I just gushed blood all over myself and the sofa in my local cafe and im mortified please send thoughts and prayers

[houseeveryweekend]

And I just ran away...
I did not handle it in a mature manner or alert anyone to it. So those poor cafe staff are just going to come across a big pool of blood.
Luckily it was a plastic coated sofa/bench type seat so I imagine they will be able to clean it easily.
I didnt notice until id stood up to leave and glanced back to see if id left anything at the table.. and the cafe was full so it would've been very obvious if id walked back and started cleaning it. And I realised I must also be drenched in blood so I just ran away...
I ran away, I ran all the way home.
I feel bad. I shouldve acted like an adult and just taken the hit and walked back to the sofa to clean it.
Its my local cafe as well and I go in there alot and they will know I was the one sitting there...
I can never go in there again can I?
I'm 35 years old. I also had like a full night time sanitary towel on that id literally only just put on fresh so I do not know how that happened.... I just gushed so much blood everywhere suddenly... I kind of felt it happen but thought it was fine, didnt realise how much there was and that it had soaked thru everything!! Grim.

Nah, you're all grim. Don't conflate the function with choosing to leave bodily waste in a public place for other people to accidentally come in contact with. That is foul. I have a disabled cousin who has accidents and she has never left it for others to just deal with, what is everyone's bloody excuse? Do you think she doesn't find it embarrassing too?

I’ve been there many times, it’s mortifying. As others have mentioned it’s definitely worth seeing your gp about this and a referral to gynae. I left mine for too long, years even. I ended up so anaemic that I needed an iron transfusion. I had a uterine ablation a year ago and now get a one day, tiny period. I hope you get it sorted soon op.

That happened to my mum and she had fibroids. Gp visit op.

Hmm.

Its odd that you’re so mortified but then post on mumsnet and with a vaguely humorous title ‘send thoughts and prayers’.

But if it is real, yes you should have cleaned it up. Some poor person may sit in it without looking or a young child may find it before a parent/carer notices.

Does that matter? Who would it actually affect? People get off on all sorts of weird shit but we wouldn't know as we're all behind our own screens. Each to their own...

Something similar happened to me, on a velvet theatre seat and on to the floor. Then on my husband's workmate's car seat, and the worst time, the first time I went for coffee at the home of a new friend. I bent to pick up my baby from the floor, and gushed out all over her cream carpet (through a Tampax and sanitary towel). I was cleaning it when her neighbour called in and said "Oh dear, had an accident?" and my friend quickly said "It's the pleasure of having babies, but she's so gorgeous, we forgive her, don't we?" and directed the attention away from me. It turned out I had fibroids, but I put up with it for ten years until my friend told me that if I didn't phone the GP she would. You need to see your doctor. I'm so sorry this happened to you. Just go in and apologise and explain how embarrassed you were. They'll understand.

@morganmac no but she probably has more experience with it so doesn't panic and run off like me for whom this was the first time its ever happened or the other poster who was 17years old.. or even the other poster in dhs coz what could she have done there really?
I absolutely acknowledge i shouldve walked back over and cleared it up but I just freaked out and made a bad choice.
I imagine other people who have heavy periods more often would have reacted better because it wouldnt have been as much of a shock and theyd have been thru it before. Always embarrassing but i imagine you learn how to deal with it a bit better over time

It's inevitable that someone on their way to a job interview wearing a cream suit sat there next without even noticing.

I understand feeling embarrassed, but there's no excuse for leaving it for others to deal with, and without even alerting anyone.

Aw, you poor thing. It's not that uncommon, maybe if you'd confessed to a suitable looking lady they have been very understanding. But I can see why you'd want to run off.

Only happened to me once, which was actually an early miscarriage, but I know friends it's happened to. I certainly wouldn't be embarrassed or judge them if it happened in my house - I'd rather just know straight away so it's easier to clean.

@MyNameOnHisGuitar yeah I think thats more about me trying to overcome embarrassment with humour isnt it... but if you want to believe I bled all over somewhere for fun and dont give 2 shits about it go ahead. I hope it never happens to you.

That’s ok then.

Some people need some e safety lessons like we give to kids.

That kind of thing happened to me a lot during peri menopause- still is but less frequently now, but it started for me at 45ish. You might be hitting it early, but best get checked out.

