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Things I haven’t said out loud this week

686 replies

YorkieTheRabbit · 27/01/2023 18:21

1 - No, we haven’t asked you to come over for a meal in ages, no, I don’t care how many hints you drop, it’s falling on deaf ears.
I don’t expect you to help prepare or cook when you’re here BUT I do expect you to supervise your kids, not plonk down on the sofa and completely ignore them. Accidents may happen but if you actually looked after them instead of scrolling through your phones, we wouldn’t have had a house plant tipped over the carpet, used toilet roll and wee on the toilet floor, orange juice poured in the dogs bowl plus numerous others. Oh and by the way, we’ve never been invited over to your house in the eight years you’ve lived there!

2 - Im sorry your daughter would rather spend time with her gran but for god’s sake be honest, you spent the first ten years of her life bouncing from one disastrous relationship to another because you were desperate for a bloke. You put them in front of her needs. Her gran might not be perfect but at least she was there for her.

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MrsWidgerysLodger · 06/02/2023 07:28

I understand that having a friend with a long term chronic illness is the very opposite of fun, however dont lie to me. Telling me you're full of cold and not well enough to visit, while posting pictures of new tattoos and shopping hauls on Instagram is worse than not making promises at all. I'm already lost and lonely without being fucking lied to.

torquewench · 06/02/2023 07:41

Remember when you were going around telling everyone that I was violent? Well, now they all know that I slapped your face once only, and it was because you literally had me backed into a corner for the nth time and I was so scared. I wish I'd never got involved with you. After the way you acted towards your siblings after your mum died, I'd be surprised if they ever speak to you again. You deserve to die alone and unloved, nothings ever good enough for you but you have absolutely nothing of value to offer anyone.

And now, I simply don't care any more that you're probably drinking your way into an early grave. Do us all and yourself a favour and hurry up.

Oh, and filtering your photos doesn't make your growing bald patch any less noticeable. Such a shame, because you think your long hair makes you more attractive to the opposite sex. It actually makes you look like a seventies throwback.

Yutes · 06/02/2023 07:49

thanks for asking how I am, but we are not friends. So don’t pretend we are.

I don’t care about your childbirth analogies. You are talking to the wrong person about that.

thanks for sharing your experiences. But they are yours. Don’t tell me to get through mine the same way you have, because our experiences are totally different. I have experienced two miscarriages through the covid pandemic, I didn’t even know if my partner could come in with me! And I almost died when I suffered my ectopic pregnancy, so don’t tell me to be fucking optimistic. Not that anyone from work asked after me or sent me flowers at all.

Toooldtoworry · 06/02/2023 18:04

DH has been paid half what he should have from his boss on pay day whilst being promised that he will get the rest by Friday. We have savings and can cope.

You have now panicked him into looking for immediate work.

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YorkieTheRabbit · 06/02/2023 18:19

Another to add to my list
You didn’t know what you were doing, you caused the problem.
You then made the situation worse because of your penny pinching ways. It’s your bloody fault that you’ve now had to spend £££ on having it sorted professionally.
Stop whining about how much you’ve been charged, they aren’t ripping you off they have had to undo the mess created by your actions.

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crackofdoom · 06/02/2023 18:23

No DS1, your brother wasn't an "accident", stop being mean to him you little git.

You, however, were 😆

Greentree1 · 06/02/2023 18:27

I did hear what you said, you didn't listen to me, this was not my fault, and probably more. Scream!

GoodnightJude1 · 06/02/2023 19:02

You’re an ungrateful, lazy little shit who whines and moans about everything but will never realise that YOU are the problem.

Oh and your new shoes are fucking awful.

PoseyFlump · 07/02/2023 07:36

GoodnightJude1 · 06/02/2023 19:02

You’re an ungrateful, lazy little shit who whines and moans about everything but will never realise that YOU are the problem.

Oh and your new shoes are fucking awful.

Do I know you? 😂 (only joking)

BearKey · 07/02/2023 23:28

Sometimes being so strong is too much. When is enough enough? Sometimes I need help.

HerRoyalNotness · 07/02/2023 23:33

Put your bloody ego aside and think of your kids and while you’re at it, teach them not to be so entitled and teach them that there is no ‘I’ in team and the coach puts you where the team needs you!

HerRoyalNotness · 07/02/2023 23:33

crackofdoom · 06/02/2023 18:23

No DS1, your brother wasn't an "accident", stop being mean to him you little git.

