DD (5) has a friend of the same age. Not sure it's relevant but her friend has mild ASD. We like her and DD being very chatty and loud, friend being quiet, they get on really well.
I invited them to our house yesterday for the first time. I was nervous about them overstaying as when we meet them at playgrounds the other mum is never in a hurry, could be stormy, could be dark, we have to keep pushing to leave.
Yesterday they came around 2 pm. The girls were having fun and around 4:30 pm the mum asked me what would be a good time to leave. I said 5:30, that would have given the girls 3.5 hrs play which is plenty. At 5 pm she texted her DH to come and collected them. He rolled in around 5:40pm, came in the house, took his jacket off and made himself comfortable.
Her DH had a few questions to ask my DH then around 6 pm her DK asked me what time is dinner for our DD. I said usually around this time but I still have to cook. He said OK. Their DD shouted down the stairs she didn't want to leave so could he come up and play camping. He went upstairs and didn't come down until 6:20 pm. At which point I said I need to start cooking for DD, can they get their DD?
The mum called DD, she came downstairs and said she doesn't want to leave, could she play longer? The mum said ok, you can play a bit longer. This carried on until 6:45 with her DD asking for more play.
At 6:45 pm they were standing by the door saying...yay, we are going!!...but they didn't even had their jackets or shoes on. I said, would you like your shoes?!! Their DD was wearing my DD party dress and didn't want to take it off, I said she can take it away as we don't need it for a while. Finally they were out just before 7 pm.
I was furious!!! It was past DD's dinner time and we skipped her bath as it was too late.
How would you deal with this? I assume when you give a person a deadline they'll stick to it?!