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Things I haven’t said out loud this week

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YorkieTheRabbit · 27/01/2023 18:21

1 - No, we haven’t asked you to come over for a meal in ages, no, I don’t care how many hints you drop, it’s falling on deaf ears.
I don’t expect you to help prepare or cook when you’re here BUT I do expect you to supervise your kids, not plonk down on the sofa and completely ignore them. Accidents may happen but if you actually looked after them instead of scrolling through your phones, we wouldn’t have had a house plant tipped over the carpet, used toilet roll and wee on the toilet floor, orange juice poured in the dogs bowl plus numerous others. Oh and by the way, we’ve never been invited over to your house in the eight years you’ve lived there!

2 - Im sorry your daughter would rather spend time with her gran but for god’s sake be honest, you spent the first ten years of her life bouncing from one disastrous relationship to another because you were desperate for a bloke. You put them in front of her needs. Her gran might not be perfect but at least she was there for her.

OP posts:
allaloneandlost · 26/02/2024 21:51

@JamSandle

@Raspberrymoon49

Hope you're both feeling better today and please feel free to vent here if needed. Somebody will always listen.

Lentilweaver · 27/02/2024 08:43

I am sorry your life hasn't worked out the way you hoped. But that is not my fault. That's a you problem.

DoYouWantToStartACultWithMe · 27/02/2024 08:51

You know what, I fucking love you being in my life. It just...makes everything better.

I'm scared about what that means, whether you stay or go. Either way is pretty scary.

But stay, please.

Tidsleytiddy · 27/02/2024 08:57

@EchoChamber Public sector?

EchoChamber · 27/02/2024 09:08

Tidsleytiddy · 27/02/2024 08:57

@EchoChamber Public sector?

It’s a relative actually!! 😁

Tidsleytiddy · 27/02/2024 09:22

Ooops sorry @EchoChamber I should have posted that for @Alltheyearround x

Alltheyearround · 27/02/2024 19:13

Tidsleytiddy · 27/02/2024 08:57

@EchoChamber Public sector?

Education

Tidsleytiddy · 28/02/2024 09:34

@Alltheyearround Aah. Mmm. Thought as much. I was in the public sector and bad behaviour being laughed off by management is rife x

Alltheyearround · 28/02/2024 10:00

@Tidsleytiddy I think they think its too much hassle to try to cure it by proper disciplinary (it's her personality though - unlikely she will change at 50+ but not impossible - she'd have to want to change though and no sign of that).

Or they are afraid to tackle it in case she brings some sort of unfair dismissal claim due to 'mental health'. Manager has actually said this to me in private.

I know narcissism gets bandied about as a term these days but I have studied her behaviour over many years and I would say its exactly that. Sad back story in her life. Doesn't excuse very poor behaviour.

Alltheyearround · 28/02/2024 10:29

Things not said aloud this week:

I know you're recovering from a nasty bug that's had you in bed a week, but I don't want to sit next to you at work while you're still hacking away with a cough!

Toooldtoworry · 28/02/2024 10:56

Fucking hell, this is a shit show. I know you're being taken over but fml no need to kill us with your process/staffing levels.

howdyho · 28/02/2024 11:09

Sleeping on the sofa every night instead of in your lovely big bedroom does mean you have to put up with my chatting and being busy around you because it's a small open plan living room/kitchen and it's past 11am and please don't moan again about how you meant to get up!
Thank you thread😄

Tidsleytiddy · 28/02/2024 12:00

Alltheyearround · 28/02/2024 10:00

@Tidsleytiddy I think they think its too much hassle to try to cure it by proper disciplinary (it's her personality though - unlikely she will change at 50+ but not impossible - she'd have to want to change though and no sign of that).

Or they are afraid to tackle it in case she brings some sort of unfair dismissal claim due to 'mental health'. Manager has actually said this to me in private.

I know narcissism gets bandied about as a term these days but I have studied her behaviour over many years and I would say its exactly that. Sad back story in her life. Doesn't excuse very poor behaviour.

Yes I’ve had the misfortune of working with at least two. Very much left to continue with outrageous behaviour that affects the office dynamic very badly. Never challenged. I think the worse they are the more management fear them and the rest of the staff are left to suffer x

crockofshite · 28/02/2024 13:47

Tidsleytiddy · 28/02/2024 12:00

Yes I’ve had the misfortune of working with at least two. Very much left to continue with outrageous behaviour that affects the office dynamic very badly. Never challenged. I think the worse they are the more management fear them and the rest of the staff are left to suffer x

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Can they encourage the person to work from home? Resulting in reduced contact with other staff trying to get along and get on with their work.Lots of people would kill for the opportunity.

Yutes · 28/02/2024 14:31

Fuck you fucking moaning about your negative pregnancy tests on your journey to have your third (healthy and alive) baby.
two negative pregnancy tests is fucking nothing. And it was fucking 3
and a half years ago!

Tidsleytiddy · 28/02/2024 16:41

crockofshite · 28/02/2024 13:47

Can they encourage the person to work from home? Resulting in reduced contact with other staff trying to get along and get on with their work.Lots of people would kill for the opportunity.

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Fortunately I’m talking retrospectively (I’m now retired) but I hear one of the pests does pretty much work from home now. Nice peace and quiet for the other staff

Toooldtoworry · 28/02/2024 19:26

3.5k on your fucking car!!!! Literally the last of my savings right now. Going to have to bang money back into savings the next 3 months.

FerreroFan · 29/02/2024 04:05

Every day I realise we have less and less in common. Our values don't align at all. You are overly fearful, jealous and irritable. I remember being happier before I met you and the thought of being without you is appealing. It might be time to call it a day.

MissingMoominMamma · 29/02/2024 05:41

Please don’t take the piss. I enjoy this job immensely, but there’s a limit.

SomePeopleAreJustBloodyStupid · 05/03/2024 18:55

You say you can't manage, financially, but you keep spending SO MUCH money all the time, on crap you really don't need. Try living on this meagre amount like I have to.

Toooldtoworry · 05/03/2024 21:13

You are a cunt

JamSandle · 06/03/2024 09:31

I dont have a great deal of respect for how you've chosen to live your life.

Giggorata · 06/03/2024 09:59

If I ever come back down, I will dance on your grave.

Soonenough · 06/03/2024 10:03

He is going to die. I wish it was you instead.

crackofdoom · 06/03/2024 11:09

God I am relieved that you've messaged me to say you can't make my birthday in the pub because last time we were there you felt they frowned on your toddler running around "and she goes everywhere with you". Yes love, it's a pub. Newsflash: nobody likes toddlers in a pub. Personally, I didn't mind the running around last time so much as the constant high pitched squealing.

Also, stop planning to take her to that really crowded dance night. It's not suitable for her, she risks getting squashed. I have tried to tell you, but you don't want to listen. I know you're a single mum, but so am I. Just get a fucking babysitter for FUCKS SAKE!!