Active discussions

Meet the Other Phone. Only the apps you allow.

Meet the Other Phone.
Only the apps you allow.

Buy now

Please or to access all these features

Talk
Chat

Join the discussion and chat with other Mumsnetters about everyday life, relationships and parenting.

Original poster

A time you’ve regretted lending someone something

117 replies

shutupheathe · 02/03/2023 18:30

Money. I went on a city break with a friend who came with no money and so I ended up paying for all food/drinks etc. She looked annoyed at me buying a keyring as I didn’t offer to buy one for her too. We’re not friends anymore and she never returned the money.

Shoes. I picked friend up after a night out and she asked to borrow shoes. She kept them for two years (they were brand new) and retuned them in a state where it was obvious they’d been worn multiple times.

OP posts:
Thatenough · 02/03/2023 19:24

shutupheathe · 02/03/2023 18:42

Responses like this are weird.

Show quote history

It's not weird, I thought the exact same! Haha. I remember reading about that trip.

Spanielsarepainless · 02/03/2023 19:25

Lent a new book to our vicar. He never returned it and got moved elsewhere.
Lent a book to a friend who passed it to her husband, who eventually returned it scuffed, bent and grubby.

I don't lend out my books any more!

Dymaxion · 02/03/2023 19:28

I lent a work colleague an amazing original 50's dress I got in a charity shop, it wasn't expensive but it was lovely. I never got it back, it still makes me sad that I lost it.

woodhill · 02/03/2023 19:28

Lent a baby carrier- never got it back

Goodread1 · 02/03/2023 19:33

Hi Op I rember I lent a book about well known British personality
World of strange Powers
by Arthur C.Clarke
About Parnomenal phenomenon

To my friend who I had known a number of years
thought cause I got on well, she would be reliable give me book back when I wanted it back,

Guess what
She got married several months later or moved house and lost my book I suppose its something easy enough to happen in those kinds of circumstances

But she make a big thing about when she have a clothes sale party 🥳 about making sure everyone be on time to pay her back ect,

Another time I lent a children's book Roald Dhal Charlie and chocolate factory book to a aqueintance I was living at the time
in a shared vicarage house for young mothers who didn't have much family support,

I had hardly looked at that book same as the other book here,
When we were lounging around the shared living room ,I was bit bored I asked her if it was OK after she read one of those women's magazines if I could have a look and give it back to afterwards,
She said no to me,
Bear in mind, I once also helped her out , when she had family visitors, to see her and her baby , I offered to as I was passing by the doctors clinic to pick up baby powder milk, she wouldn't have to rush out and keep her family waiting for her to return from doctors surgery mother and baby clinic,

I was a bit pissed off with her, plus the Roald Dhal book looked well thumbed worn, by the time she handed it back to me

Turnipworkharder · 02/03/2023 19:34

Lent a family member my almost new sewing machine.

Asked for it back a few months later, apparently I'd said " I didn't want it back "

So she gave it to a charity shop. My blood pressure rises every time I think of this. 😡

CantFindTheBeat · 02/03/2023 19:34

Years ago when we were young and timid, our just-about-ok next door neighbour asked to borrow our gazebo for a party.

We didn't know how to declined so said yes. We handed it over packed in its bag with all poles and parts labelled.

The day after their party, they shouted from their garden "here's your gazebo back" and were pushing it over the shared fence whilst it was still up 😲😲😲😲😲😲

Poles were buckled, it was dirty and knackered. We had to take it down, pack it away and tip it 😞😞😞

Suffice to say. We've grown a big pair of bollocks since then!

Elliania · 02/03/2023 19:41

A book. A friend of mine borrowed a hardback copy of a book when she went on holiday for several weeks. When she came back she breezily informed me that she'd "had" to leave it behind because it took up too much room in her case & she wanted to bring all her new clothes home. But don't worry, I could totally e-mail the family she'd stayed with and they could post it back once I sent them the money!

I made her buy me a new one. And even then she tried to get away with buying me a paperback copy because "A hardback is so much more expensive and it's the same thing anyway".

Cherryblossom1985 · 02/03/2023 19:43

I lent my cousin's BF my Duran, Duran LP. The cover had a lovely photo of Simon Le Bon.

