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Things I haven’t said out loud this week

686 replies

YorkieTheRabbit · 27/01/2023 18:21

1 - No, we haven’t asked you to come over for a meal in ages, no, I don’t care how many hints you drop, it’s falling on deaf ears.
I don’t expect you to help prepare or cook when you’re here BUT I do expect you to supervise your kids, not plonk down on the sofa and completely ignore them. Accidents may happen but if you actually looked after them instead of scrolling through your phones, we wouldn’t have had a house plant tipped over the carpet, used toilet roll and wee on the toilet floor, orange juice poured in the dogs bowl plus numerous others. Oh and by the way, we’ve never been invited over to your house in the eight years you’ve lived there!

2 - Im sorry your daughter would rather spend time with her gran but for god’s sake be honest, you spent the first ten years of her life bouncing from one disastrous relationship to another because you were desperate for a bloke. You put them in front of her needs. Her gran might not be perfect but at least she was there for her.

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Tidsleytiddy · 29/01/2023 18:30

creamwitheverything · 29/01/2023 18:16

You are a liar...I know it and you know it and more to the point you know I know it, I think whats worse is the fact that you think I am that stupid to believe you. You are a right piece of work,

^ This!

Shutupyoutart · 29/01/2023 18:57

1:just separate for God sake! You are making each other utterly miserable and everyone around ye, sometimes you have to just walk away. 2: yes he does have autism, he was assessed by a developmental psychologist who determined that he is, are you qualified to say any different? No! don't tell me he isnt inflexible when the day before he had a meltdown because was offered the wrong flavour crisps! You don't live my life and have no idea how much I'm struggling. 3: taking care of your own child is not baby sitting!

SilverGlitterBaubles · 29/01/2023 20:04

Instead of blaming your parents, your family, your coworkers and everyone else for everything wrong in your life- how about taking responsibility for yourself and your decisions? It can't be someone else's fault ALL the time.

PrincessHoneysuckle · 29/01/2023 20:28

I'm so glad he's seen you for the sneaky narcissistic mother that you are and your eldest daughter is a greedy cunt just like you.

Outonmyearforgood · 29/01/2023 21:33

So you fired me on the advice of colleague X, but you don't realise how lazy and thick he is because I have spent a year covering for him (more fool me).
You have given half my job to colleague Y - she is lovely, but her skill set is totally different to mine and she will struggle to do a tiny fraction of the work I have been doing.
You're gonna miss me when I'm gone.

17CherryTreeLane · 29/01/2023 21:42

When I explain the work situation to you, do not then repeat the very thing I've just told you, back to me as though you are helping.

It drives me fucking insane.

Hypofeticalyspeekin · 29/01/2023 22:01

The light in my world is going, going fast. I'm trying to cling onto it but it's slipping through my fingers like water

lollipoprainbow · 30/01/2023 08:21

Why do you have a conversation with your mum over Facebook about your daughter don't you see each other in real life, speak on the phone??

Ledkr · 30/01/2023 08:35

It was lovely to see you pil for the weekend but can you please go.now? It's 8 pm on Sunday night and we would like to relax a bit before work and school tomorrow.

Deathraystare · 30/01/2023 09:10

Well I would be lying if I said I hadn't said F Off to a number of people! (That kind of a week!) I have said it mainly in my head but also out loud (cannot help myself!).

I was on a busy bus and at one stop was making my way to an empty seat . Hurrah. One whiny woman behind me said can you move down, people want to get off. Why would I move further on than the seat so I could sit down? The problem is the bus driver doesn't give anyone a chance to get off before he lets others board. So I told her what for.

petalblossom · 30/01/2023 09:50

You're right, we haven't seen much of each other lately. Maybe because I know as soon as I make contact you will invite yourself round mine for a coffee and a catch up which would be absolutely fine if I ever got invited round yours. Over the years your children have trashed my home and eaten my food while you offloaded your issues, but the one time I've been round your house you awkwardly shooed me out after 20 minutes. If I suggest coming round yours because DH is WFH you ignore me, or say you are just on the way back from somewhere so you may as well just pop round mine. Congratulations on your 'boundaries', but I've found my own now, too.

ThatsSubOptimal · 30/01/2023 11:35

If you say it, I'll say it back.

EineReiseDurchDieZeit · 31/01/2023 23:24

I wonder if your family realise what a highly manipulative liar you actually are

Ivalueloyaltyaboveallelse · 01/02/2023 00:13

I fucking hate you. You will never be apart of our family. You’re a horrible nasty greedy psycho. I hope you leave very very soon because life was so much better for all before you came into it. Most people in our family hate you and hope you leave soon too. So piss off!

You really pissed me off tonight and I’m fuming so can’t sleep, thanks a lot.

