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Things I haven’t said out loud this week

686 replies

YorkieTheRabbit · 27/01/2023 18:21

1 - No, we haven’t asked you to come over for a meal in ages, no, I don’t care how many hints you drop, it’s falling on deaf ears.
I don’t expect you to help prepare or cook when you’re here BUT I do expect you to supervise your kids, not plonk down on the sofa and completely ignore them. Accidents may happen but if you actually looked after them instead of scrolling through your phones, we wouldn’t have had a house plant tipped over the carpet, used toilet roll and wee on the toilet floor, orange juice poured in the dogs bowl plus numerous others. Oh and by the way, we’ve never been invited over to your house in the eight years you’ve lived there!

2 - Im sorry your daughter would rather spend time with her gran but for god’s sake be honest, you spent the first ten years of her life bouncing from one disastrous relationship to another because you were desperate for a bloke. You put them in front of her needs. Her gran might not be perfect but at least she was there for her.

OP posts:
Theredjellybean · 13/02/2023 07:22

Please stop bloody ringing 111 when you literally have had a temperature or earache or someone minor symptom for a day...stop being so bloody feeble, take some personal responsibility and take some paracetamol

Longsleepneeded · 13/02/2023 07:35

Please just leave work, I hate you and sharing a job with you. I know how two faced you are and how you talk about me behind my back. No we don't need to hear yet again how many houses you own and rent out and how much money you spend on your son. You brag about not needing to work yet take overtime every week, it's getting so boring now. Stop being fake friendly to me. I don't want to talk to you.

Smallorangecat · 13/02/2023 09:31

I can’t do this anymore.
I can’t do the 13hr shift, I actually don’t think I can even do the 8hr shift I am supposed to be doing.

I’m sorry. I can’t be the mummy you need me to be. You need someone who can fight to help you and maybe if I am not here someone better will be and will help.

Telling me that you don’t know how to help me or even if you can wasn’t very helpful. Your job is to help me and I trusted you. I don’t want to keep coming to see you. Talking about it doesn’t make it feel better.

MissWired · 13/02/2023 09:35

You've not been back in your old role for ten minutes and you're already twagging off every chance you get, you lazy bitch. Wasn't the case when you were temporarily promoted, was it? Love how you've dumped half your responsibilities on someone else as well - gotta get them fag breaks in, after all!

You're also working on the side for cash which is why you keep leaving early - "family emergencies" my arse.

Not one single person in your team has a good word to say about you, you lying back stabbing cow.

pristinesurfacesGBTD · 13/02/2023 09:55

please wash yourself and your clothes more often, you don't realise how much you smell, can you really not smell it yourself. It's awful but I don't know how to say something without hurting your feelings.

Toooldtoworry · 13/02/2023 12:14

One of my clients died today. They didn't put their life insurance into trust which means it goes through probate which potentially means the widow will be repossessed - I really wish he'd listened :( Worst part of my job.

BearKey · 13/02/2023 20:41

F*cking squeeky floorboards!! We spent an absolute fortune trying to fix it, and it just made it worse!!! OCD in overdrive :-( :-(

BearKey · 13/02/2023 20:41

lollipoprainbow · 27/01/2023 23:42

I can't accept my dd's autism.

I feel you :-(

ReneBumsWombats · 13/02/2023 20:47

Because you were shit parents. That's why she won't come to you with her problems and won't tell you directly about her divorce. You were cold, abusive and favoured her siblings. You're lucky she communicates with you at all. And now you're making this all about you as well. The one good thing is that she's not scared to divorce because the only helpful thing you taught her was total independence and self-reliance. Since she can never, and could never, count on you.

MermaidMummy06 · 14/02/2023 01:25

To my friend, just now:

No, I'm not upending my family & kids' night routine, asking exhausted DH to do next day prep, look after DC alone so I can come to your house to spend my night babysitting your 12 week old grandchild. Your 18 year old DD decided to have this baby so she & her BF can grow up & cancel their dinner plans & look after her themselves. Doesn't matter 'it's not her fault you have to work unexpectedly'. It's called parenting.

Btw you're not helping them by doing 90% of the work. They need to grow up & realise having a baby means a different life, no nightclubs til 4am & sleeping off Sunday hangovers because you HAVE A BABY.

I actually did tell her that it's too difficult for me to upend everything for her dd's dinner plans so she'll just have to cancel & parent her own child. Friend convinced another of her kids to do it!*

Whatwouldscullydo · 14/02/2023 09:13

What do u want. Can u stop this hot and cold crap. I know I joke around and I know I appear nothing in the world can get to me but thats because my problems are my problems and I'm not gonna put them onto others. But that doesn't mean people can do what they want and it doesn't affect me or I dont notice. I can take it either way but don't keep throwing me a bone then backing off.