OP I’m more concerned that you’ve been bleeding between periods than the heavy bleed to be honest and what you did or didn’t do right . Your GP will treat both seriously and organise a scan I would have thought . I had heavy bleeding a few years back and a scan was set up within 2 weeks.

shame on the idiots having a go

Yep, same here, although the tranexamic acid as a short term fix and mirena as a longer term one was all that I needed. @houseeveryweekend you mention that you're pretty tired at the moment, and that may be a sign that you're anaemic, so don't forget to mention that to the GP as well as the heavy bleeding, as they'll probably want to get a full blood count done. And if you do need iron supplements, I found ferrous fumarate had less unpleasant side effects than ferrous sulphate, and it absorbs better if you take it with orange juice.

Can we stop with the pervert stuff? I've been on mumsnet a very long time. If they had any doubts about this thread im sure they would remove it.
and I do agree that some random stranger potentially getting off on women talking about periods really isn't any womans concern, why should it be? I dont care, I just came to get advice and support and talk about how embarrassing that experience was.
I'm sure there's some folks who get off to all the childbirth stories on here..
Why should anyone stop talking about anything just coz some random might be aroused by it? Honestly constant troll hunting annoys me. Report the thread if you want but stop being hostile towards me for no reason.

I started this type of bleed in my late 30s, you could well be peri like I was, but please do go to see a doctor asap, it's important to rule out endo and fibroids and you cannot do that on the internet.

I can understand the panic and quick exit, but from the staff's point of view it's atrocious to have to deal with somebody else's blood, it's not something you sign up for when you take a job in a cafe. What I'm saying is please do send flowers and an apology/big tip (to be blunt a tenner isn't enough) - anonymous would be fine.

Phone them up now and ask to speak to the manager. Explain you've just got home and pretend to only now have noticed you must have flooded and you are worried about the seat you were sat on and could someone please check it. Then you can always drop a box of chocs off to the staff as apology, if you feel you need to. I say ask for the manager as my ds worked in a cafe and if a woman had phoned saying this, he probably wouldn't have done anything about it, just forgotten about it after the call.

My thoughts exactly.

Please, no one share graphic lurid tales of public menstruation accidents.

God. Id have runaway too. I hope you weren't wearing white trousers.

Yeah that's disgusting, especially leaving it for someone else to deal with. What is wrong with some people - be an adult and at least let them know.

@Daffodilfrog yes dont worry I'm definitely going to go get it checked out. I was thinking of going anyway with the bleeding in between periods but this has made me take it more seriously. I'm up to date on my smears which have all come back fine.. my last wasnt long ago so I'm not too worried about it being cancer or anything like that but as other posters have been saying might be fibroid or cysts or perimenopause... so yes I definitely will make an appointment tomorrow. Thanks for your support.

I don't think anyone is troll hunting, just advising caution. The level of detail from some posters can be unnecessary too (and the lol ing about it).

Good luck with the GP visit. I hope it's resolved quickly for you.

So sorry you had this happen.

I don't think you need to avoid the cafe for ever, no. I would drop in tomorrow with a bunch of flowers and a big tip and say something like "I left a big mess in here yesterday, I am so sorry I just panicked and ran away" - they will forgive you. (you don't need to mention blood)

I flooded like this at work once, I discovered when I went to the loo that I had bled through my clothes, panicked and went straight home. I didn't find out till next day that I had left a pool of blood on my chair too, which was very embarassing but no one blamed me, they were very understanding and concerned for my wellbeing.

In my case it turned out to have been technically a miscarriage - I hadn't even known I was pregnant, wasn't trying to conceive and would have been horrified if I had discovered a pregnancy at that particular time, but I still needed medical attention as it was incomplete and I had to have a D&C. Whether or not this is a possibility for you, it should be checked out just in case it's a symptom of something that needs treatment.

@Sunriseinwonderland black leggings luckily.. unfortunately cream shirt which it did get on but wasnt as bad as I imagined when I got home and looked. I just ran all the way home without even looking! Didn't want to know when I'd just have to get back like that anyway

@ArdeteiMasazxu im sorry that happened to you 💐 I think its very unlikely to be a miscarriage for me. Im on contraception, I was on my period anyway and i knew i was, and there hasn't been any pain at all... but im going to ring the gp surgery first thing in the morning tomoz and they do see you same day.
Obv if im in any real pain or it happens again before that id go to A&E dont worry