DH cannot get DS out the house!

[Mylittlesandwich]

I am aware this is not my problem but it's really starting to annoy me more than it should.

The way we work childcare is that DH doesn't work Monday and Tuesday so he looks after DS while I work. I don't work 3 days while I look after DS and he goes to nursery 2 days a week while we both work.

DS has 2 wee clubs he goes to, one on one of my days and one on one of DHs days. This is now the 3rd week that DH has been unable to get out the door in time for this class to the point where I'm now going to cancel the class because it's just a waste of money and a space another child could use.

This class is in the afternoon and close to home, I have issues with timekeeping etc too but it's really bugging me that he can't do this one thing! DS enjoys the class but is a standard toddler and getting out the house isn't always easy.

As long as DH is doing other things with him then I would let him get on with it & sort themselves out. If on the other hand DH is one of those guys that sits watching tv all day or is on PlayStation with one eye on the toddler then kick up a fuss. Some men think they are “babysitting” their own children. You will be fully aware which camp your husband falls into - Good luck.

this has made me absolutely laugh my head off.Firstly because

it’s so true ,but mainly because my mum used to call my ExDH a useless bastard 😂

Yes obviously you wouldn't divorce for that...
but you've biased it the way you tell it. They both work 5 days actually and it's just that he has 2 of those on childcare and she has 3.
She said he probably does more around the house... BECAUSE he doesn't drive and so she is out doing the big shop (and indeed anything else that might be car dependant).
So he's NOT doing more than her overall and he just doesn't seem to be able to time manage to get the kid to the class they agreed on together he needed...

But yeah, some people projecting all their frustration about totally incompetent men onto this thread...
I think part of that frustration is that women are just expected to manage more and there is so much management and emotional labour they do that doesn't get counted that it's annoying when something that's set up and organized still doesn't get completed.

Seriously?!?! She's at work.
She shouldn't have to project manage this task 😩

I’d be pissed… dad obviously doesn’t enjoy that class!!
Ask him how he plans to get out the house in a few years when he starts school!!!

Silly non-equivalence. School is compulsory. A toddler class which the child's mum is keen on (clearly the dad is less so, or else he'd make sure he got there) isn't. He probably went along with signing the child up for this class because he hadn't really thought it through - then when it came to it, he realised that a group of cliquey mums wasn't really his idea of a fun excursion with a toddler.

Also, it's pissed off. Pissed is something else entirely.

They say pissed for pissed off in the US I believe, and maybe other areas. Unless you were trying to subtly neg the Americanism

"Pissed" is used in pretty much every case nowadays on MN when people mean "pissed off". I suspect that there are more ignorant people on MN than there are Americans.

What if he had to take her to a Drs appointment. Would he get there on time?

I’m aware of that 🙄 but as your comment suggests (and my point was)… this isn’t about Dad ‘can’t’ get his child ready, but rather that he ‘Won’t’!!
As with all those selfish dads out there, it’s got to be about what you enjoy rather than putting the child’s needs first!

WOW!
my comment certainly got you pissed didn’t it!!… or pissed off if you don’t like abbreviations… don’t bother responding dietCOCK….. go pick at something else rather than other peoples comments…

He just can't be bothered. What does he do with ds when they just stay home? Watch the television?

Some of the replies on this did have me thinking. On his days they don't do much. He hasn't taken my noticing of this particularly well but we'll see how it unfolds.