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What’s the shortest marriage of anyone you know?

228 replies

Username721 · 07/03/2023 21:04

Just being nosy, really!

How long is the shortest marriage you’ve seen and why did it end so quickly?

OP posts:
Coyoacan · 07/03/2023 23:57

Five months and it was a beautiful wedding, in the prettiest church in the country, the food was delicious and there were five different groups playing at the reception.

downtonupton · 07/03/2023 23:58

the two shortest wedding I know were both only 3 or 4 months.

In both cases they were in long term relationships - bit about 15 years.

I think they both did the same thing - the relationship started to go wrong but they still kind of loved each other and tried this grand gesture - they then had a year or so planning the wedding and having something to talk about. Then they got married and realised it didn't fix the problems they'd had before.

whynotwhatknot · 08/03/2023 00:01

about 6 weeks everyone told her not to do it' if she wasn't happy but she said she couldn't let her parents down

Fluffymule · 08/03/2023 00:03

The day after the wedding the Bride retreated into a miserable silence, admitting by the end of the week, whilst still in their honeymoon destination, that she didn’t want to be married to the Groom, that she just fell in love with the wedding planning process and attention, and that the thought of ‘boring life’ with the Groom was too depressing to bear.

Somehow he managed to convince her (and himself) they could work it out, but she was shagging her boss within 3 months, and left him.

Kentishbornknitter · 08/03/2023 00:06

A family member did a runner after the ceremony!

ohfook · 08/03/2023 00:35

7 weeks. They'd been together years and had three sons. I think they just got caught up in the whole idea that the wedding was the next step.

Very soon after they realised that actually the change they needed should probably have been to move on not to marry. They split up very amicably.

Princessbananahamock · 08/03/2023 00:44

Wow some good ones !
less than a year but prior to marriage had been together and hand child for over tens years . It me my mum’s friend

Blanketpolicy · 08/03/2023 00:46

An ex boss. Early 30s, it was his second marriage, he was only a teen when he got married the first time.

Got together on the rebound with an 18 year old from another department, moved her in very quickly, lived together for 18 months, then married (BIG wedding) and separated after around 3-4 months.

Princessbananahamock · 08/03/2023 00:46

Sorry I’ve just done my nails ! Together well over 12 years one child . Marriage lasted less than a year

Uniaccommodation · 08/03/2023 00:53

7 months. Friend got married just out of uni to her BF of three years. Through family connections, he then got a job working for a Tory MP (he’d never shown slightest interest in politics) and started spouting Tory mantras and hanging out with right-wing political nerds. She left him ten years ago. He is still hanging around the Westminster village but doesn’t seem to have achieved much.

NumberTheory · 08/03/2023 01:07

4 months. Bride later said she sort of knew on the day that she shouldn’t do it, but they’d been together for years and was all just expected, big reception etc. so she thought it was just jitters. Then she went away with a group of female friends for the weekend and couldn’t face going home to him.

WomanStanleyWoman2 · 08/03/2023 01:55

Nowhere near as short as some of these, but three I know of:

Sister’s best friend. Married her partner after eight years together; discovered he’d been cheating four months later. He basically admitted he’d reached a “now or never” point with the relationship and should have gone with never.

Another long-term couple lasted less than a year after marrying. I think it was another case of marriage being a final attempt to save the relationship. As an aside, apart from being husband and wife, they were also second cousins - that made for some interesting family dos afterwards…

A couple where I worked with both halves. It was a huge company and they were in different departments, so when I’d heard her talk about her fiancé and that he also worked there, I actually had no idea it was someone I already knew. You could not have picked a less likely couple. She was this glamorous, fashion and trendy bar-loving Insta type; he was very down to earth and a million miles from what you thought she’d go for in terms of looks. It was over in six months and I never found out why exactly it didn’t last - as much as it had always seemed like a mismatch to me, they must have seen a future in it at some point.

RicherThanYews · 08/03/2023 02:11

12 months ish, they had terrible problems with drug issues well before the marriage but put themselves into debt to have a destination wedding and were still paying the bills when they were in new relationships, so sad and I think of them often.

k80pie · 08/03/2023 03:15

A few days…massive row at the reception, went on honeymoon and split up while there! Had to fly all the way back having split. The bride’s family tried to sue the groom for the wedding costs!

bugsinmybrain · 08/03/2023 03:26

They split up at the reception

She was shagging the best man and went on honeymoon with him

The weirdest thing was everyone including the groom knew this long before the wedding

I didn't go to the wedding, they were colleagues of mine

Later asked him why he still went through with it and he said "it was all arranged and paid for by her parents so we felt we had to" ... really?!

Bepis · 08/03/2023 03:48

My own marriage lasted 5 months before he decided he wanted to be a she. I was only 18.

Bepis · 08/03/2023 03:56

Ladydinosaur · 07/03/2023 21:58

My brother and my sis-in-law
theyd been together 7 years-she wanted the big white wedding-he didn’t want to marry at all
finally set the date,got married,had a shitty wet honeymoon and broke up 3 months later
(she dropped me like a hot brick as soon as they where married as I was ‘lesser’ than her for not being married-I would have classed her as my best mate at the time)
they divorced,got back together,had a kid and have been together ever since!
Bloody odd

Did they get married again?

Gooseysgirl · 08/03/2023 04:41

About 18 months... lovely couple, but she had her doubts walking down the aisle. Her MIL also had doubts and wore a black dress with a huge black hat and a face like a slapped arse to the wedding - I'll never forget it, we were all horrified at the time 😆 Anyway fast forward and a very amicable split, marriage was annulled. Both married other people within a couple of years. It was still one of the best weddings I ever went to though!!

RunningAwayToJoinTheCircus · 08/03/2023 05:11

I knew someone who got married at 11a.m.then everyone went to the pub. His new wife said she was going to the toilet and never came back. He got home at about one and she'd moved out! Packed her things, emptied the flat, and gone.
They were divorced pdq - I think he tried for annulment but they had children so it had to be divorce and took a year, but the actual marriage lasted an hour or so...

Zanatdy · 08/03/2023 06:01

5wks. Bride went away with work and met someone else. She’s still with that person now and been married over a decade. It wasn’t very nice for the guy she married of course and she did feel terrible about it. It wasn’t intentional but she followed her heart and well you only life once

Zanatdy · 08/03/2023 06:19

Surprised at some of these annulments as you have to have not consummated the marriage. Surely after a good few months / year that’s not going to apply? I’d have thought only days / weeks you’ll get an annulment. Cheaper than divorce but rules to meet

JacobsCrackersCheeseFogg · 08/03/2023 06:19

DonkeyOatie · 07/03/2023 22:59

Married on a Saturday, all over by Tuesday. He was having an affair and she was at the wedding.
I was the bride

I'm so sorry this happened to you. Flowers

Penguinsaregreat · 08/03/2023 06:38

A woman I worked with got married. She found out on honeymoon that he had been cheating on her. They separated whilst on honeymoon.

mickeysmug · 08/03/2023 06:40

BettyBoopy · 07/03/2023 21:05

One day. The had a massive row at the wedding reception and slept separately that night. Split up there and then and we're divorced soon after. The had been together for about 10 years before that and had children too.

Similar with friends. They made the honeymoon but not long after they split. They were toxic together and combine that with alcohol and a bride that turned up to the church drunk, it was inevitable.

GotABeatForYouMama · 08/03/2023 06:47

Six months...it turned out the groom preferred the best man to the bride (me).