, modern sphere in which 'wrongthink' is now condemned. It's not enough that we have to have a monarchy, with no say whatsoever as to who the king or queen is, but that we are not actually 'allowed' to peacefully express our dissatisfaction with the system. You have to actually love Big Brother.

I'm very intrigued as to what these songs are, though - worshiping the king, by the sounds of it. Apart from the anthem - long since hijacked to make it about one person rather than the country, which is generally what an anthem is for - what other songs are there?

DanceMonster · 30/03/2023 17:34

WeBuiltThisBuffetOnSausageRoll · 30/03/2023 17:31

You would think that in 2023 Britain you could freely and completely say that you are a republican, or that just don’t believe in the monarchy, and that should be fine. But it’s not. It’s still such an emotive subject, for so many people , and so many still get very upset if you show any kind of disdain for the royal family. It’s really mad. But I also think it’s very much linked to class system in this country, and to the traditional mentality around that.

It's insane, isn't it - and part of a wider, very concerning, modern sphere in which 'wrongthink' is now condemned. It's not enough that we have to have a monarchy, with no say whatsoever as to who the king or queen is, but that we are not actually 'allowed' to peacefully express our dissatisfaction with the system. You have to actually love Big Brother.

I'm very intrigued as to what these songs are, though - worshiping the king, by the sounds of it. Apart from the anthem - long since hijacked to make it about one person rather than the country, which is generally what an anthem is for - what other songs are there?

This is interesting, as in my ‘circle’ I think it’s the opposite. You’re far more likely to be condemned for being a royalist than a republican. Love for the royal family is seen as something for the older generation.

Beantag · 30/03/2023 17:42

Redebs · 30/03/2023 13:56

The fact that we are living off the international privileges stolen at the cost of so many lives from other countries is not something I want to celebrate.

I am not personally responsible for the horrendous acts of violence endured by my mother-in-law as a chiid in India, but I'm bloody well not going to a party to gloat it.

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I'm not sure what your issue here is, I'm not celebrating it either, and despite having complex feelings for the monarchy myself I'm not bothered if people are for or against it- it's personal choice. I didn't say anything about going to a party to gloat about it.

WeBuiltThisBuffetOnSausageRoll · 30/03/2023 17:50

This is interesting, as in my ‘circle’ I think it’s the opposite. You’re far more likely to be condemned for being a royalist than a republican. Love for the royal family is seen as something for the older generation.

That's encouraging. I mean, either view should be equally respected - but for the fact that one view gets their way and the other most definitely doesn't.

Does anybody know what happened to the protestor with the 'Not my king' banner? I believe he was 'removed', wasn't he? As far as I can remember, he wasn't making any threats of violence or hatred whatsoever: just peacefully stating a perfectly legitimate and far from uncommon (albeit embarrassing to the powers that be) opinion.

TwoLeftSocksWithHoles · 30/03/2023 18:19

I thought you had already said that you wouldn't come until you had had an apology and be assured that you will get police protection? 🤔

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