Where to put all these kids?! Wwyd?

[MissMooley]

Wasn't sure where to post this to get the most advice.
Basically I'm in a 3 bed house. Me, dds 14 & 19, and ds 11&8.
Currently, dd 14 & 19 have their own rooms, and the boys share. I have a bed in the living room.
It's worked for us nicely, but now I'm due twins in 10 weeks 😂🙈
I have no idea where they're going lol
My options so far are:

1- Scrap having a living room and just make it a full bedroom for me and the twins.

2- make the living room a full bedroom, and move the sofa etc into the outshed, but not sure how that will go in winter, it gets pretty cold and I don't have the money to fully convert it (also a council house, so would need permission I assume?)

That's it. I don't like the idea of having no living room but there's literally no space to have the cots and all the baby stuff in there with my bed and the sofa etc too.

I've considered the girls sharing, but eldest has asd and several mh disorders so can't see that working for her.

Just feel a bit stuck and hoping someone has a magic solution I haven't thought of!

No I don’t think you are are you lol, sorry about that.

Cousins of mine grew up in a house with 10 occupants and 3 bedrooms, not ideal but no harm caused to anyone. They are all fully functional adults, extremely close with each other and their mum and had a very happy childhood.

I would strongly reconsider DD1 having her own room, she may cope absolutely fine sharing with her sister. - a family home should have a living room for you all to join together. You need to consider all your children’s needs not just DD1s.

While I think some posters are being unpleasant to no end. It is just hard to fathom why you would continue a pregnancy with 4 kids in already cramped conditions. Of course it’s horrible to have a termination you don’t want, but your first duty is to the kids you have. Having this many kids in these conditions is likely to reduce their life chances.

The OP sounds like a lovely women and I am sure she does a great job under the circs, but it is still hard to understand the choice she made. I hope she gets some more space somehow.

This. No mention of any partner either.

I'm sorry but I struggle to understand. Just how many contraceptive failures have you had?

DH and I made the decision that three was our limit. We doubled up on contraception when necessary, "to be sure, to be sure" as the saying goes.

When we had our third child, I was sterilised, which is pretty goddamn effective, Ergo, no accidental pregnancy. If by some quirk of fate, that hadn't worked, and we had twins, five would never have fitted into our lives, our finances, our home or our plans. Termination would not have been available, or an option, so I get that bit.

I've no idea how you are going to cope with that many kids in so little space.

I don't IRL know anyone who wanted 2/3 children and ended up with 5/6? I once worked with a man whose #3 turned out to be #3 and #4. My cousin's DH had the snip after #2 but they went on to have #3 and #4. A work colleague had the snip after #2 but had a 'surprise' #3 afterwards.

My parents managed to sort out their contraception in the early 70s after #4....

I find it a little bizarre that OP is saying no contraception is 100% whilst also not saying what exactly led to the twins and apparently no partner on the scene. Having 6 children none of whom seem to have Dads actively involved IS shocking and it’s not rude to say so. I have 1 child as I can afford 1 child. It would be selfish to have more right now. Having your tubes removed is an option. So is not relying on one method of contraception. I just feel awful for these children that won’t even have a living room or any space to themselves. It sounds unbearable.

Some people don't agree with terminations and that's the reason they can't have one.

THIS

And what's going to happen when the babies start growing up and need their own rooms?

No that was for the Bookworm/ Book-something poster 😂

@Capricornone1 it's "must have" not "must of".
You seem rather unpleasant trying to make OP feel shit.

and here you are trying to do the same mocking my poor grammar 🤣. So why did you choose my comments in particular when there’s plenty more to choose from 🤷🏻‍♀️🤔

You have no idea of OP's religious background. Do you generally struggle to understand complex situations?

Yes sadly my condition can cause me to understand complex situations.

And yet there is a whole section on mumsnet about boarding schools - where a handful of children sleep in the same room and have no space and that is applauded. Butt out.

*struggle

That doesn't even make sense.

🤣🤣🤣 what a ridiculous comparison

Who is that aimed at

OP, have a look around IKEA or look at their website - I've seen rooms double up in the showroom as sleeping and living areas. Add a few beanbags and throws and you'll be fine.

You could have had your tubes tied after the last one was born.
I'm curious as to why you haven't?

It's an option after you give birth this time.

I did after my 2nd and yes it was a success.

You. Obviously.

I corrected myself it should say struggle

Not unpleasant, realistic

Careful you’ll have @OldBaguette starting on you in minute lol