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Things I haven’t said out loud this week

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YorkieTheRabbit · 27/01/2023 18:21

1 - No, we haven’t asked you to come over for a meal in ages, no, I don’t care how many hints you drop, it’s falling on deaf ears.
I don’t expect you to help prepare or cook when you’re here BUT I do expect you to supervise your kids, not plonk down on the sofa and completely ignore them. Accidents may happen but if you actually looked after them instead of scrolling through your phones, we wouldn’t have had a house plant tipped over the carpet, used toilet roll and wee on the toilet floor, orange juice poured in the dogs bowl plus numerous others. Oh and by the way, we’ve never been invited over to your house in the eight years you’ve lived there!

2 - Im sorry your daughter would rather spend time with her gran but for god’s sake be honest, you spent the first ten years of her life bouncing from one disastrous relationship to another because you were desperate for a bloke. You put them in front of her needs. Her gran might not be perfect but at least she was there for her.

OP posts:
Whowhatwherewhenwhynow · 27/01/2023 19:18

No I’m not caring for her. I’m not going to let you slyly try to manipulate me into doing so by asking me to call her at a certain time to check she’s ok, or by hinting about me caring for her.

I have made this clear before yet again and again you come back to the same hints. IT WONT HAPPEN! Sort out proper care, sort out your own house and stop expecting me to fulfill all your emotional needs!!!!

ooo that was cathartic

MrsHamlet · 27/01/2023 19:19

Stop whining about how busy and stressed you are and do some fucking work.

YorkieTheRabbit · 27/01/2023 21:53

Glad it’s not just me 😞

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Laiste · 27/01/2023 22:00

Thank fuck i'm getting out of here! It was a bloody nightmare - every minute felt like an hour. You knew it was probably going to be like that and didn't tell me the whole truth. The tears were of relief not guilt!

AnchovyInCowlNeck · 27/01/2023 22:23

What I didn't say out loud was so uncharitable that it can't even be repeated here. Suffice to say it was dark thoughts about the neighbour's son, who was "testing his sound equipment" at a building-vibrating volume

NeverDropYourMooncup · 27/01/2023 22:24

This training course is out of date, uses an abysmal online learning environment that is less navigable than fucking Moodle circa 2002, it is not necessary to have to sit through the slides being read out by a computer generated voice when you haven't selected the 'read the fucking slides out in a slow monotone' option, WHY have you put the course reference materials (which read like a fucking Victorian novel in terms of verbosity, trailing off, leaping to totally unconnected items and the shitty unreadable font on screen) in a completely different part of the VLE that means you have to log out and log back in?

And NOW you announce (because the details were hidden in the VLE equivalent of a filing cabinet in the toilet of the basement of the planning office behind three boxes of Covid tests and a sign on the door saying 'Beware of the Leopard) that oh, by the way, you need to make friends with the other unfortunate bastards on this course and then pick one to work with on a project - oh, no, now you need four others and swap your most recent confidential work from your employment with them for analysis, oh, and there's another five you need to connect with to talk about your opinions of the other four's confidential work and you need to get about 10 people who work as volunteers and can barely manage their emails to register for an online appraisal system where they get to rate your performance when they haven't a scooby as long as you make sure they have tea and biscuits when they meet.

And then there's the 121 session which is dependent upon those people doing what you didn't even know they had to do in advance or you'd have never started this because they won't fucking do it and then analysing their criticisms of you and then planning a research project that addresses 10 of those criticisms without repetition hesitation or deviationand then get it approved or have to completely rewrite it and find another person in the cohort who wants to do exactly the same thing and THEN you have your work sent to a panel who have already stated that people like you in your situation should not be doing the job AND at the same time, you have to do your own fucking job(s). AND being told that sexism cannot possibly be a thing around the problems that the women on the course have described really, really grates on me right now.

And I'm only here because there's a sneaky clause in the new agreement that demands I have this fucking qualification when with all the qualifications I have, I really don't need the equivalent of an 11th fucking A Level.

Oh, and my sister's just died of a condition I've got similar symptoms of and am now on a two week wonder referral for, but all I got was an email saying if I wanted I could withdraw from the course and start again whilst simultaneously costing my employer two lots of fees AND losing my job due to the new requirement to qualify because it's absolutely impossible to pass the course if I didn't attend this bloody Zoom training this morning because it's impossible to pass without being forced into breakout rooms to discuss why somebody might not want to break the law at work when it's absolutely fucking obvious that breaking the law at work is a really, really bad fucking idea?

What I actually said was 'OK. Can I book the 121 for the last date on the list, please?'. Because if I don't complete the qualification, that part of my contract, which accounts for a significant proportion of my salary, would cease.

Laiste · 27/01/2023 22:30

Hands Brew to @NeverDropYourMooncup Smile

or Wine ?

