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How to diplomatically decline coronation events

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BansheeofInisherin · 30/03/2023 08:36

I am in a social group which is organising an event at the Coronation. I am rather fervently anti-royalist. Some of them are very pro-royalist, which is their business. Is there a polite way to decline without fibbing or offending others? Can I just say briefly," Sorry, that's not my thing." They already know I am not travelling as I committed to the group before I realised they were doing a coronation event.

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CurlewKate · 30/03/2023 09:15

"I'm really sorry, I can't make it. Have a lovely time."

Tempting though it might be to do a Phoebe!

BitOutOfPractice · 30/03/2023 09:17

I know how you feel op. If I wasn’t coming back from a holiday the day before, I too would try and get away abroad that weekend. I did the same for a royal wedding a few years back. As it is, I think I’ll catch up on some work instead.

I think just a breezy “sorry I’m busy but have fun” will suffice in case anyone tries to to jolly you along into joining in.

RestingRulers · 30/03/2023 09:18

@drpet49

"Hoppinggreen
DH is anti Royalist - he left the country for a few days to avoid the fuss around The Queens funeral.
He just responds with “not my thing” when people are talking about Coronation events. We may have a street party but I can probably lure him out with food and alcohol"

"Left the country for a few days? What an extreme reaction"

😅 We booked a trip abroad as soon as the coronation dates were announced

I can't stand all the ridiculous and nauseous reporting of any of the royal events. I can't stand the monarchy. I couldn't help but respect the Queen but apart from her the rest of them are a waste of space. They have no morals and are happy to use their positions to serve themselves. If you had their wealth wouldn't you be doing more to distribute it. They are one of the biggest land owners in the UK. They should return the land to the country.

The monarchy is outdated and needs to be disbanded.

We shall enjoy our holiday and the fact we won't be having to hear about the coronation will add to the enjoyment

All the hushed tones and sycophantic reporting is too much. I don't understand why anyone has any respect for King Charles.

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FoxFeatures · 30/03/2023 09:21

I fortunately booked a holiday a year ago that just happens to be flying out in 6th May. As someone who finds monarchy intolerable, it couldn't have worked out better.

Enko · 30/03/2023 09:21

Op a polite. "I'm busy that weekend but have fun'' is all tou need to do.

Am I the only one who thought this would be a spoof Meghan thread from the title?

PauliesWalnuts · 30/03/2023 09:30

I just tell them that I’m a republican. Tends to stop the conversation and we move onto something else.

Paq · 30/03/2023 09:33

I'm as anti royalist as they come but would accept a party invitation because it's a party. I'm also an atheist who eats Easter eggs and accepts Christmas presents.

Paq · 30/03/2023 09:36

For those who leave the country, it's not that difficult to avoid, just stream tv and music instead of watched bbc and listening to the radio.

Stugs · 30/03/2023 09:37

I mean, it's obvious how you decline politely isn't it? Have you never had to come up with an excuse before? Unless you want to mention that you are anti royalist which i know some people do during royal events.

skippy67 · 30/03/2023 09:41

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GardenWeedWitch · 30/03/2023 09:50

I'm a Republican, think the whole circus is cruel. My boss is a right wing royalist tied up in knots because he now has to fund another bank holiday brought in by the Government.
I shut down all liberal bashing rants with my grateful thanks to getting more bank hols funded by business owners under the Tories....

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BansheeofInisherin · 30/03/2023 09:51

By the way, if I ever mention I am anti-monarchy/republican, people ask if I am on "Meghan and Harry's" side. It then goes into a long discussion about "Spare":) I am on no one's side really.

As for the Xmas comparison, I am also an atheist and attend Xmas parties and eat Easter eggs. But my father and grandfather marched against monarchy and went to jail for it ( colonial subjects). This feels different.

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Cinnamon23 · 30/03/2023 09:54

‘Sorry, I’ve made plans with the family as it’s a bank holiday! Nice to spend some time together.’

DanceMonster · 30/03/2023 09:54

You’re over thinking. It’s not my thing either so I just tell people I’m busy when things are arranged. No one has ever told me I’m being difficult (and if they say it behind my back I don’t care 🤷🏻‍♀️)

LadyKenya · 30/03/2023 09:57

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Same. What the jeff has that got to do with this non issue?

Paq · 30/03/2023 09:58

I'm also from an ex colonial country, one still f**ked up by it all. My friends know my views but still invited me. If I go I won't be rude about it, because that's what living in a pluralist society is about. Plus I just really like cake 🙂

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BansheeofInisherin · 30/03/2023 10:00

I suppose this is where my pluralism ends. Anyway, thanks for the replies.

I do expect on MN that being BAME will never have anything to do with anything!

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Beantag · 30/03/2023 10:01

Just say no thanks, I'm never sure why people don't say this more rather than worry about what to say and what excuses to come up with!

Mirabai · 30/03/2023 10:04

I just say “No thanks I’m a Republican”.

Mirabai · 30/03/2023 10:06

By the way, if I ever mention I am anti-monarchy/republican, people ask if I am on "Meghan and Harry's" side. It then goes into a long discussion about "Spare":) I am on no one's side really.

I was asked what I thought about M&H the other day. I said “No interest in anything to do with the monarchy at all”. That shut it down completely.

Mirabai · 30/03/2023 10:07

Also - Christmas is fun, Easter eggs are nice but talking about the monarchy is tedious.

RestingRulers · 30/03/2023 10:08

Paq · 30/03/2023 09:36

For those who leave the country, it's not that difficult to avoid, just stream tv and music instead of watched bbc and listening to the radio.

That might work if you stayed at home the whole time but as someone who likes to be out and about I would definitely not be able to avoid it.

I've no qualms about telling people I don't support the monarchy, I don't like them as people and I don't like it as an institution. There is no place for them in a modern democratic country. I'm not rude about it. People are often surprised at the strength of my views as I'm usually a quiet person.

I love UK history but times have changed and it's time for the Monarchy to end.

Does anyone even like King Charles??

LadyKenya · 30/03/2023 10:09

BansheeofInisherin · 30/03/2023 10:00

I suppose this is where my pluralism ends. Anyway, thanks for the replies.

I do expect on MN that being BAME will never have anything to do with anything!

Look I do not like that term either. I was just thinking that you were overthinking it all, due to being a different ethnicity to the others. It does not have to be hard. Just say thanks but I have plans for that day, so I cannot come.

Zipadeebooyah · 30/03/2023 10:10

BansheeofInisherin · 30/03/2023 08:40

I think they might think I am being difficult? I might add I am the only BAME person there ( hate that expression but can;t find another).

You can't find another? Why can't you just say what ethnicity you are 🤷🏻‍♀️

Maybe it's different in Scotland but I don't know a single person here who gives a shiny shit either way- celebrate the day and have fun, or... you know... don't.

Hoppinggreen · 30/03/2023 10:11

Paq · 30/03/2023 09:33

I'm as anti royalist as they come but would accept a party invitation because it's a party. I'm also an atheist who eats Easter eggs and accepts Christmas presents.

Easter has naff all to do with Christianity, even it’s name is pagan.

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