Where to put all these kids?! Wwyd?

[MissMooley]

Wasn't sure where to post this to get the most advice.
Basically I'm in a 3 bed house. Me, dds 14 & 19, and ds 11&8.
Currently, dd 14 & 19 have their own rooms, and the boys share. I have a bed in the living room.
It's worked for us nicely, but now I'm due twins in 10 weeks 😂🙈
I have no idea where they're going lol
My options so far are:

1- Scrap having a living room and just make it a full bedroom for me and the twins.

2- make the living room a full bedroom, and move the sofa etc into the outshed, but not sure how that will go in winter, it gets pretty cold and I don't have the money to fully convert it (also a council house, so would need permission I assume?)

That's it. I don't like the idea of having no living room but there's literally no space to have the cots and all the baby stuff in there with my bed and the sofa etc too.

I've considered the girls sharing, but eldest has asd and several mh disorders so can't see that working for her.

Just feel a bit stuck and hoping someone has a magic solution I haven't thought of!

How about you take your own advice butt out and MYOB

@MissMooley Sorry for the not so helpful comments

I would look on Pinterest for inventive ideas so that your girls either share or you divide the living space up (part bedroom for older DD and living room)

If you have a drive or access in the back garden, I would definitely try a caravan which can be hooked up to to the house re power, even if it is used as living space rather than a bedroom. You could watch TV in one, for example.

I would certainly try and do something with the outshed too. Again, as living space or storage rather than a bedroom.

I think you'll need to use the rooms in the main body of the house for bedrooms, as that would be safer and warmer. A sofa bed might help.
But at least you can keep the military campaigns worth of baby equipment in a revamped outshed.

The boys are already sharing 1 of the 3 bedrooms

I think I've made it pretty clear these babies were not planned
Says every careless person who knows it's not a good idea but goes ahead anyway because it's what 'they' want 🙄
Just like commenting after the fact is pointless, so is worrying about the ones who are really going to be impacted. The time to think of them was 7 mths ago 🤷‍♀️

Girls in one room, you and the twins in one room. They can share a cot and then when they’re ready for a bed I’d get a double bed with a bunk bed above it. Let one of your daughters use your bedroom when you’re not in it?? You’ll make it work because you have to. The kids will be fine.

Your title of “where to put all these kids” sound like you think it’s kind of funny to me.

half of all fraternal twin sets are girl - boy

Stop having kids?

Lots of lols and laughing emojis on her posts, it’s really not a funny situation at all

I don’t think it’s funny but it’s like OP thinks it’s a bit of a hoot.

All the people going on about contraception and blah blah what are you hoping to achieve? What do you want OP to say?

Find a personality and some character while you're at it.

This is a person's family, and I can tell you any day of the fucking week I'd prefer to be a part of OPs family in shared bedrooms than yours with all the resources in the world, just based off what you're inadvertently showing about your character.

You are not superior. Denigrating OP does not make you one ounce better than you are but perhaps it does give you a nice warm self righteous feeling inside that distracts you from whatever you have going on that you'd rather not think about.

Your behaviour is tone deaf, tactless, classless and destructive. It does not make you look like the paragon of virtue you think it does. One can have views about paying one's way or whatever else but you are talking to an individual about their family and their own situation. You come across as cheap, classless and lacking understanding about life.

@MissMooley not sure if you're coming back but the logical suggestion seems insulating the outshed for yourself and the babies especially as it is connected to the house. Perhaps staying in the sitting room until it is converted if it takes a while. All the best.

Talk to the council about doing this. Your eldest needs her own space so you could apply for a disabled facilities grant.

https://www.gov.uk/disabled-facilities-grants

Ignore the comments about having more children, live doesn't always work as planned, accidents happen and strangely in this country children can opt for surgery that will leave them infertile but grown women cannot get sterilisation.

You shouldn't need council permission to move some sort of flooring, insulation and heater into the outshed, but is it big enough for a sofa and tv etc, mine certainly wasn't. Fit a chest freezer and just about room to get to it and a few boxes of bits n bobs.

Over-crowding is out unless the oldest gets PIP and possibly you're her carer which if you work full time you won't be able to be officially. They will say she should move out to her own place I'm afraid.

I'd have the girls share and move upstairs, how are you coping as a family with no real communal space to be together, and thats only going to get worse when theres more babies - you could still make the outshed into a chill-out space for older kids which may take the pressure off caused by them sharing.

Without a PIP claim there is absolutely no chance of this and with one, you still have to prove a degree of financial hardship.

Then theres something like a six month wait for the application to go in, IF they'd do something, you're looking at 18 months down the line here at best. Factor in another 6 to 12 months for a PIP outcome as well, potentially two or three years before that would happen, by which time one would hope the eldest had moved out.

I am still waiting after 6 YEARS for my DFG, and in my case, I cannot wash myself or cook food for myself so significantly more urgent than not enough bedrooms.

Yes. abstinence. The father of these twins has already bolted. Not really a love match then.

Yet hear you are trying to be superior with your comments oh the irony

Is the kitchen big enough to have a sofa/telly in it for social space?

Put an application in for a bigger house, even if it's unlikely, you never know

Will the council do a loft conversion if no space or bigger homes available? Worth an ask maybe

*here

6 kids and not one of the fathers is still around OP? I find this fairly unlikely. Good luck with it all.
In future take the pill and use a condom. Never known that to fail for anyone.

What about an extension?

Here's a few ideas about dividing up your existing space, be it a bedroom or part of the living area. There is lots of inspiration on the internet.Hope it helps.

www.thespruce.com/diy-room-dividers-4138361

As pp said, I would put a divide in biggest room for the girls to share or a divide in the living room and put eldest DD in that and you take biggest room upstairs.
The outbuilding would be my 3rd option and that would be for eldest DD

Abstinence