DP sacked - handhold please

[Springbluebell]

I need a handhold really.

DP has just been sacked. We both live with our respective parents, he moved back a few months ago after tenancy ended and I used to rent but COVID ruined my life and I still haven’t financially recovered and had to move back.

His boss is horrible, I know him personally. He has always picked on DP despite him trying his best. Owners of the company visit and often commend his work which makes his boss very irate. It isn’t even in DPs nature to argue back or fan the flames of conflict. Today stemmed from DP completing his list of tasks early, his boss complained things that weren’t on the list weren’t done. DP pointed out they were not on his tasks and his boss blew up as he usually does and sacked him.

We have been working so hard, we were finally going to be able to have enough to rent in a few months and have a home to call our own again. I suffer from mental health conditions as does he but we both make sure we get up and go to work and try to claw our way out of a bad position mentally and with our housing situations as we both have extremely toxic and abusive family. I am only able to work part time and his job was paid well enough especially for his field of work.

I’m just heartbroken, in shock and I feel sick. He will find work again but this will set us back for months. I’m so tired of setbacks in life. I feel desperately sad for my DP. I know this is going to be so difficult for him, not to mention his family will blame him and kick him while down.

Just looking for some support. I’m on my way to meet DP now

You need to talk to ACAS. He’s been there for more than 2 years he has rights. He is also due to be paid his holiday pay.

Well that's incorrect. Holiday accrued but not used becomes payable. Most employment solicitors will provide an initial consultation for free. Please contact a specialist in your area and obtain some initial advice.

Sending hugs OP. It sounds like a difficult time; I’m glad you have each other for comfort and support. It might be that your DP finds a new job with a better boss. I hope so. Take care x

Echoing to call ACAS

Call ACAS. You will need to know:
*Was he an agency worker, on a fixed term contract or permanent contract?
*get a copy of that contract
*his annual leave entitlement
*termination clauses

some things are for the best
be kind to him
he will find work soon

I'm sorry, this is awful. With nothing to lose, I would be strongly encouraging your DH to contact the owner of the company - perhaps with a letter sent special delivery marked private and confidential, in order to express in a professional manner his disappointment at the situation and to ask for the owner to review the decision to terminate his employemnt.

Another adding to the call ACAS.

I'd also advise him to write to the bigger boss and ask about a reference. If they've been happy with his work they can then decide what they want to do - but I'd encourage DP to get a good reference and seek employment elsewhere even if he continues there for financial security whilst he does.

Are you claiming everything you are entitled to OP? I think with your DP having this relationship with his boss he should of been job looking as soon as this issue started.

Major positive you haven't yet took on a house to rent thank goodness. You also can save more... if you can I wouldn't rush to move out for at least another 12 months if your parents are happy also.

Contact Acas and write a very carefully worded letter outlining todays eg I. I was given a list of tasks see appendix 1 2. I completed all the tasks by 9.30am 3. Mr x then starting shouting at me that I hadn’t done ….. list 4. I showed Mr X that they weren’t on the list 5. I asked Mr X if he could add them to the list and I said I would start them straight away 5. Mr X told me I was immediately and to leave 6. He told me I was terminated immediately and my holiday accrued would not be paid

could I respectfully ask for clarification on the holiday pay and notice period.

I have had no written or verbal warnings before this.

could I have a copy of my contract, staff policy for complaints.

I am very sorry to have to been terminated without procedure being followed and I hope we can resolve this amicably and also ensure a true reference from the company for my next employers. Thank you

To the poster that says he’s not telling me the full story - it really is the full story. I spend a lot of time at his work, I witness it with my own eyes.

He did message the owners they said if his boss who is in charge of that branch of their business has grounds then it’s not up to them.

Like everyone else, I'm so sorry this has happened.

But, an employee usually has to have had verbal and written warnings before a dismissal unless they have been caught doing something very bad and (literally) walked off the premises.

You mentioned working part time so is this from choice or because your work can't offer you full time?

OP said she couldn’t work full time due to MH.

To the poster that says he’s not telling me the full story - it really is the full story. I spend a lot of time at his work, I witness it with my own eyes.

How and why do you spend a lot of time at his work (as you are also working.)

Is it hospitality for example?

What reason did they give him for sacking him?

It isn't clear if the two things are linked, from her post.

She said she had MH issues but it was a couple of lines down she added about working p/t.

It's all very well saying contact ACAS but the best he can hope for is some payout. Under the circs, surely he doesn't want to work there any more?

Or the boss is a bastard. It’s not unheard of.

So sorry to read your post SpringBluebell.
Contact ACAS/CA for help.
You can get through this together, supporting each other. Sending ((hugs))

Why on earth are you spending lots of time at his workplace? That’s really odd and not something that should happen.

I'm assuming he's not in a Union, because they would probably be really useful to him at the moment.

If he's not, then ACAS are his next best bet.

Ideally, he needs to sort out the holiday pay, and an agreed reference.

Have the company followed their own internal policies? Yes, they can let him go within 2 years for any reason, but they should still follow policy- in general people wouldn't be let go for a first offence.

I assume there's no reason to believe this is discrimination?

I just wanted to say I’m sorry this happened. I don’t want to give you more advice as others are doing that already. But take tonight to talk things over with your DP. You both deserve to get a good sleep and you will be able to face things in the morning.

In what capacity are you spending time there? You could, unwittingly, be part of the issue.

Consider it a blessing in disguise and a release from a toxic boss.

Your DP will find work, it can feel very uncertain while applying but a new job will be found.

He could register with some temp agencies, hopefully they can give him some opportunities.

We have bumped into some one in his field and he’s sat having an interview right now. Fingers crossed!!