some teens are perfect?

[carnation459]

out for a drink with friends last night.
I mentioned in passing that my 12 year old seems to be going through some stuff which is tricky, here come the teen hormones etc and friend said:

"oh mine was delightful. All the way through she was nothing but lovely and never gave me a single problem".

I mean, I guess this is possible.
It wasn't the most supportive comment on the heels of my needing a little supportive nod perhaps.
Surely pre teen/teenage girls (and boys) all have their moments? Don't they? Is it possible to go right the way through with no drama, no pushback against parents, no arguments, no rebellion?

MN posts about own teens: “They’re just great company and lovely”

MN posts about other peoples teens: “They’re really rude/bullying/a bad influence/ vandals/drug users etc”

Just don’t try to work out the logic. Will give you a migraine.

I was one of those teens who was really easy. Actually I just couldn't talk to my Mum at all and spent all my time memorising the sky guide and pretending that's why I spent weekends at my best mates from age 12. (she had Sky, we didn't). In actual fact Mum didn't know where we went or what we did, although my friends parents did, they took the attitude that if they gave us some freedom but under their indirect supervision (small village) we would be grand. If we went further afield, friends Dad drove us and collected us even in the wee small hours and eventually we all went to gigs and weekends away with them and a mixed age group. I still keep in touch with my friends Mum (more than friend who moved abroad although we do still message). My eldest dd is 12 and definitely has a few moments but is very open, youngest though will definitely be a nightmare I suspect given her temperament.

My 12 year old can have the odd strops and ups and downs. This weekend she has surprised me. She has a group of girls over for a sleep over and she was organising them all, telling certain ones off for being unruly. When they wanted to cook food she came and got me. I was very impressed. I think give them some breathing space and a bit of trust and responsibility. This may not be applicable to all teens but it seems to be helping us.

Some parents are just very competitive, regardless of the type of teenager they have. Competitive parents who have a difficult teenager will be the ones claiming that easy going teenagers will end up a depressed, down trodden shell of a person, whereas theirs will be a feisty, go getting success!

Mine are good kids.

but they are certainly not perfect!