You, however, were 😆

MIL? Is that you?

Aussette · 07/02/2023 23:36

im meeting your husband tomorrow for a drink, I feel bad as you have no idea the nature of our relationship. Infact, when we met at my work I was so excited to meet you (before we started the affair) because he was so lovely warm and engaging.
your attitude towards someone (me) who you deemed beneath you ‘just a receptionist’ shocked me. My colleagues said you were rude to them too…

i want to feel sorry for you, but I just don’t..

ps… the Chinese you ordered on Friday was suggested by me…

Houselamp · 07/02/2023 23:50

Your new bongos are not quirky or cool. Nobody is listening to you puhtunkatunk away at them and thinking Wow! what an enlightened free spirit.
You can't even play them.
Nobody is impressed
Put them away and stop acting like a 20 something in a shitty rom com.
Its not even annoying enough to be an interesting talking point- its just weird and a bit sad.

Zephirine · 08/02/2023 00:07

Why do you have to put a dampener on every suggestion? I know you suffer with anxiety but anyone would think you are the only person in the world who has. I have too but I got myself some bloody treatment and put a lot of effort into getting well. I don’t have any sympathy for you because you don’t make any effort at all to change things and you expect everyone to walk on eggshells around you. I’m sick of it.

By the way, your skin cancer risk hasn’t gone down, as you think, because you’ve had it treated and it was years ago. So don’t expect any pity when it comes back because you won’t wear sunscreen any longer.

IrishJP · 08/02/2023 00:15

I told you so.
i fucking told you. I told everyone who would listen but you all ignored me and did nothing.
i will never forgive any of you for what you have done and what you have allowed others to do you are all culpable and I hope you all rot in hell you money grabbing selfish evil cunts.

IWishICouldDisappear · 08/02/2023 00:44

No.

There's no point saying it out loud so I don't even bother anymore.

HereComeTheICKS · 08/02/2023 07:07

To DP:

I’m massively struggling to stay afloat financially and you earn 4 times what I do. If it were the other way around I’d be offering to pay fully or be bringing food when I come round several times a week to eat. You being so tight towards me is making me rethink the whole plan to live together soon.

No, I don’t want to hear about how you’ve been naughty and brought yourself a £4k toy when you know my situation. I am happy you’re paid well but please have some sensitivity.

yes, I know touch is your love language but that doesn’t mean I am obligated to hug you whenever you demand it. When you sit at the end of the bed or on the arm of the chair with your arms up demanding I stop what I’m doing to come hug you (so you are the right height to put you head on my boobs) it makes me feel like you’re a chubby little toddler and it’s killing my attraction to you.

”you’re cute” 50 times a day is not you being loving. It’s demeaning. I’m a grown woman and I need to hear you love me for actual reasons occasionally.

When you said that you never tell me I looked nice when I’ve made an effort for going out because you didn’t want to do it when it’s expected it was like a light bulb for me. You will never put my feeling nice above your ‘principal of the matter’ attitude.

When you said you don’t understand why you’re hearing so much about woman’s rights recently when it doesn’t effect you I know you were hinting at me to stop talking to you about this sort of thing. You aren’t clever or subtle.

I’m done. The ICK is setting in now.

oh dear. I think I need my own thread. This has been cathartic though thanks!

Florissant · 08/02/2023 07:35

Stop whining and blaming other people. Take some responsibility for your actions or shut up.

Toooldtoworry · 08/02/2023 08:25

Just fucking LISTEN!!!!!!

LadyGardenersQuestionTime · 08/02/2023 08:50

If you want people to respect you as a team leader then you need to do some actual team leading. You know, communicate what needs to be done efficiently and quickly, guide and help people, be available sometimes, set a good example.

The way you are right now anyone would think your self esteem rests on a self-appointed lowest-level volunteer job title. Just piss or get off the pot.

VintageThoughts · 08/02/2023 09:04

We're not together anymore. You fucked it up.

And now you've got no one. Stop ringing and messaging me. I don't care that you're struggling. It's all on you.

I'm having the time of my life and I wish I'd kicked you out years ago.

Yutes · 08/02/2023 11:34

I never comment when you bring food that is absolutely honking. I very rarely say very much. I am invisible in my own life

Yutes · 09/02/2023 09:59

Stop talking

LongtimeLoitering · 09/02/2023 10:09

You're an adult, if you don't like me "nagging" you, do your f**king job when asked and then I won't have to. And it is YOUR job so just do it.