I wish people would take pictures of me with my dcs

[theblackradiator]

I have lots of lovely natural non posed photos of dp and their grandmother with the dc, playing with them, hugging laughing together absolutely lovely moments captured without them knowing and they are lovely to look back on. But nobody ever thinks to take out their phone and snap natural photos of me in the moment with my dc. Not one single photo with me their mother hugging, kissing, reading to them nothing and it upsets me so much. I've mentioned it sooo many times to dp and my mum but they still don't ever do it. The only photo I ever get of me with dc is if I ask someone to take one and then it's just a posed photo of us just stood their. I could scream. Anyone else have this issue.

Same!! Have to force the issue with selfies or thrusting the camera at them and requesting a photo of me with them. Think we're just so constantly there as to become invisible - very annoying and I still forget loads even having raised it to DH and DM years ago!!

Same here. When I die they'll have virtually no photos of me at all.

This is so true!

Yep, looks like I was never there.

Same here too. I always make sure I take pics of my sisters and friends with their DC and send them to them for this reason.

So true. I'm always the one behind the camera.

Sadly yes. There are three photos of me and DD between her being born and 2 years old that arnt selfies I took of us.
It actually makes me really sad that if I died tomorrow DD will have almost no photos of us to look back on.

Same here, it used to upset me so much but I'm over it now that my kids are older.

I have quite a few nice ones of the 4 of us, where I asked someone to take one. Not hard. Or ds1 sets it in a timer, which is quite easy.

my dc are getting older now my eldest a teen but looking back through my old photos not one of me with them that wasn't posed. I recently had a birthday and no one thinks to take a photo of dc giving me their gift or a birthday hug whereas if it's dps or grandmother's birthday il be their quietly in the background snapping a few pics I actually feel jealous that's there's none of me like that with them. it doesn't bloody matter how many times I ask them to do it they still don't. my birthday went by with no photographic recollection as usual. is this just a thing that's special and important to mothers and that's why dp and my mum don't care. I must say dp and mum arnt ones for taking pics anyway they could take dc on holiday and there wouldn't be a single photo they just don't think to do it.

But that's posed and not a natural photo though.

I agree OP, I'm also the mum behind the camera! It's sucb a pity.

I think it’s pretty universal. People just don’t think.

I quite often take candid photos of friends with their kids and sometimes if I’ve seen a sweet moment of a mum and child out and about I’ll snap it and give it them. They are always thankful. It’s just nice to help other mums out.

Same here, just been on holiday and went on a tour, the guide kept asking for my phone so he could take photos of us as a family, it’s so lovely to have them, we normally come back from hols with pictures of just DH & DC, I might be in the odd one which I’ve had to ask someone to take.

OP, no I don't think its just special and important to mothers, when me and DDs dad split up, he asked if I could send him any photos of him and DD as he wanted some to put round the house. Other family members also seem to appreciate when I do personalised moonpig cards with photos of them and DD on.

They’re not candid and they don’t really mean anything.

Most people want photos of the moments they’re not likely to remember. The little ones that fade away like discovering a new skill or toy and a hug when they’re sick.

Totally with you there. I'm not a big fan of being photographed but I'm a single mum so when I'm out with dc all pictures are taken by me so I'm never in any, except bad selfies. When they look back in the future they will just see thousands of pictures of themselves as if I wasn't there.

I regularly snap natural photos of my friends, for this very reason.

I'll just send them later that evening and they are always so grateful.

YES! Unless a man is "into" photography they rarely think to do it.. I do it for the memories. So it looks like their dad does everything with them 😡 anyway he took a pic of me cuddling my little one at an event recently and I love it. You can see the love in my eyes. I made a fuss so hopefully he'll take more.

I also have no-one taking pics of me laughing , chatting with ex, friends, family.. I am the only one I know who likes taking photos. All my pics are posed.

I know the feeling. I ask for "proof of mum" photos but sometimes you just want someone to think and take one.

I feel the same as you OP. Most photos of DD and I are selfies because it got to the point where I realised there were zillions of photos of her with other people and almost none with me and I thought I'd better take some of us together because if I died she'd have hardly any photos of me (I know this is a morbid perspective!)

I did talk to dsis about it a couple of years ago and since then she's been great at making sure she takes a few photos on days we're together.

I've also said the same to my mum who admits she loves all the photos of her with my DD and she does say 'I'm terrible of thinking to do it' but then still never does. I look TERRIBLE in posed photos so it's useless asking someone to take a photo of us. Like you OP, I'd just like general photos of us when we're on daytrips or whatever rather than standing looking at the camera.

Maybe just ask them in the moment? Eg when giving a gift, say 'hang on a minute! Can you take a couple of photos please?' and give someone your phone.

A lot of people just don't think to take photos, or it's not as important to them, or they might even worry that people don't like their photo being taken.

I know you've made it clear to your family that you want them to take pictures so it's most likely that they just forget.

Be direct, and tell them in the moment to get their camera out.

Same. It's so annoying. My DBs are both keen photographers so if we're at large family events, they will take natural shots of everyone. But if I'm just at home or away with DH and DCs, no-one takes natural shots of me. I make them take posed shots but it isn't as good.

Had this argument with DH this week. He then gets the camera out. Which ruins the natural moment and I hate posing or having a camera on me.

Been saying it since before my 2YO was born. And keep hammering the point in now and then but it would just be nice for the thought to be there without having to say it.

Yes, immediately producing the camera is so missing the point.

Dh is massively into photos and I had a period where I want to scream at his obsession with "natural moments " aka me looking like a wild woman " never any of me looking nice with the kids.

Guess I'm kinda the opposite to most.of you here 🙂