Things I haven’t said out loud this week

[YorkieTheRabbit]

1 - No, we haven’t asked you to come over for a meal in ages, no, I don’t care how many hints you drop, it’s falling on deaf ears.
I don’t expect you to help prepare or cook when you’re here BUT I do expect you to supervise your kids, not plonk down on the sofa and completely ignore them. Accidents may happen but if you actually looked after them instead of scrolling through your phones, we wouldn’t have had a house plant tipped over the carpet, used toilet roll and wee on the toilet floor, orange juice poured in the dogs bowl plus numerous others. Oh and by the way, we’ve never been invited over to your house in the eight years you’ve lived there!

2 - Im sorry your daughter would rather spend time with her gran but for god’s sake be honest, you spent the first ten years of her life bouncing from one disastrous relationship to another because you were desperate for a bloke. You put them in front of her needs. Her gran might not be perfect but at least she was there for her.

I think my back surgery and 3 night stay in hospital last week tops your cold but hey, let's all message our family WhatsApp group about you. Let's all reply when you describe yourself as weak as a kitten, coughing all night and have to visit the doctor.
Let's just skip over my lying flat on my back for the next 2 weeks, no lifting or bending or driving for 6 weeks.

Stop touching me

I know it's not your fault I'm the main earner, but I wish you'd stop finding ways of spending the savings I'd built up to pay off our loan before we remortgage. At this rate our mouldy leaking conservatory won't be able to be replaced by an extension next year.

Also Mum, thanks for your usual support in telling me you're not interested in our extension. I don't want solutions, I just want to talk through options for choosing a builder - something I've never had to do before.

It's not my job to make you happy. You are an adult. Devise your own happiness plan, FFS!

I'm in so much pain and I don't think it will ever go away. It's been two years and my soul is in tatters.

You're cruel, you've left me to rot. I was desperate and had nowhere to turn. I came to you and pleaded for help. You turned me away and used door cam footage of me mid panic attack to humiliate me. I've let you use me so I can feel half an hour of the life I had and you've watched me in so much pain yet still turned your back on me.

Then I heard you were having a hard time and because I'm an idiot I worried and offered help. I was called so many horrible names. Why?

How can you watch me become so ill that I can't eat? That I hadn't even noticed how much weight I lost until our son gasped in fright when he saw my ribs and spine jutting out?

I only asked for help. The help you promised you'd always give if I needed it.

When it came down to it, you didn't care. Not only that, you made it worse. I've truly believed for years that I was shit at everything and was nothing without you.

I'm slowly realising that isn't true but I'll probably never really believe it because it is too ingrained now.

But I'm not the awful person you tell me I am. I was in such a bad place I didn't want to be here. You didn't care one little bit. I was made aware you were feeling low and worried. Genuinely worried and asked what I could do. I got war and peace in an email telling me how pathetic I am in response.

I'm not the bad one really, am I?

@bottleofbeer No, you really aren't the bad one. You are a good one and you will continue to be one of the good ones in this world. Our world is the better for having you in it.

Turn away from him, walk away and shake the dust from your shoes. Every day without him will be better than any day with him.

You need to take a week off work because you're stressed about arranging an extension, mortgage application and getting the car fixed when I'm the fucker that's been doing it even though I work double the hours you do, have to work harder to pay for it, and negotiate with builders, gardeners, lenders, etc. You were the one that brought the extension build forward too.

You’re so full of jealousy and bile you couldn’t even ask if we had a nice night out.

Your husband is a vile person and I don't understand why you ever got into a relationship, let alone marriage, with him. You are lovely. No one really likes him. We have to pretend to for your sake. He's awful. Please kick him out.

You have no perseverance.

Some people are fucking deluded and entitled.

Do you fucking job.

I want you to be in my life, always.

I don't care if this place is 'up and coming' according to the national press. It is full of small-minded, insecure people.

Excited, nervous and overwhelmed! Cannot wait to see the extension when it's built even if it might be September.

I quite frankly detest you, your opinions everything about you.

Please let me move to my new job!!

Please shut up with your opinions on how 10,000 Palestinian children being massacred is fake news.

Why is it ok to wish for a ceasefire in Ukraine but not in Gaza?

You have ruined any chance of a reconciliation. Your actions show that you are only interested in what I can do for you and the money you think I have to share. You have never supported in any way , not emotionally and never gave me anything financial. When I had it I shared it. You are a grown woman nobody has to bail you out. Your choice to live beyond your means and hope some thing or some one will solve it. Wanted my life but not my responsibilities.

This week I haven't said out loud "you selfish cow, how would you like it if your daughter treated you like you're treating your mum?"

I'm done.

Stop ringing up to say you want to see your daughter - you know the one you haven't bothered to see since March 2020 - and then letting her down. She is 17 now, we've been raising her for the last 13 years and dealing with the effects from the abuse and neglect she sufffered from you and her father but she desperately wants to have contact with you and your treatment of her is killing me. We had to let her know you'd rung in case she didnt want to see you but now she is so excited and you are ignoring us. I never say this but you are a cunt.