What’s your gut reaction to a 38 year old being pregnant?

[Pegfriedrice]

Do you consider 38 old to be having a baby? Just interested in how people honestly feel hearing it as obviously most people would be polite in person but I’m not sure if secretly they’d think it was quite old to be having a baby?

probably overthinking but hey…

Congratulations, why would it be anything else but that? End of the day their body, their choice, not anyone else business to to judge what other people do.

That's a nasty (and quite frankly, outdated) thing to say!

I'm 38 and 8 months pregnant. It's my first.
It took us 2.5 years+ a (a chemical, possibly twice, a mc and finally on the 3rd/4th (I'll never truly know) attempt pregnant) some people are lucky, others are not.

I know people who had a child in their mid/late 40s because they were trying for 12 years.

All the women in my nct group are a similar age to me, too. 35-40

Of all the pregnant people I've come across, only 2 are what I'd consider to be "young" (my cousin at 21 and my godmothers daughter who is early 30s)

One of my friends had her first at 38 and 2nd at 44.

I hate this narrative that "you're too old"
It's also offensive, nobody knows how long a couple may have been trying for to get pregnant in the first place. Some may well have started when they were much younger and it took so long that they're in their late 30s when they do eventually carry a baby to term.

Don't listen to ANYONE.
Not too old at 38 at all.
If that's what you want to do, go for it but don't let someone else's archaic opinion tar you own life decisions.

There are much nicer ways of saying this though! She shouldn't have been so rude if that was her angle.

Replying to the lady who thought the term "educated classes" was a dubious way of saying that 40 years ago better educated women tended to delay starting a family until their 30s. My reply is that in the UK 40 years ago "social class" was the usual way of dividing populations. Education was a way to transcend class barriers if you were born into the working and labouring classes; if you were educated you automatically became middle class. Most of today's UK middle class came from those born into the working class of the 1940s, 1950s, 1960s, and 1970s who used the 1944 Education Act to get educated and move up and out, which is what the Parliamentary Act was designed to enable them to do.

Congratulations! Admit I was much younger when I had mine (27 and 29) but it doesn't work out the same for everyone. So I would say : live a healthy life as much as possible and have regular check-ups - but that goes for every pregnant woman whatever her age 😊

That it’s normal nowadays. Dd was 38 when she had her first (2nd at 39, 3rd at nearly 43) and many of her friends have been of similar ages.

Thank you for explaining the class system to me Mike, I would have been otherwise entirely unaware.

Surprised that this one popped up again 9 months later

Met my husband at 36, had our first child when I was 39, second at 41 and third at 44 years old. All considered geriatric pregnancies which I found amusing. Apart from the last being feet first breech and my having to have an elective C- section everything was fine. They are now 18, 17 and 13 and I'm kept feeling young. My children have never expressed any worry about me being an older mum. I used to be part of a forum of Mum's trying to conceive after the age of 36 and there was a lot of them. I still keep in touch with many of them. If anyone has ever judged me, they've kept it to themselves. It's their problem not mine.

I was pregnant at 39, had son at 40. I’m now 43 and he’s about to turn 3.

no problem whatsoever

Congratulations. That's lovely news.

Anyone who thinks otherwise has problems.

Congratulations! Please don’t worry about your age, it’s pretty common for women to have babies at your age. I had my last baby just before I turned 40, and my friend just had her 1st at 39. 🍀💜

Congratulations. Be kind.

That’s Great news …Why??

THIS

I had mine at 33 and 38. Lots of my friends were a similar age or older. I think up until early forties is pretty common. I have friends who had a baby at 44/45. Both had struggled to find the right man and then it fell into place.

Are you for real? No gut reaction at all other than 'Congratulations!'

Sorry, just realised its not you thinking 38 is too old. Its not old at all and I wish you all the best - I had twins at 48. they are 16 now and I never felt any older than any of the other mums. 38 is a perfectly normal age these days. Everyone's different - some people have empty tanks at 35 and others feel no different than when they were in their twenties.