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Boys walking girls home

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listsandbudgets · 22/01/2023 11:19

DD (17) has quite a big group of friends and I've noticed that when they meet up one or two of the boys usually walk the girls home.

So last night a large group were here and every time one of the girls was going a couple of boys - not always the same ones - would walk her back and then come back here afterwards. It was freezing and they must have walked miles. (Before anyone asks I can't drive so dropping them was not an option and DP wasn't here). I know if DD had been elsewhere they'd have walked her home too because it's happened before.

I found it rather nice. Is this still usual or does DD just have an unusually chivalrous group of male friends?

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MrsSkylerWhite · 22/01/2023 11:21

Male friends would usually see our daughter home when she was a teenager, 10 or so years ago.
Not sure what the norm is now, though.

bookish83 · 22/01/2023 11:22

This was the norm when I was younger and at uni. So glad it still happens

ZeroFuchsGiven · 22/01/2023 11:24

Definitely normal in my Ds (17) friendship group.

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wickerhearth · 22/01/2023 11:25

That's lovely.

flowersinmyhair15 · 22/01/2023 11:26

How sweet😭🥹

MonkeyMindAllOverAround · 22/01/2023 11:27

My son and his friends do. They also wait for taxis to arrive not to leave them alone after going out. Have done since they were allowed out late.

VyeBrator · 22/01/2023 11:27

It's certainly the norm in my DC's friendship groups.

No doubt someone will be along in a minute to talk about toxic masculinity or something.

ithoughtisawapuddycat · 22/01/2023 11:28

Lovely to hear about boys who are brought up well and have such respect and care for their female friends

Sasha07 · 22/01/2023 11:31

My 13yo son does. He even walks his male friends half way back home too even though it's the opposite direction. I think it's lovely and it's so nice to hear it's quite common!

titchy · 22/01/2023 11:33

Mine all used Ubers (or parents) at gatherings, but at clubs the boys always form a protective circle round the girls to stop them being groped. And when one of the girls was being a bit dramatic and flounced off in town ds went with her to make sure she was safe (though at 5'6 I'm not sure he'd have been much use... but the thought was there!) So yes they do seem quite protective.

AnotherCountryMummy · 22/01/2023 11:34

This is so lovely and reminded me of a male friend who used to walk me home in my teen days. I've just made a mental note to teach my son to do the same when he's older.

MonkeyMindAllOverAround · 22/01/2023 11:38

AnotherCountryMummy · 22/01/2023 11:34

This is so lovely and reminded me of a male friend who used to walk me home in my teen days. I've just made a mental note to teach my son to do the same when he's older.

You won’t need to teach him, one day you will just get a call from him saying he is running late because he is walk-in (insert name) home 🙂

cingolimama · 22/01/2023 11:40

This is so great to hear.

afromom · 22/01/2023 11:43

DS18 always does this and has done for years. He often has friends who are girls round and always walks them home/to the bus stop. I don't remember boys doing this for me and my friends when I was a teenager, so when he first started I was really pleasantly surprised and proud of him.

mumof3now2 · 22/01/2023 12:05

My 14 year old does this, even walks them home from
School in the winter

tellmewhentheLangshiplandscoz · 22/01/2023 12:18

As a jaded Old Feminist who has has had a lifetime of seeing and experiencing too many examples of "toxic masculinity " - sorry PP, couldn't resist! - and mum to a DD 14,

this has warmed the cockles of my cold cynical heart.

Thanks to all the awesome mums bringing up good men Flowers

Iceicebabytoocold · 22/01/2023 12:19

the norm in my DCs friendship groups. My DS18 and his mates always make sure the girls have someone to see them home. Never told him to do this, I just think they are street wise savvy.

Nimbostratus100 · 22/01/2023 12:20

I would hope that every group of friends, what ever sex and whatever age all are concerned about everyone getting home safely!

DuplicateUserName · 22/01/2023 12:27

tellmewhentheLangshiplandscoz · 22/01/2023 12:18

As a jaded Old Feminist who has has had a lifetime of seeing and experiencing too many examples of "toxic masculinity " - sorry PP, couldn't resist! - and mum to a DD 14,

this has warmed the cockles of my cold cynical heart.

Thanks to all the awesome mums bringing up good men Flowers

And hopefully some awesome dads too, setting a good example 👏

prettyrainbows · 22/01/2023 12:29

A fabulous example of well brought up young men!

LakeTiticaca · 22/01/2023 12:31

VyeBrator · 22/01/2023 11:27

It's certainly the norm in my DC's friendship groups.

No doubt someone will be along in a minute to talk about toxic masculinity or something.

This was my immediate thought when I read the title 😂
Nothing wrong with young men looking out for their female friends, in my book

Gronkle · 22/01/2023 12:36

My DD is 17, it's the norm here.

Survey99 · 22/01/2023 12:37

Nimbostratus100 · 22/01/2023 12:20

I would hope that every group of friends, what ever sex and whatever age all are concerned about everyone getting home safely!

Exactly. One of ds's friends was jumped when walking home alone after seeing a girl in the group home safely. They should all be responsible to plan everyone gets home safely, and girls should be taught this too.

Nimbostratus100 · 22/01/2023 12:41

yes, boys walking girls home, then walking home alone themselves are vry vulnerable. sadly

Oblomov22 · 22/01/2023 12:42

I like the fact both my boys do it. But I think it happens a bit too much, it's fine on occasion if there is a problem, taxi booked doesn't turn up, but if it seems to be happening quite often then I think girls need to plan better.

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