Where to put all these kids?! Wwyd?

[MissMooley]

Wasn't sure where to post this to get the most advice.
Basically I'm in a 3 bed house. Me, dds 14 & 19, and ds 11&8.
Currently, dd 14 & 19 have their own rooms, and the boys share. I have a bed in the living room.
It's worked for us nicely, but now I'm due twins in 10 weeks 😂🙈
I have no idea where they're going lol
My options so far are:

1- Scrap having a living room and just make it a full bedroom for me and the twins.

2- make the living room a full bedroom, and move the sofa etc into the outshed, but not sure how that will go in winter, it gets pretty cold and I don't have the money to fully convert it (also a council house, so would need permission I assume?)

That's it. I don't like the idea of having no living room but there's literally no space to have the cots and all the baby stuff in there with my bed and the sofa etc too.

I've considered the girls sharing, but eldest has asd and several mh disorders so can't see that working for her.

Just feel a bit stuck and hoping someone has a magic solution I haven't thought of!

This place is hideous - and getting worse.

Stop, think, am I a dickhead here - then don't post. The OP is asking for practical advice not for one of you to climb off your lovely well maintained high horse and help her, who you have decided in your own imagination is unworthy of your help but very welcome of your scorn.

Ticks your boxes, so you need to make sure we all know you are much better than gasp, a single mother, shock, with a large family, wow in council housing....you could never Mrs Bucket never, you have fine china and 6 hats not 6 kids.

OP, I hope you can get sorted out with some clever arrangement. It may be worthwhile becoming DDs carer on paper, even if you can't get paid for it as sometimes it's opens up some closed doors with SS/council.

Good luck with the rest of your pregnancy - please take it easy and don't move heavy furniture and things- get help!

Thank you @70sDuvet .
I was once a financially stable, married woman paying a mortgage a few years ago.
Let's hope none of these judgemental characters have their lives turned upside down overnight too!

Rude! It’s what many of us feel about this post

Who has more children if you’re not financially stable? That’s not judgemental, its a valid point 🤷🏻‍♀️

Can the boys live with their dad?

It really cannot be about you now. It needs to be about the kids. They shouldn’t have to live like this. You simply are not in the position to house and raise 6 kids. It will only get worse as the new babies get older.

Can the boys live with their dad and then sleep in the living room at weekends?

I'd imagine no one intends to @Capricornone1
I think I've made it pretty clear these babies were not planned 🙄

Forgetting bread at the shop is a mistake, bringing more children into the world than you can adequately house is not a mistake!

I made a mistake. But then I got a termination because I had 2 kids and was a single parent who got pregnant by accident to a newish boyfriend. Another child was absolutely not good for me or my children so I didn’t have it. Mistake sorted.

@LaughingSomnambulist not a possibility

And that’s a responsible thing to do in my opinion

And I guess the 2 new kids won’t be able to live with dad once breastfeeding has stopped, even half the time? To give your children some peace.

Fully grown adults who already have several children should be able to not make mistakes when it comes to having babies. Ffs don’t have sex if you can’t be sure you won’t end up pregnant.

The OP is just not seeing it though

I had the implant, we had both been tested and together for 8 months at the time. The implant is pretty close to 100% and you can’t really have “user error” so it seemed “sure.”

Mistake still happened but luckily, in this country, we have access to medical abortions without any difficult.

Single parents do not need to live a life of celibacy just in case. There are options, you don’t need to end up with extra kids. That is just poor decision making.

She is not wrong.

Well I'm glad others were mentally able to deal with abortion better than I could.
I'm not asking for anything other than a bit of room advice. I'm not throwing a hissy fit over not being given a new house on a plate.
I don't need telling about contraception failing 7 months after the fact either.

I’m not sure what the comments saying she should have terminated changes, these babies are on their way, trying to make OP feel shit won’t make the situation any better.

Im so so sorry OP. 😔

No matter what you do, 7 of you in a 3 bed house is never going to work. It is never going to be comfortable. Your kids will be severely negatively affected, their mental health, their attainment at school, all of it, will be negatively affected.

It is never going to work and when those new babies grow up and you have toddlers plus teens plus your adult children… it will a nightmare for all of them.

All these children must have fathers. Some of them should go live with their fathers and visit you. There is nothing wrong with that; they’ll get their own space in a home which isn’t packed full.

Looks like you are the troll here to be fair

It didn't affect them before.
Of course they have fathers, with their own filled households and one with a step mum who thinks it's OK to ridicule their mh problems.

I expected all these comments, and thought I was made of sturdier stuff for dealing with them seeing as I'd predicted most of them. Which I managed until I had to repeat myself over and over. Now it's just bringing me down.

So I'm going to leave it there.
Thank you to everyone who suggested solutions, I've got plenty to look at 🙂

Are you telling me to fuck off!