What’s the shortest marriage of anyone you know?

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Just being nosy, really!

How long is the shortest marriage you’ve seen and why did it end so quickly?

My Dsis my DF had paid 30k for a lavish wedding. They separated within in a year , my Dsis said he worked too long hours. My dad actually wasn't that mad.

Not a wedding but an engagement.
My brother had been with his GF since they were 13, they got engaged at 18 and had a big party. They split up next day - apparently the party was such good fun that it made them realise what they had been missing being in such an intense relationship since they were so young

Can't remember how many months but they didn't make it to the first anniversary.

Officially told at six months, but it was obvious to anyone with eyes at the wedding that her heart wasn't in it. She was a humourless woman who had gone full bridezilla with the fancy wedding, and she broke the groom's (my cousin) heart. They'd married after knowing one another for six months so the whole thing was over in slightly less than a year.
He took himself off travelling not long after the split, and after a couple of years met a lovely woman and they have a little boy, very happy together. I can't even remember bridezilla's name, and neither could two of my other cousins. It's like she was a year long blip that has been erased from the record!

My own. 8 days. Dh died

I’m so sorry @blackheartsgirl thats awful.

I know someone who had lived with his partner for over 10 years. She left him after the honeymoon and took half of everything. He was devastated and it destroyed his life.

Oh goodness, I'm so sorry 😞. Sending hugs

For my first marriage, we met, got engaged, married, separated and divorced, in less than two years which I thought was pretty short but not compared to some of those other obvs.

My second marriage we got married after 8 weeks 😱 but were together for 8 years.

I genuinely have no regrets but I’d never have a long term relationship or marry again, it’s not for me.

I know a bride who had cold feet before the wedding and told her parents she didn't want to go through with it. The wedding cost a fortune and her parents went mad (they fired most the bill) so she went through with it.

The couple broke up on the flight to their honeymoon 2 days later and loved separately after that. Divorced as soon as legally possible.

Oh this makes me feel much better about my 10 months! Mine was another one who changed as soon as we got married. Then he slept with my friend and his best friends fiancé.

And yes, we were very young and I knew it wasn't right. But I think many people on here will know how unstoppable it feels on the run up to your wedding.

My DH was married for only 7 months before the spilt together 11 years previously.

My cousin was married for 11 weeks but she married for Army housing (silly) it did not go to plan

Wow. Thars shocking. So sorry you had to go through that.

Less than 6 weeks.

The bridegroom was the son of my very religious friend.

In their (Xtian, UK) sect, sex before marriage is forbidden; so her son (university graduate, professional career, mid 20's) was a virgin when he married and "the problem was in the bedroom " (her term not mine).. From the speedy divorce I suspect the marriage was unconsummated.

Since then he has remarried and this time it stuck.

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I was married just shy of 6 months before he attacked me requiring a hospital visit and many stitches. He had been abusive our whole 7 year relationship and I was convinced getting married would change him. It didn't!

We didn't actually get divorced for 10 years and even then it was only so he wasn't my next of kin if I caught COVID.

I am due to remarry this year and he couldn't be any more different to my first husband. An absolute gem of a man.

Nope
they live together as if they are-but never re-married

Mine - 8 months. He changed into an abusive narcissistic twat the day we got back from honeymoon

This was some years ago, but my brother's first wife was able to have their marriage annulled after 16 years of marriage and 2 children. Apparently the Catholic Church (at that time anyway) granted annulment on the grounds that she wanted more children and he refused.

Interestingly, they never spoke with my brother who could have told them that she had left him for another man years earlier so it might be awkward to have more children together😂

So they had a "legal" divorce followed by an annulment which allowed his ex to remarry in the Catholic Church.

I know of a person who announced on their first wedding anniversary that it was over. My DM had sent them a card and flowers which prompted them to reveal what had been going on. He left very soon after, just disappeared. Worst bit of all, was the jeweller who she knew personally, revealed that the groom had never paid for her wedding ring, she ended up settling up with them. He was a scumbag, who did drugs, had numerous children he didn't see or support and she was a long time single, desperate for a big white wedding. It was Karma really as she had an affair with him whilst he was in a relationship with the mother of one of his ( many) children. She was incredibly nasty about the ex, which I thought was unfair.

This seems long by comparison to some on here but DSis BFF was 7 months. They were together years and year before and think it became a routine/settling. Her DF had asked her was she sure several times in the weeks leading up to, including on the day. They went ahead and fully separated the same year.

I know this isn’t a primary concern in the scheme of things but think some people and especially family were annoyed they’d contributed towards huge expenses and given them both opportunity to back out.

I believe there's a difference between annulment for religious reasons so you can re-marry in church, but which has no legal force, and annulment in UK law, which means the marriage is set aside and treated as if it hadn't happened. The latter is only available on very limited grounds (mentioned above) and most people wouldn't be able to get a legal annulment, but would have to go for divorce.

Yes legal annulment instead of divorce is very rare.

Eg a case I recall was a woman pressured into marriage by her family - she went through the legal wedding at register office but refused before religious ceremony so they were legally married but not had what she classed as a wedding and not consummated. Wanted an annulment not divorce for religious reasons.

Yes. A friend of mine who is a devout Catholic is currently divorcing and seeking a religious annulment. It's a complex story and not mine to tell so I won't go into any details, but basically she needed to legally divorce in order to disentangle herself financially etc, but she still considers herself married even post divorce and hence wouldn't contemplate another relationship unless she is granted the annulment. So the state wouldn't recognise the annulment and the Church wouldn't recognise the divorce. I'm not Catholic myself so I don't really understand it all, but it's clearly extremely important to her to get both if she can.

I should have clarified that I'm in the US.

Legal annulment is relatively rare here as well, but there are several circumstances where it is possible, even when the marriage has been consummated and the spouses have been living together.

But my example of my brother was indeed just an annulment for religious purposes as they had been legally divorced for some time.