So he has broken up with me!!!
@SchoolTripDrama I saw your good advice too late.
He is adamant he is not getting back together with his wife.
He says his daughter picked up that he was seeing someone (I have never left anything at his house. I take empty wine bottles and food packaging away with me and we go to low key places where unlikely to see any of his wife's friends we have been really careful about it and I didn't want it to be a secret but given he did I tried my best).
His wife explained this is upsetting the daughter. The daughter is already angry at her mum for initiating the break up. He says his daughter doesn't deserve this stress and it's unfair on her and it's selfish of him to put her through this when she is still reeling from the family breaking up and she is his priority and he makes no apologies for that (I have never asked to be put above his daughter!!)
He has asked we wait til his divorce comes through in the summer.
How that will make it easier I don't understand. He seems to think everything will be easy then....how???? I'm not trying to be thick but I don't see what difference that makes??
He was very calm as he said this. He was quite pleasant. He seemed to have no idea I'd be so upset (I cried).
He didn't seem to think it was a big deal at all. And I suppose ending a 12 week relationship isn't really compared to his marriage ending.
I feel shitty.
He said service at lunch was slow and then he dropped them all off and then his wife spoke to him so that was why he was so long but I guess that doesn't matter now.
I feel so, so upset. I didn't think I was this emotionally invested. Kidding myself. This just felt a relaxed and adult relationship now I feel I'm being treated like some mistress. And yes I know he is married still but lives separately, all his friends know, divorce in progress etc etc
Have opened wine.
Am I just horribly selfish??? I mean of course I don't want his daughter upset.