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Is 22 too old to attend a youth club?

166 replies

AlePock · 25/02/2023 02:53

I’m thinking of getting my 22 year old son to go to a youth club because he has few friends and he wants to make some new ones. I went to a youth club when I was younger on a Friday night but it was mainly under 16s. Do they do them for older kids too?

OP posts:
Sparklingbrook · 25/02/2023 08:16

LadyMacbethssweetArabianhand · 25/02/2023 08:12

It sounds like the series with Ronny Corbet and his mother where he worked in a library. It was called, 'Sorry.'

I remember that. There must be a reason I’ve never seen it repeated. 😂

Orchidflower1 · 25/02/2023 08:17

Yes @AlePock we have a fab “youth club” it’s called the Dog and Duck. The other “youth club” is called The Golden lion. Send him there!

Prescottdanni123 · 25/02/2023 08:18

He won't be allowed to attend as a member. He is too old. Youth clubs age ranges are from 11/12 years - 16/18 years. He needs friends his own age anyway, not friends who are still at secondary school.

The only thing he might be allowed to do is volunteer there as an adult leader. And this way he could make friends amongst the other leaders and gain some new experiences/skills. But he would have to be DBS checked. And if he isn't interested in volunteering with teens then he will not enjoy it.

Justalittlebitduckling · 25/02/2023 08:18

That would be inappropriate and a safeguarding issue.

Standbyguest · 25/02/2023 08:19

Youth clubs for 22 Yr olds are called the pub.

Sparklingbrook · 25/02/2023 08:20

He has been on Tinder and Hinge but that didn’t come to much really.

Looking for friends?

KatherineJaneway · 25/02/2023 08:20

LadyMacbethssweetArabianhand · 25/02/2023 08:12

It sounds like the series with Ronny Corbet and his mother where he worked in a library. It was called, 'Sorry.'

Language Timothy!

Coffeellama · 25/02/2023 08:24

He isn’t an older kid or an older adolescent, he’s a regular adult! Not appropriate at all.
Walking club, or park run, or something more specific like a gaming club or re-enactment group (obviously I don’t have a clue what he likes) would be a good idea though. I think most people make friends at work once they are adults.

transformandriseup · 25/02/2023 08:24

If this is a serious post (and I'm really not sure) he could join Network Scouts are for under 25's and meetings are arranged among the young people and they meet up for hikes etc. or he could volunteer as a youth leader.

Coffeellama · 25/02/2023 08:25

AlePock · 25/02/2023 04:07

@Idlikeasize8please He works Mon-Wed at the local library but the other staff are mostly middle aged women. He has been on Tinder and Hinge but that didn’t come to much really.

Do you no what tinder is actually for OP? You don’t make friends there.

MargaretThursday · 25/02/2023 08:26

Dd is 22, she's been a helper at a youth group for nearly 5 years now.
It would be very odd for a 22yo to want to be an attendee, and would have safeguarding issues for the group.

Mehmeh22 · 25/02/2023 08:26

Some saying this is not serious....with the way this age bracket come into the workforce, I bet you anything it's not a wind up

Bullshot · 25/02/2023 08:28

Standbyguest · 25/02/2023 08:19

Youth clubs for 22 Yr olds are called the pub.

This ^

Can2022getanyworse · 25/02/2023 08:30

There are loads of older adolescent/young adult youth clubs around my town op. Instead of searching online get him to ask around locally - we call them pubs...

PetitPorpoise · 25/02/2023 08:31

It's not actually that daft a question.

There used to be a lot of working men's clubs, ex servicemen's clubs and things but they've died a death really.

Of course they revolved more around alcohol but they were a social club with events on which is basically what OP's son is after.

legalseagull · 25/02/2023 08:31

At 22 I think it's called a 'pub'

Sparklingbrook · 25/02/2023 08:33

PetitPorpoise · 25/02/2023 08:31

It's not actually that daft a question.

There used to be a lot of working men's clubs, ex servicemen's clubs and things but they've died a death really.

Of course they revolved more around alcohol but they were a social club with events on which is basically what OP's son is after.

It might not be a daft question from the 22 year old himself but this is his Mother.

Sparklingbrook · 25/02/2023 08:34

Or father. 🤷‍♀️

Shinyandnew1 · 25/02/2023 08:34

By the sounds of it then they don’t do older adolescent youth clubs

Hes not an ‘older adolescent’ though, he’s a grown up man. They tend to meet people by going to the pub, playing sports, doing hobbies. What does he like doing? Does he have additional needs?

PetitPorpoise · 25/02/2023 08:34

@Sparklingbrook fair enough Grin

RememberMarch · 25/02/2023 08:35

ShippingNews · 25/02/2023 04:34

You don't mention that he actually wants new friends. Perhaps he doesn't . As his Mum you need to back off and let him decide what he wants in the way of friendships.

Hi OP yes I feel this is the most appropriate post to quote as I can relate a lot to this thread

Aged exactly 22 - j had a lot of difficulties with my parents. They were in denial over the fact I had a boyfriend and was a sexually active woman and insisted on treating me like an adolescent. My mum contacted the vicar of the church she was a member of and got the vicarious round to our house one day. He came round, the door shut behind them to keep me from hearing anything and when they both came out - the vicar invited me to a church barbecue. This was very weird not least because by that time I'd not been to the church for over 4 years due to work commitments etc.
I didn't go to the barbecue - the vicar even called me the day before to remind me - thankfully I didn't go but I was mortified about the whole thing and deeply pissed off - I felt my toes had been trodden on.
My mum tried to make out to people that I was shy and awkward and had no friends but my mum was the crux of the problem - is he pushed me into friendships I never wanted and was an emotionally abusive. One of my mums friends came round and said "it's boring if you haven't got friends to mix with in the university holidays" - I thought - I'm 22 not fucking 12!!!! Angry

ItchyBillco · 25/02/2023 08:35

Jesus. The poor man is 22, works a couple of days in a library with some old dears, and his mother is trying to shoehorn him into a youth club and send him hiking, while monitoring his Tinder use. 😬

Flesh · 25/02/2023 08:36

Not at all. Make sure you send him with a fruit shoot and a packet of wotsits to eat during the break.

MrsJamin · 25/02/2023 08:36

I married DH when he was 22. Your son is too old for youth clubs and should not be hanging out with teenagers, that's weird.

FancyFanny · 25/02/2023 08:42

Why on earth would a 22 year old want to make friends that are teenagers?

Just get him to join an adult club connected to something he's interested in!