I don’t think it’s mean or unfair to be resentful that someone who cannot keep their story straight over the course of a single twitter thread has managed to profit enormously from doing just that. Making money from lies is deplorable enough but when that money is coming from kind, struggling people who believe what you’ve told them - that you’re just like them - it’s so much worse. I find JM fascinating and repugnant for this reason, and want to talk about it because I can’t understand how anyone is still defending her. (“Other people are worse” is a dangerous road to take - can we not criticise Sunak because Bolsonaro is worse? Where does it end?)
It’s also not bullying to point that out and to ask for accountability. Anyone with a big public profile making a claim that doesn’t add up can, rightly or wrongly, expect to have that questioned. If she doesn’t want that to happen, she could just…not make claims that don’t add up in public forums. She doesn’t have to be ‘famous’, or have a Twitter account, or post intimate details about her life, but she does all these things by choice. That’s not saying she deserves to be criticised, but there are things she could do to reduce the amount of drama in her life and she chooses not to.
For what it’s worth I have ADHD and it is absolutely debilitating when unmedicated. It’s almost impossible to muster up the energy and brainpower to do anything that isn’t driven by an external factor (i.e. someone else relying on you). I was diagnosed in adulthood and some friends and family found it hard to believe because, in their words, “sure you’re very disorganised but you always go above and beyond for others” but that’s characteristic of ADHD - the dopamine from doing things for others is just enough to enable you to do the things. Without that dopamine, doing something for yourself is nigh-on impossible, even if it’s really easy. This in turn causes really low self-esteem (because you feel unable to do basic things) which then compounds the inability to get stuff done. Even if it means your life is significantly harder than it would’ve been if you’d done the thing. It’s not a choice; it’s a mental paralysis.
BUT: this is why I can believe JM hasn’t got a PPC because of ADHD, even if she really is poor (which I don’t believe for a second btw) - because doing stuff that only benefits you is always at the very bottom of the (long, impossible, overwhelming) to-do list. Failure to provide patreon rewards isn’t, though, because that benefits others and the dopamine hit would (a) make it possible and (b) mean the shame and self-loathing associated with not doing it would be unbearable and cause her to pause it.
In addition, there’s one thing that makes a BIG difference to ADHD life: medication. It doesn’t solve every problem but on a moderate dose it is life-changing. My brain is quiet when I’m taking it and I can do both simple and complex things that seemed impossible before. 60mg Elvanse (what JM is on) is a moderate-to-high dose and it’s pharmacologically impossible for it not to have an effect on the human brain at all (ADHD or neurotypical - I know people who take it recreationally and all of them have felt some kind of impact on their mental energy). If she is still not doing basic tasks then it is either (a) not because of ADHD or (b) she is not actually on it. It’s so harmful to claim that it is and makes the rest of us struggle to be believed, taken seriously and accommodated where we need to be.
TLDR: It’s hard to believe any of what she says when she lies, on her own social media, so much. She may have ADHD but that’s not causing her behaviours; that’s just shitty personality traits.