What’s your gut reaction to a 38 year old being pregnant?

[Pegfriedrice]

Do you consider 38 old to be having a baby? Just interested in how people honestly feel hearing it as obviously most people would be polite in person but I’m not sure if secretly they’d think it was quite old to be having a baby?

probably overthinking but hey…

Had my second a few weeks after turning 39. There’s an age gap with his sister but it’s because of a traumatic first pregnancy followed by miscarriage. I would never judge anyone for when they have baby no 1, 2 or more as you never know what they’ve gone through to get there. As someone seeing a friend going through a very difficult IVF process atm I have nothing but happy and hopeful thoughts for someone who gets pregnant whatever their age or background to conceiving.

1st DC @ 40 and 2nd @ 41 🤣

I'd be happy for their blessing. My friend and I both had our first babies at 42 and she is having her second at 44. There's a lot of 40+ mums in the baby groups we go to. All very lovely, professional, financially stable women in happy long term relationships. How lucky are our babies :)

I personally feel you are overthinking it. I was a couple of years into my forties when I was pregnant. Plus not sure what anyone else’s opinion has to do with it, I really wouldn’t think about that at all.

I was 37 when I had my 1st & turned 40 2 months after having my 2nd. Wouldn't think anything of it.

What a truly awful response from your sister and so insensitive. FWIW I had my first at 44 and second at 46 - and I do know older parents - they keep you young for sure!
CONGRATULATIONS - enjoy every minute and ignore anyone who is miserable !

Honestly wouldn't think anything of it, seems a perfectly normal age to have a child to me.

I would think congratulations :)

Currently pregnant with my second at 36 and only had one comment off a friend that they couldn't do it at my age haha

Fantastic … my dear Mum ❤️🌹 was 42 when she had me and she was my best friend in the world ❤️❤️❤️ truly … congratulations 🥳

I was pregnant at 38 and my son was born when I was 39. The reality of this situation is that we had been TTC since we got married 7 years previously. I am thankful that I was able to get pregnant after all that time, not everyone with the same fertility journey is that fortunate. I did, however, find it immensely irritating being called an ‘elderly primagravida’ throughout my pregnancy. Fucking cheek!

I had my second at 39 and currently waiting to see if a third will happen at 43. Pretty normal these days but it does come with added stress! I found it harder on my body and harder to conceive as I've gotten older.
So I guess my gut reaction would be one of happiness and a little concern as it can be stressful on mum.

My gut reaction is that it is old to be having a baby but not too old. It's more risky having a baby after 35 but not so much that it should not stop you. The trouble with sisters is that they can be cruel and so take what she said with a pinch of salt, her comments are not coming from a good place. Your friends will be kinder.

It’s absolutely the norm in my social circle so I wouldn’t even notice. A 28 year old might catch my attention because it skews a bit on the young side, though not inappropriately so.

I had my second (and final) child when I was 38, he's just turned 3 and there's mums at his nursery same age/older than me so I don't think it's that bizarre to have a child at that age. My brothers partner has just given birth to their second (and no idea if final as its none of my business) child and she turned 40 2 weeks before she gave birth. If you can raise a child well then age doesn't come into it in my opinion. I've met mums who gave birth at 16 and mum's who gave birth in their 40s who were all bloody good mums! Yes I understand that older mums may have more difficulties medically but in my eyes that's 50+, not your age group and frankly it's nobody else's business anyway what age you choose to have a child as long as you're capable of rearing it well. Tell your sister to mind her own business and you do what's right for you!

First thought - congratulations
Second thought - ooo lovely baby snuggles
Third thought - wonder what's for tea tonight

Every wanted pregnancy is a blessing and I'm pleased for all.

I had my twins at 38. I felt fit and healthy. Now they are 8 I’m a tired frazzled mess however

Very normal in my circle. I had my second later than that.

Same.

I was 38 and just 1 month shy of my 39th birthday when I had my fourth child! It was also my fourth c section. It will be fine and so relax and enjoy it.😊

What!!!!! God you need to move with the times
My ma had me at 40 back in the day but to make such a comment now????shows an incredibly narrow mind and lack of knowledge.Read up on the odds of getting pregnant at 38 and they are not what you might think from reading the scare tactic media

Some women will freeze eggs and have a baby mid forties or beyond.when do u think women should have babies?straight out of uni? Dangerously old fashioned idea.id hate to be one of your friends starting a family.

I asked a nurse this a few years ago, after she gave the polite answers and everything and I’ve said no really just say, when does it start being too old? She said 42. I had my last baby at 40

I would think congratulations. I had DS 2 at 37 . I was delighted!

Good for them!

Not at all!! I live in Edinburgh and was told by my GP when I was 38, that isn’t old to have a baby here! FYI I’m now 40 and still hoping to have my first baby by which time I’ll be at least 41 - oh to be 38 again! X

My BFF has just had a baby she is 40, and my other BFF has just announced her pregnancy and she is 40. I’d just think congratulations.