I live in Tokyo. We’re not the Netherlands, but Tokyo is designed around public transport hubs, walking and cycling.
- I took my own baby to our local clinic in the pram. I never had a single problem with this. When you live more densely, local services are not far away.
- Teenagers and older kids nearly always get themselves to and from their own activities.
- Older people usually manage by themselves - tricycles, mobility scooters and the like if they find walking challenging. Trains are mostly pretty accessible now (though there is always room for improvement). Older people actually benefit massively from the independence and from the fact that all the walking helps keep them mobile for so much longer.
- When urban areas are dense, your shop isn’t far from you. I just load up the buggy with shopping. I could do a whole week’s shopping in one go if I wanted, but in fact it’s very easy to get shopping twice a week when it’s round the corner.
- At home health carers can reach many people’s houses when they live densely. Respite care services send minibuses round. We all seem to manage OK and Japan is a more aged society than the UK!
It’s all imperfect and many things here could do with improvement. Overall, though, I prefer it to the UK (and I do spent 6 weeks there every year, so I have a chance to compare the two!). We all stay so much physically fitter here. Errands and shopping doubles up as exercise time, so you are basically multitasking and it’s more efficient - I would hate to have to somehow find extra time to exercise on top of a busy lifestyle. Older people stay fitter, more mobile and more independent. Older kids and teens really benefit, psychologically and developmentally, from being able to go about by themselves and not have to be wheeled around by their parents like infants - and I find it hugely freeing not to have to spend my life taxiing older kids, teens and elderly parents around. Our shops and street level environments are busy and well used, so you walk around and it feels safe and lively (unlike in the UK - the boarded up shop fronts you see everywhere in the UK are so utterly depressing, yet they are the inevitable consequences of a car dependent society, because people just drive out to out-of-town developments where the parking is more spacious). Oh, and not having to spend time, energy money having to maintain a depreciating asset (car) and arse around with fucking car seats and trying to find parking spaces is nice.