What’s your gut reaction to a 38 year old being pregnant?

[Pegfriedrice]

Do you consider 38 old to be having a baby? Just interested in how people honestly feel hearing it as obviously most people would be polite in person but I’m not sure if secretly they’d think it was quite old to be having a baby?

probably overthinking but hey…

Almost none of my friends has a baby under 35, so 38 completely normal. I had DC at 36, 38 and 41. All totally fine.

It's definitely a normal age I got pregnant for the first time at 33, had my baby at 34 and I'm contemplating whether to have a second baby a few years down the line so around 37/38 if I'm lucky enough to conceive again.

One of my closest friends didn't have her first until she was 39 and had her second at 41 and she loves it 😊

Very rude of your sister to make that sorted of assumption in that tone.

For me, if it's just them being pregnant, I probably wouldn't give it two thoughts and I'd never bring the topic up.

If it's a pregnancy announcement, I'd have a similar gut reaction to any other adult pregnancy announcement - minor discomfort, especially if there is a bunch of congrats and fawning and excited discussion. I wasn't born British and this is an area where I still feel a culture clash. I can wish for the pregnancy to go as well and comfortably as possible, but I just can't say congratulation when there are months of discomfort and risk ahead with no guarantees, it still feels weird to me. I loathed talking about my own pregnancies with all but my closest, and even those only in private and very tempered, and with those who know me, I've been the person ranted to about worries and things that suck, in part I'm told because I don't get excited about pregnancies and view them cautiously with concerns about the mother's health, regardless of her age.

The only time I've had a different gut reaction is when it's been people who've told me they didn't want to be pregnant not long before the announcement and/or spent time with me recently going on about how horrible their partner is. Then my gut reaction is WTF is going on.

I've recently given birth to baby number 6, by emergency c section, at the age of 35. We would love number 7 but it it results in an emergency c section again, or planned I would rather not have any more after that. As I know its like a domino effect,once you have a c-section its unlikely to have a vbac. And at 36 or more years of age, I wouldn't like to go through any more births, just enjoy being a mother, as not sure how much more I want to go through or how much more by body can take. I've done well though, 6 kids before 40!

I wouldn't bat an eyelid.
I find ignoring siblings views on life quite helpful

But if it * results in emergency c section, I'd rather not

No reaction at all. I've just had my second baby a few weeks before turning 37. Haven't ruled out a third, in which case I would be TTC at 38. It's completely normal.

I know someone about to turn 46 who is having a baby soon.

I had a baby at 38 (over 20 years ago) and my mother had children at 38 and 39 nearly 60 years ago so I would think it was perfectly normal!

I wouldn't bat an eyelid and wouldn't care. I had a friend tell me today she would love another one and she is 42! I wouldn't judge her, she is happy and married and no one should say anything. Its her life. And if she feels she can do it, fine. My uncle had his first in mid 40s,he looks younger than what he is , now the child is knocking on 16. And he's in his late 50s and he is still doing lots of things with the kids and working in the police force. If you can do it, do it!

It is v normal in my friendship group. I would just think it was lovely.

I turned 38 last month. I'm 6 months pregnant.

Your sister can do one.

My great grandmother had her first baby at the age of 37 in 1925, and her second baby at 39 in 1927.

Desperately still trying for our first at 35, I’d be delighted with a second (or first at this rate), at 38. Would feel nothing but pleased to hear someone was pregnant, not based solely on their age being 38 anyway!

My gut reaction would be one of joy and that their age would be NONE OF MY BLOODY BUSINESS

It seems pretty normal to me.

Having said that, I’m 38 and my DC are aged 16-19, so the idea of starting all over again at my age fills me with absolute dread!

38, completely normal, 48 ooh that might be a bit tricky.

I might raise an eyebrow at 48 but 38 is pretty common.

I had one at 35 and one at 39 and no one batted an eyelid. Just do what you want!

Congratulations! 😀I was 39 having my third and a friend of mine didn’t start on her 3 dc until she was 40. Age didn’t and isn’t causing any issues.

Wouldn't think anything of it other than congratulations!

I had my babies at 37, 39 and 42. So, no, I wouldn't consider it to be old. I also think it's nobody else's business

Totally normal.

most people I know focused on their career on their twenties, got married in their early 30’s, babies mid - late.

Totally normal in my world! I had my first at 38 and my second at 40. I have friends who have had babies in their late thirties and some well into their 40s l. The oldest I know was 46

I had my first of 3 at 38, so i’m perplexed about why anything other than congratulations would be appropriate?

as for too old, i’m 44 now and i’m guessing around average age in school yard, so no. Not too old and pretty much normal

I had mine at 29, 31 and 44! Second marriage and second family. Not really planned but life is like that and nothing wrong with it at all. 38 sounds fine to me.