ReneBumsWombats · 14/02/2023 12:57

Whatwouldscullydo · 14/02/2023 09:13

What do u want. Can u stop this hot and cold crap. I know I joke around and I know I appear nothing in the world can get to me but thats because my problems are my problems and I'm not gonna put them onto others. But that doesn't mean people can do what they want and it doesn't affect me or I dont notice. I can take it either way but don't keep throwing me a bone then backing off.

Perhaps you should say this.

torquewench · 14/02/2023 18:34

Youre a shit mother. Just parent your daughter properly. She's 16 but clearly too young to be living with her horrible controlling boyfriend and his alcoholic mother because your ex husband cant be arsed parenting her properly either. Stop dithering constantly about whether you should dump your horrible lazy twat of a boyfriend and concentrate on her. She needs you. And for gods sort out her contraception or I guarantee you'll be a grandma this time next year otherwise. Oh, and knock your drinking on the head too. The state you get yourself in is embarrassing. I noticed your hands shaking the other morning. You've got a problem.

GettingStuffed · 14/02/2023 18:49

I know your mother has recently died, I miss her too, but could you please stop taking it out on us.

notthisagainn · 14/02/2023 18:58

I can't help you. Everything you've done has been your decision and affected me to,the point I had a breakdown. Just because you are related to me it doesn't mean I have to go through this again. All those times you were told what would happen but were arrogant Enough ti think rules don't apply to do. I dread every time the door bell rings in case it's you. And stop fucking breeding!!!

ThisIsntDanicaBritannica · 14/02/2023 19:57

I know what you and your vile nasty family have done. I'm biding my time, when I've got us safely away I am going to deal with you. You're the absolute scum of the earth and if dealing with you legally gets me nowhere, I'll find a less legal method. Bastards.

PoseyFlump · 14/02/2023 20:35

Probably best you didn't say that out loud @ThisIsntDanicaBritannica just in case you need plan B! Flowers

TedTookVows · 14/02/2023 23:36
  1. Why do you find the need to immediately look for the negative and indulge in speculative what if complaints about scenarios that haven't even happened?
My God it must be exhausting being you. It's so joyless.
  1. There was a time that the baby news would have devastated me, but it was pure relief as it turns out I won anyway because you proved beyond a shadow of a doubt what a nasty shameful fuck you actually are. I do hope I get to say my piece one day though.
ThisIsntDanicaBritannica · 15/02/2023 09:18

puts on balaclava

TheFretfulPorpentine · 15/02/2023 14:31

I realise your disability is a heavy cross to bear and is not at all your fault, but you are unreasonable to be thinking about having a child when you have absolutely no prospect of being practically or financially able to look after it.

lordloveadog · 15/02/2023 16:07

FGS give that child some screen time limits and take her out for some exercise.

bunnibee · 15/02/2023 16:59

I wish I had the knowledge on how to report you to the DWP.

I know for a fact that you have had 1000's of pounds from them fraudulently. You've been doing it for 10 years. Nothing would give me the greatest pleasure to see you get nicked and punished.

It honestly pisses me right off.

(readers, I only know her name, which is why I can't report her)

MrsHamlet · 15/02/2023 19:04

Stop whining about being busy. We're all busy. You'd have less work piling up if you shut the fuck up and got on with it.

XenoBitch · 15/02/2023 19:23

I am glad you are facing a diagnosis of Type 2 diabetes. We have been saying for years that you need to sort your lifestyle out, and now you can no longer get away with it.
We all hope it is the kick up the ass you need.

IrishJP · 15/02/2023 19:48

Yes
i do realise how difficult this situation is for our mother and that she wishes not to ne involved, but I stand by the comment. If that is the case then she should stop complaining when nobody involves her!

I appreciate that she is struggle with her health (although not so much so that it’s affecting her booking her third holiday of the year)
and I also understand that you are struggling with your mental heath

But do you know what? SO AM I
i’m sick of all the petty games you’re all playing so you can score points against each other
I’m sick of being stuck in the middle and pumped for information when it suits, and then dropped and blamed when things don’t go your way.

i’m tired of your bullshit
I’m tired of you telling me I should cut ties with everyone
You think I don’t know that you’ve been alienating my family against me for years?

YOU created this situation, YOU manipulated and abused an elderly woman and YOU have now cut off everyone and everything that made her life worth living

No I won’t cut all ties so you can tell her I don’t care to relieve your own conscience.
I will never forgive any of you
And I hope karma destroys you.

I actually did type it out, but I refrained from sending. I hoped posting here would relieve some of the pent up anger but so far it hasn’t budged