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I think my husband has blocked me?!

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MyBloodyBrother · 03/03/2023 20:45

He’s not been responding to WhatsApp messages today but has definitely been reading them. I messaged him again about 30 mins ago and it’s staying on one grey tick and his profile pic has disappeared.

He could be on the train so it could be that he has no signal but that doesn’t explain why his profile pic has gone.

OP posts:
LaughingCat · 03/03/2023 22:49

MyBloodyBrother · 03/03/2023 22:27

He works away during the week. He was supposed to come home last night but messaged me after 11pm to tell me he wasn’t coming which pissed me off. I messaged this morning to say I was upset that he didn’t tell me until hours after he knew he’d have missed the last train and that DC were upset he wasn’t home but we’re super looking forward to seeing him tonight. He read it but didn’t reply. I messaged earlier this evening to check he was on and still coming home as very out of character for him to not reply to me. That message is still one grey tick and profile pic has gone on WhatsApp. I’ve tried calling but going straight to answerphone.

Well, this is totally different - ‘He’s not responded to my messages and now I think he’s blocked me’ needs the context of ‘after not coming home last night from working away and not communicating that fact until long after he knew’.

He’s an arsehole, I hope the sleeping pills work and he eventually comes home to his clothes in binliners on the lawn.

ThreeRingCircus · 03/03/2023 22:50

I am so sorry OP. My ex did this..... would go no contact for ages, wouldn't reply to messages or want phone calls when he was away, told me I was needy when I got worried if I didn't hear from him. He was having an affair which was totally obvious with hindsight but I didn't want to see it.

Regardless, he's treating you like dirt right now and also letting your children down. I would honestly tell him to not bother coming home.

crispsandnuts · 03/03/2023 22:51

Sounds like you've reached a decision, when you reflect back you'll probably be surprised how much you tolerated. I was the same, didn't want to 'stress' him by confronting him wierd behaviour as it would trigger his so-called depression.
Very gas lighting behaviour, do your kids have phones? Or a sibling / parent? See if he's blocked them.

MeinKraft · 03/03/2023 22:51

Time to get your ducks in a row OP - you deserve better than this.

pictoosh · 03/03/2023 22:52

Yep all very dodgy seeming. So sorry OP.

Timetochangetheoil · 03/03/2023 22:53

Sorry OP. He sounds dreadful and you deserve better.

Missymare · 03/03/2023 22:55

Sorry OP you deserve better than this. You can’t live your life waiting around for him to decide if he’s coming home it’s not fair on you or your children. I’d tell him don’t bother coming back.

BeesOnLavender · 03/03/2023 22:57

MyBloodyBrother · 03/03/2023 22:33

We split a couple of years ago after a long time of me feeling forgotten and more of a housekeeper/ nanny than a wife. He’d completely forget about us during the week. We compromised in that he’d work 4 days a week and 1 day WFH and then do no work at all weekends. While he’s away we don’t do phone calls as they stress him out as it’s extra pressure and upset me as I always felt he wasn’t giving me full attention. All I’d ask is a couple of WhatsApp messages a day and a message/ phot to eldest’s phone too. He’s clearly decided that’s too much to ask so he’s blocked me. Now for the second morning in a row I’m going to have to tell upset kids that dad hasn’t come home.

I can’t do this again. I can’t believe he’s making me do this again.

So he still works away 4 days a week largely ignoring you? I don't think you're his only family OP 💐 His other family will be thinking he works weekends. Except this one, because something important is happening he has to be there for. It's not like he can tell you that though, so he's blocked you

PoseyFlump · 03/03/2023 23:02

Even if he's on the way home he's a bastard. Totally unacceptable to worry you like this 😤

VimFuego101 · 03/03/2023 23:02

BellaBoo78 · 03/03/2023 22:48

Can you use your eldest's phone and go on WhatsApp to see if you can still see his pic from that phone?

This is good advice. Regardless, he sounds like an arse. It's not unreasonable to want to be in daily phone/ text contact with the father of your children.

SamSmithsGoldenShower · 03/03/2023 23:03

I read your previous post and your / his situation lends itself very nicely to have an affair. I'd be extremely suspicious

Codlingmoths · 03/03/2023 23:04

Oh it does sound like he can’t be bothered having a family 😞 I’m sorry.

Sugaspunsista · 03/03/2023 23:06

The profile pic doesn't disappear when you are blocked... you just dont see any updates to it

aspoonfulofshoulda · 03/03/2023 23:09

Sugaspunsista · 03/03/2023 23:06

The profile pic doesn't disappear when you are blocked... you just dont see any updates to it

That's not true, it disappears

Zonder · 03/03/2023 23:13

He's not much of a husband or father.

berksandbeyond · 03/03/2023 23:13

Didn’t he say yesterday he’d had a shit day at work so wasn’t coming back as planned? Aren’t you concerned? He may have harmed himself rather than just blocking you…

Runningonjammiedodgers · 03/03/2023 23:15

Read your previous post, sorry you still don't have answers

Cherrysoup · 03/03/2023 23:15

Hopefully the OP has gone to bed and bolted the door. What shit behaviour from her Dh.

dontdillydallytoolong · 03/03/2023 23:18

Absolute deal breaker for me. He is a father and a husband yet acting as if he is single without any responsibilities. Sorry you are going through this. x

WilsonMilson · 03/03/2023 23:19

Sorry op, that’s shit. He has indeed blocked you, and from the sounds of it, he’s leading a double life or having an affair while he’s away. The not talking while he’s away working because it’s ‘stressful’ is a classic - he’s with another woman.

Sounds like your marriage has been over for quite a while to be honest. Probably time to really consider if you want to put up with this. You deserve better.

Pubesofsoberness · 03/03/2023 23:20

You shouldn't have to live like this.

greenfingers39 · 03/03/2023 23:21

You'll be amazed how free you feel after dumping his ass

OnlyFannys · 03/03/2023 23:23

Wow I cant believe some people can be so cruel. I'm so sorry op he sounds like an arse and a coward as well if he is too pathetic to even just be straight with you

Motnight · 03/03/2023 23:23

Pubesofsoberness · 03/03/2023 23:20

You shouldn't have to live like this.

Whatever happens, whatever his excuses are, this is wise advice.

prettyraindrops · 03/03/2023 23:25

MyBloodyBrother · 03/03/2023 22:39

I don’t know if he’s on his way home or not. The last train would get him in at 11.30ish so he might be. I’m going to take a sleeping tablet, lick the door and go to bed. I’m not doing this again.

Please don't lick the door.. it's not hygienic and won't help matters 😂

Have you tried called or normal texting? Strange he would just block you without any reason. What time is he meant to be home?

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