Toooldtoworry · 01/02/2023 20:20

I am sad to see you go but fucked off with picking up your work because you were so disorganised and had such a cluttered mind you've left me with a clusterfuck.

MrsAmaretto · 01/02/2023 21:45

Start parenting your 12 year old, put in some boundaries and follow up with punishments. Your shitty parenting is the problem, not her. 12 year old girls should not be allowed to wander about the town from 10am-10pm, you are risking her safety.

Anon987654321098 · 05/02/2023 20:25

I'm not sorry. I meant every word and more...plus it all comes down to parenting and yes that is my professional opinion.

Lurche · 05/02/2023 22:04

You are an arrogant, cunning, manipulative ratbag. You ignored me and now you suddenly are smiling and trying to make feeble conversation. Sneering, bragging cunt.

BrewandBiscuit · 05/02/2023 22:12

I love you

pristinesurfacesGBTD · 05/02/2023 22:22

NeverDropYourMooncup · 27/01/2023 22:24

This training course is out of date, uses an abysmal online learning environment that is less navigable than fucking Moodle circa 2002, it is not necessary to have to sit through the slides being read out by a computer generated voice when you haven't selected the 'read the fucking slides out in a slow monotone' option, WHY have you put the course reference materials (which read like a fucking Victorian novel in terms of verbosity, trailing off, leaping to totally unconnected items and the shitty unreadable font on screen) in a completely different part of the VLE that means you have to log out and log back in?

And NOW you announce (because the details were hidden in the VLE equivalent of a filing cabinet in the toilet of the basement of the planning office behind three boxes of Covid tests and a sign on the door saying 'Beware of the Leopard) that oh, by the way, you need to make friends with the other unfortunate bastards on this course and then pick one to work with on a project - oh, no, now you need four others and swap your most recent confidential work from your employment with them for analysis, oh, and there's another five you need to connect with to talk about your opinions of the other four's confidential work and you need to get about 10 people who work as volunteers and can barely manage their emails to register for an online appraisal system where they get to rate your performance when they haven't a scooby as long as you make sure they have tea and biscuits when they meet.

And then there's the 121 session which is dependent upon those people doing what you didn't even know they had to do in advance or you'd have never started this because they won't fucking do it and then analysing their criticisms of you and then planning a research project that addresses 10 of those criticisms without repetition hesitation or deviationand then get it approved or have to completely rewrite it and find another person in the cohort who wants to do exactly the same thing and THEN you have your work sent to a panel who have already stated that people like you in your situation should not be doing the job AND at the same time, you have to do your own fucking job(s). AND being told that sexism cannot possibly be a thing around the problems that the women on the course have described really, really grates on me right now.

And I'm only here because there's a sneaky clause in the new agreement that demands I have this fucking qualification when with all the qualifications I have, I really don't need the equivalent of an 11th fucking A Level.

Oh, and my sister's just died of a condition I've got similar symptoms of and am now on a two week wonder referral for, but all I got was an email saying if I wanted I could withdraw from the course and start again whilst simultaneously costing my employer two lots of fees AND losing my job due to the new requirement to qualify because it's absolutely impossible to pass the course if I didn't attend this bloody Zoom training this morning because it's impossible to pass without being forced into breakout rooms to discuss why somebody might not want to break the law at work when it's absolutely fucking obvious that breaking the law at work is a really, really bad fucking idea?

What I actually said was 'OK. Can I book the 121 for the last date on the list, please?'. Because if I don't complete the qualification, that part of my contract, which accounts for a significant proportion of my salary, would cease.

You work in public sector.... NHS?

FlippyFloppyShoe · 05/02/2023 22:32

I'm jealous that your DC seem to find schoolwork so easy and remember what they are taught and mine either don't care enough to remember or can't remember even the basics and I have spent so many years trying to help them and got them other help and they still seem to remember very little.

FlippyFloppyShoe · 05/02/2023 22:36

I hate you, because of you our DC do not have the life they deserve.

BearKey · 05/02/2023 22:48

I really wish my son wasn't autistic. I love him with all my heart and will do anything I can to make life easier for him, but I just so wish is wasn't true.

brillianthopefulness · 05/02/2023 22:59

Stop saying you're going to do something and then not doing it! I offered to do it several times and you say you'll do it but it's still not done.

That was my suggestion, why tell all the staff you came up with the idea?

For goodness sake, stop going away for the night and spending all your money when you're on a DMP and can't even afford to pay your direct debits.

FirstTimeMum072022 · 06/02/2023 07:10

I love you with every fiber of my being -- but my god it's difficult to be a Mum.

To DH I'm not sure how I feel about us anymore I'm hoping going back to work will save us as everything won't be on me anymore.