I had to ask for it back a number of times and when I eventually got it back, he'd coloured in some of the teeth and added freckles.

Rogue1001MNer · 02/03/2023 19:45

shutupheathe · 02/03/2023 18:42

Responses like this are weird.

Show quote history

Responses like this are rude.

And make me suspect you're a journalist touting for stories, so don't think I'll share

Pfeiffle · 02/03/2023 19:46

Lent my friend my brand new jersey dress because she was going on a date and didn’t have spare cash to spend. When I got it back it was ruined. She’d pulled it to bits. I learned over time she valued me as a resource and got very angry when I said no.

Lent someone a text book. Never saw it again. Not the end of the world but it was an early indicator about the person and how they felt about me.

Bunnyishotandcross · 02/03/2023 19:52

Lent an old neighbour some dvds as she had broken her leg..
Once I was less available to be her personal taxi she stopped answering my texts. Never got the 9pm dvds back but was rid of her! So an actual win really!

Original poster
shutupheathe · 02/03/2023 19:55

Can someone please link the thread I supposedly copied?

OP posts:
WFHbore2023 · 02/03/2023 19:55

Ah see, I always give our books with the expectation that they will just continue to be passed on.

Would never loan a book I valued and wanted to keep.

This is part of the reason I struggle to spend more than a couple of pound on a kindle book, I hate the thought of not passing it on to be read more than once

blueskylie · 02/03/2023 19:58

NoDairyNoProblem · 02/03/2023 18:41

@shutupheathe did you post about that trip at the time?

Yeah I remember reading about this trip

Original poster
shutupheathe · 02/03/2023 20:00

www.mumsnet.com/talk/legal_money_matters/4660043-settling-the-bill-after-holiday-with-a-friend

Was this the thread? Included the screen print of how I found it. My trip was a 3 day weekend in Amsterdam, friend had no money as she had purposely got herself signed off work and didn’t know she’d be a statutory sick pay and she still went knowing she had no money.

It wasn’t a once in a lifetime trip to Mexico..

A time you’ve regretted lending someone something
OP posts:
Deanandthellhounds · 02/03/2023 20:00

shutupheathe · 02/03/2023 18:42

Responses like this are weird.

Show quote history

yes op, yes they are!

BatFaceOwl · 02/03/2023 20:08

It wasn't that one no

But you do know you could have just said ' no, wasnt me' and that would have been that?

blueskylie · 02/03/2023 20:10

Definitely not that thread. I even rememebr the bit about the keyring.

Original poster
shutupheathe · 02/03/2023 20:10

Deanandthellhounds · 02/03/2023 20:00

yes op, yes they are!

Show quote history

Thank you. Because it’s like so what if something has been posted before? It just distracts from the actual thread.

OP posts:
Original poster
shutupheathe · 02/03/2023 20:10

blueskylie · 02/03/2023 20:10

Definitely not that thread. I even rememebr the bit about the keyring.

Then post a link to it? If it’s so well known and recent it shouldn’t be difficult.

OP posts:
Original poster
shutupheathe · 02/03/2023 20:10

blueskylie · 02/03/2023 20:10

Definitely not that thread. I even rememebr the bit about the keyring.

Then please post the link

OP posts:
FannythePinkFlamingo · 02/03/2023 20:18

I lent a friend my wedding tiara. I hated my wedding dress but the tiara was pretty and I liked it. Never saw it again. Still cross about it now and the friend is no longer a friend.

blueskylie · 02/03/2023 20:18

To ask how I don’t be bitter this weekend? http://www.mumsnet.com/Talk/amiibeingunreasonable/4535910-to-ask-how-i-dont-be-bitter-this-weekend

Since you've asked so politely I did Google it. This is the one your OP reminded me of, so I knew exactly why the first poster asked if you'd posted before.

ChiefWiggumsBoy · 02/03/2023 20:19

I don't think I've lent anything since I was a teenager. I had a friend who borrowed clothes a few times, she was a dirty cow and would wear them to death and then return them battered and filthy.

I did see a photo of my sister wearing my Gap sweatshirt a few weeks ago and told her to give it back. In the pic she was about 14 - she's 37 now Grin