NeverDropYourMooncup · 27/01/2023 22:33

Laiste · 27/01/2023 22:30

Hands Brew to @NeverDropYourMooncup Smile

or Wine ?

Both, thank you.

It's been a shitty week and losing three hours of my life to the Zoom 'training' on top really didn't help my general mood.

MrsHamlet · 27/01/2023 22:36

@NeverDropYourMooncup sounds like a shitty week in shittown. All the wine there is heading your way

TheOpenRoad · 27/01/2023 22:39

Fuck off with your fucking 'high performance' training. Give me some budget and I'll hire a team and actually fo some work rather than spend days locked in a room with you telling us we have to cut costs and double performance. Apparently that is a 'stretch goal' and not total u realistic madness

thebear1 · 27/01/2023 22:40

You spend more time complaining how busy you are than actually doing the work that is apparently keeping you so busy. If you shut up you could maybe actually get the work done.

dudsville · 27/01/2023 22:43

Your too-long presentation was not helpful, i gleaned nothing new, your slides were too full, and too full of acronyms, you were an arse at the start which put me on edge, i was bored as hell, not only do i not admire you i don't even really think you're even just "ok" at your job, you seem to just go to meetings and blow smoke up peoples assess, and you're not the first person to utter any of those words and to try to tell me i can now think creatively about how the make the necessary changes work. I spent your whole presentation knowing you were just another one in a long like of overpaid idiots making your mark.

Also, why doesn't anyone else seem to notice how bad it smells in here??? Ffs.

MrsPatrickDempsey · 27/01/2023 22:46

Please stop picking your scalp and then eating it. It's very unpleasant to watch.

WhoNeedsSleepNotISaidMyBody · 27/01/2023 22:51

Laiste · 27/01/2023 22:00

Thank fuck i'm getting out of here! It was a bloody nightmare - every minute felt like an hour. You knew it was probably going to be like that and didn't tell me the whole truth. The tears were of relief not guilt!

@Laiste

Are you ok?

Are you safe?

FoxtrotOscarFoxtrotOscar · 27/01/2023 22:52

Why don't you projectile cough into a tissue or your elbow instead of all over the staff and people sitting close by at the bar area? And why didn't you accept a glass of water from the staff when your coughing was out of control? You could have had a few swigs of water in between necking expensive whisky before your flight. Why are you such a thoughtless revolting ignorant pig?

dudsville · 27/01/2023 22:55

WhoNeedsSleepNotISaidMyBody · 27/01/2023 22:51

@Laiste

Are you ok?

Are you safe?

I read this as a work situation!

WhoNeedsSleepNotISaidMyBody · 27/01/2023 22:59

dudsville · 27/01/2023 22:55

I read this as a work situation!

@dudsville that wasn't my take, not with the relief/guilt, but I hope Laiste is ok, whatever it is.

WhoNeedsSleepNotISaidMyBody · 27/01/2023 23:02

I can't even type mine. But I know I need to actually say it, out loud, to the person concerned & stop worrying about them at the cost of my health & sanity.

🙇🏻‍♀️🙇🏻‍♀️🙇🏻‍♀️🙇🏻‍♀️

Minimalme · 27/01/2023 23:24

I have blocked you both on my phone because you are manipulative wankers who want me to fall back into line. Well, it's never gonna happen but on the bright side, you can both cash in when the bitch dies.

I am sad you are so disabled. I love you with everything I've got but I wish you had been born ' normal'.

Daffodilsandtuplips · 27/01/2023 23:32

Stop butting in, interrupting, it’s rude and annoying.

BitOutOfPractice · 27/01/2023 23:36

No, you can’t put things in her hair as a PE stunt.

if you want me to lend you £250 just ask, stop hinting.

seeing you together made me very very happy indeed.

BitOutOfPractice · 27/01/2023 23:37

*PR stunt

blacksax · 27/01/2023 23:40

Don't patronise me, you bastard.

You may be our accountant, but I have been working in finance since you were in a pram, so don't tell me how to do my job.

lollipoprainbow · 27/01/2023 23:42

I can't accept my dd's autism.

WildUnknown · 27/01/2023 23:44

It's up to you. You act like it isn't but it is. The problem is now as much your unwillingness to act as it is anything.

It's been three fucking years, there has been no improvement. None of the vulnerable people she works with enjoy working with her and have all been quite upfront about that. You know and you haven't done anything.

I get that she is in an unhappy marriage. I get that she is overwhelmed with parenting three small children. I get that you feel sorry for her, I do too. But this is a work environment, it's not a drop in, yet she sprawls herself all over the furniture ordering takeout like being in work is her chill time, meeting all of her own needs for respite but not actually meeting any needs of the service users she is employed for, not if she can help it.

You claim you want this to stop but actually that's a lie, because you enable it.

You are to blame for this, but we both know I can't challenge your benign dictatorship without it ending badly for me.

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