A time you’ve regretted lending someone something

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Money. I went on a city break with a friend who came with no money and so I ended up paying for all food/drinks etc. She looked annoyed at me buying a keyring as I didn’t offer to buy one for her too. We’re not friends anymore and she never returned the money.

Shoes. I picked friend up after a night out and she asked to borrow shoes. She kept them for two years (they were brand new) and retuned them in a state where it was obvious they’d been worn multiple times.

Lent my hoover to a family member. Never got it back. Had to buy a new one.
Lent the same person an expensive baby carrier saying I wanted it back at the time. Have asked several times. She doesn’t know what happened to it 🙄

Mine is a fully annotated by myself, lord of the flies book I used for gsce. Same with king Lear for a level.

My vacuum cleaner. But I didn’t lend it, my idiot son did to some scuzz bag mates. Also, as I didn’t know they were scuzz bags (they went to school with sons) and they were struggling, when we were clearing out my my mums flat we let them have a sofa bed and her spare bed (barely used) I stomped round to get my vac, the flat was wide open, trashed and the things I’d given them wrecked.

Link to holiday with no money CF 'friend'. The holiday was a long weekend in Berlin.

www.mumsnet.com/talk/am_i_being_unreasonable/4535910-to-ask-how-i-dont-be-bitter-this-weekend?page=14&reply=117072299

The first person I ever offered a job to - I hadn't interviewed him. Useless workshy twat hardly turned up. Claimed he was too poor to get to work. I leant him the money for a month's train ticket so he could get to work. Never saw a penny, obviously. I enjoyed sacking him.

so many things! I lent a male friend a necklace years ago when we were getting ready to go out that had been a gift from parents that was promptly lost… another necklace I’d been given as a gift by my best friend I lent to a bf at the time - he lost it (and was soon an ex). Neither offered to replace.. I don’t lend jewellery anymore. I lent a book with a sentimental message in it from DP (who often isn’t all that sentimental!) to a friend who, when I asked for it back a few months later, claimed I never gave it to her (I know I did as I let her take it home with her from a dinner party at my house - she was fairly drunk so I guess she put it somewhere and forgot about it..)

Nothing of monetary value but my mom bought me a really nice thick beach towel for my first girls holiday. I lent it to a friend a couple of years later - she lost it and did replace it - with one that might as well have been a fucking tea towel for the quality it was. Bitch!

I let a relative of my husband borrow my lovely expensive baby carrier (cost me over £100 to buy it brand new!)

Her child is 5 now and well outgrown it. I'm still waiting for it back so I can sell it...

Cheeky bitch 🤬

I lent a friend of mines daughter my vintage Sasha doll.. they then denied it (even though others had seen it at their house) and i never saw it again..
My dad bought it for me in the early 70s when i was little, just before he died, so it meant a lot to me.. plus theyre worth a fair bit now.

Wow, I’ve been lucky based on this thread!

I don't know why you're being so rude OP. It was a simple question, all you had to say was No, I've never posted about this before.

This. This is the one that everyone thought the OP had posted about before. It was about a long weekend in Berlin where the ops friend didn't pay for a bean.

@shutupheathe www.mumsnet.com/talk/am_i_being_unreasonable/4535910-to-ask-how-i-dont-be-bitter-this-weekend?page=14&reply=117072299

Once lent a friend a small black and decker mouse sander, said she had a small job to do....returned it months later, all worn out and noisey....turns out she used it to sand floors in her flat....
Also once lent a colleague £100 as she said she needed to do a food shop, next week told me she bought her son a real Gucci belt for his 18th birthday....I left the job a few weeks later, blocked her, never seen her since or the money...she did make a few noises about paying it back before i left the workplace but never did....ironically she had a rich dad who bailed her out constantly due to wreckless spending and waste. glad to be rid of her.....I do not lend items out now to anyone.

I lent a baby car seat to a relative after my first, and wanted it back for my second. Annoyingly it came back with a part broken, so it wouldn't lock in position.
I lived a few miles from the factory and took it along to their customer service desk to see if it could be repaired or if I would have to buy a new one. They gave me a newer model free of charge, so in the end I couldn't regret having lent the seat. 😁

It’s not as bad as some of these stories, but my mum bought a lunch box with a flowery lid from the supermarket in Spain where I live when I first moved into my new flat and she came over to help me. At Easter she lent it to my cousin to take some leftovers home and he said he would bring it back next time he saw her. He did, but it had a huge crack down the lid. No apology, or offer to get a new one. Sure it’s just a lunch box but it’s the principle…

I never lend anything to anyone. I'm quite generous and will give where I can, but I don't ever lend.

I leant my (ex) hairdresser some doggy clippers (for her pooch!). A few weeks later she messaged me to say if I ever needed to borrow them, to let her know! I never saw them again. Cheeky bitch.

Loaned a high chair to a friend for her to use at her DMs. Asked for it back as I was pregnant with number two and it came back stinking of smoke and stained with nicotine. In the meantime I’d miscarried and when the DM delivered it back there was no thanks from her but she demanded to know why I needed it given I’d lost the baby. Insensitive ungrateful cow.

I lent my Louis Vuitton bag to my sil 4 months ago and I am still waiting for it. She borrowed it for a wedding 4 months ago and I have seen her about 6 times since this event and she hasn't mentioned it. This thread reminded me to text her again as I have a work event. If I've borrowed something off someone for one occasion, I will do anything in my power to return it.

And I've never asked anyone if I could borrow anything from them. It really annoyed me when she asked me if she could borrow it because it's something expensive and if something happens to it. there's no way she could pay for it. I have this principle which if I can't afford to replace it, I don't ask for it. I've had friends ask to borrow a bag from me and I said sorry but because it's my brothers wife, she left me in a really awkward position. I hate when they do this.

Money. An ex when I was a naive early 20s in my first real job guilted me into taking a $5k interest free loan from the company as it could help him. It didn't feel right at the time, I didn't personally need it, wasn't rolling in money, but had no debt. When we inevitably broke up I was left paying down the principal on a company loan which he had taken and only partially paid me back for. Stupid mistake. If something doesn't feel right, it isnt, lesson learned the hard way.

In my teens I lent a dress to a friend to wear on a date, I’d forgotten all about this until we reconnected recently and were reminiscing about our college years. She said, “your dress had a lot to answer for”. I looked puzzled and said “What dress?”
“That pink mini shift dress you made”.
Well, apparently it impressed the bloke she was dating, it was the era of mini skirts, she is a lot taller than me and on me it was above the knee, on her it was pelmet length. She had killer legs.
They’ve been married for fifty years.

I lent a small table to a friend when she moved house and she didn't return it for over ten years. The top of it was badly marked and stained and she said she'd considered sanding it down but thought I'd probably want to do that out myself.

These responses remind me why I almost never lend anyone anything. I hate having to keep track of stuff and nearly always either ignore hints or say no if they ask outright. The only thing I "lend" is books I don't care about being returned.

Love that @Daffodilsandtuplips! That sounds like a large chunk of a romcom...