What’s your gut reaction to a 38 year old being pregnant?

[Pegfriedrice]

Do you consider 38 old to be having a baby? Just interested in how people honestly feel hearing it as obviously most people would be polite in person but I’m not sure if secretly they’d think it was quite old to be having a baby?

probably overthinking but hey…

I was 38 when I had my second and he’s 5 months old and I know other around my age and a bit older having babies. I was 37 when I fell pregnant and when I turned 38 I had to just go for more scans due to my age but that’s it. I think the older you are the higher the risk of smaller babies or going into labour early but I wasn’t made to feel too old. Good luck. X

I'd say I'd only pay any attention to a mum's age at all from 40 on, and even then it would just be "oh, another older mum" without any thought of it being too old or unsuitable. 25 years ago I had mine at 28 and 30, but even then there were plenty of older mums. Depends on the crowd you hang about with, maybe. Perhaps your sister knows a lot of young mums?

Do you have a problem with it? Are you the one pregnant? I feel it’s beautiful as they could have been trying for a long time. Also, I seen a post today on Quora where parents’ son said he didn’t have any regret (not right word) say hatred or I’ll feeling towards his parents for being nearly 40 for having him x

OP I don't know anyone who had a baby before 30. Not one of my friends or acquaintances. Most people were having babies at 38 and into their 40s.

Certainly among highly educated women in highly paid careers, 38 is very much the norm.

It is definitely NOT too old I think it’s a great age tbh the teenagers are too young but 38 fabulous darling 😘

Apologises, just read a little more. Congrats! You shouldn’t worry about what other people think, family included. Do what’s right for you. So happy for you x

Honestly, I'd think congratulations first. I wouldn't think 38 was too old to have a child at all, but I'd also be thankful that I had my DC mid-late 20's and that I didn't have to face sleepless nights, nappies and toddlers in my 40's!

Only 38.... not 55

I would say amazing, congratulations 😊
It's a blessing.
Alot of my friends are having children at this age, don't let other people's comments hinder your own life/plans

I had DC2 at 37, so I wouldn’t think anything of it. Everything was fine.

Biologically speaking, it’s probably ideal to have babies at 18 to 25ish but as most of us are still settling into adult life at that age, it’s impractical.

i had first at 40 and second at 42

Won't it depend on when she started her periods? There was some girls in my year who started at 9. The younger they start the more likely they are to start menopause before 40.

I was 40 when I had my 1st and only child. I did far more with him than a lot of the younger mums did with theirs. If I could I would gladly have had another. I didn't care what other people thought I was just happy to be pregnant. Just asked my son, he never felt I was old... Said he still doesn't lol he's now 18 😍

I found this comment from @Yespresh very odd too. If the poster had said 'my mum was 45 when she had me, and got quite ill and infirm at 70' (which does happen) 'so I was a carer for her when I was 24', I would have got that, and empathised. Being 54 with a 91 y.o. mum sounds normal. Whilst not THAT many women have a first baby aged 37-38+, many women will have subsequent babies at/around that age.

My first 35, second 37. Second birthd are usually easier. Two children much more work than one in the early years. People are so much fitter now than they used to be so 38 fine.

Your definitely over thinking, my friend had her daughter at 45, fabulous Mum.

Too old.
It isn’t of course but that my personal gut reaction.

I had both my children in my 30s, so I wouldn’t bat an eyelid at having a baby at 38

It’s a balance that’s for sure. I have to be honest and say for people who have chosen to have children much later (over 36ish) for career/freedom reasons, I do see it as making the child pay the price for their ‘years of fun’. I also don’t really get that as a premise. If having children isn’t fun why do it at all

Fitter?? Are you joking

I’d think “congratulations!”

Had my babies at 34, 35, 36 and 42 so I'd think congratulations!

Most of my NCT group were mid 30s. I was 39. The youngest was in her mid 20s and much more of an outlier!

Tbh I only have two friends who had babies before around 33. So I wouldn't think anything.

Having had two children when older than 38, I'd say Congratulations and mean it.

totally normal.
I had mine aged 35, 37 and 40.

They are now older teens

No it isn’t. Don’t let people dedicate when / how to do things especially if they are not financing or contributing to your lifestyle.